Lifestyle
Benefits of Eating Raw
Beginning a Year of Raw Foods
For the first time ever, I’m doing back-to-back one-year challenges. Yesterday I completed my one-year daily blogging challenge (and wrote a retrospective of the experience on the final day). Today I’m rolling into Day 1 of an entirely different kind of challenge, which is to be a raw foodist for the 2021 year. While 30-day…
Relational Goals
A nice way to identify goals, especially for the New Year, is to clarify how you’d like to upgrade your relationships with different aspects of life. Then identify and commit to action-based goals that you expect would improve these relationships. For example, you have a relationship with: money your body each key person in your…
Why Socialize at All?
How do you get motivated to reach out and connect with people? What gets you to overcome inertia? What makes you want to risk rejection? Is it worth it to keep sifting through so many mismatches and partial matches? What makes you exert the effort to engage with people socially? What’s your why? I brainstormed…
Hard Cares
Secure Attachment and Investment
In psychology there are three general ways to relate to other people, depending on how you interpret and manage emotional risk. You can avoid deep emotional investments in people (avoidant attachment). You can try to control other people (anxious attachment). You can intelligently bond with people and invest in secure relationships (secure attachment). You can…
How to Commit to a 365-Day Challenge
One way to pick a good 365-day challenge is to think about what would permanently transform your relationship with some aspect of life if you live that one year of your life a bit differently. Even though you’re just doing some specific action or behavior each day, keeping that up for a full year will…
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Can You Trust a Life of Fun?
During my late teens, each time I got caught shoplifting and had to deal with the consequences, my mind would dwell on what I could have done differently. I went over and over different actions I could have taken to avoid the arrest. This helped me get better at shoplifting. Each arrest or near-arrest made…
Your Relationship With Unreasonable Standards
Here’s a simple rule of thumb that I learned at the start of the pandemic: If you think you’re being reasonably cautious, you’re probably taking on too much risk. If you think you’re being unreasonably cautious, you’re probably doing it right. This made sense to me, so I aimed to keep my COVID-prevention standards higher…