Becoming Addiction-Free

How many addictions do you currently have? Are you addicted to smoking, caffeine, sugar, alcohol, any other drugs, the Internet, porn, masturbation, sex, orgasm, gambling, shopping, work, TV, movies, social media, video games, food, or anything else? What behaviors do you perform compulsively, even though they don’t really serve you in the long run? The…

Open Relationships

In this post I’ll share some insider insights into what it’s like to be in an open relationship, mainly from personal experience since Rachelle and I have been in one for more than seven years. Many of my friends are in long-term open relationships too. I’d also like to dispel some myths about open relationships.…

My Favorite Questions for Making Tough Decisions

Sometime you’ll encounter tough decisions that can leave you wallowing in indecision, such as whether to change jobs or careers, end a relationship, move to a new city, or pursue a new lifestyle direction. There are many processes you can use to make intelligent decisions, but all of them have shortcomings when you’re dealing with…

Broken Edges

What do you do when you know something isn’t quite working, such as a job, a creative project, a business idea, or a relationship? How do you turn that inner feeling of misalignment into a practical growth experience, so you can ultimately create or discover a better match? I’ll share a pretty straightforward process that…

Mile Wide, Mile Deep

Have you ever heard the phrase “inch wide, mile deep” with respect to picking an area of focus for your education, career, website, business, etc? The idea here is that you should narrow your focus and concentrate on becoming highly skilled in one particular subfield. Then you’ll be able to carve out a space within…

Solving Problems by Blaming Others

Many times when people get stuck working on some aspect of their personal growth, it’s because they’ve defined their core problem in a way that it can’t really be solved. One of the most common forms of this is when someone defines their problem as a mental or psychological one. I see this all the…

Turning Weaknesses Into Strengths

Some of my most rewarding personal growth explorations have involved turning weaknesses into strengths. Nothing proves to me the value of investing in personal growth more than reflecting upon a strength I can leverage with ease and remembering what my life used to be like when I was weak, timid, ignorant, incompetent, or powerless in…

30 Days of Disneyland – Day 30

On Day 30 (Wednesday), Rachelle and I decided to finish strong, so we spent a full 16 hours at Disneyland. I was really tired at the end, but it felt good to finally cross the finish line. The next morning (Thursday) we met a friend for breakfast at Whole Foods and then drove home to…

30 Days of Disneyland – Day 21

Since experiencing Disneyland from the objective perspective has grown stale, lately I’ve been viewing it through the subjective lens and pondering the events there more symbolically. When I do this, I usually pay attention to whatever seems to stand out in my mind. Broken Systems In the past few days, Rachelle and I have encountered…

30 Days of Disneyland – Day 20

I really enjoyed our 20th day at Disneyland yesterday (Sunday). Rachelle and I had a lot of fun together, especially in the evening when we cracked up laughing while making some silly videos. I didn’t enjoy the experience nearly as much on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday though. I thought about why I enjoy the experience…