25 Years Without a Job

It’s been 25 years since I last had a job working for someone else, so I thought I’d share some reflections on what life is like on the jobless path. Freedom to Choose The most basic benefit of not having a job is exactly what you’d expect. There’s a lot more freedom to choose how…

How to Attract Growth-Oriented Friends

A survey I did a while back revealed that about 40% of my readers have zero friends they’d consider growth-oriented, and another 20% only have one such friend. Many people who are attracted to my blog don’t have much social support for their personal growth pursuits. They often feel isolated as they explore different ways…

How to Tell if You Have a Healthy Brain

Neurological imbalances can show up as psychological, behavioral, and motivational problems. If we try to treat these problems at the psychological or behavioral levels, however, we can’t effectively cure them because the problems have physical causes, such as a buildup of toxicity in the brain. It’s my opinion that a wide swath of personal development…

Becoming Addiction-Free

How many addictions do you currently have? Are you addicted to smoking, caffeine, sugar, alcohol, any other drugs, the Internet, porn, masturbation, sex, orgasm, gambling, shopping, work, TV, movies, social media, video games, food, or anything else? What behaviors do you perform compulsively, even though they don’t really serve you in the long run? The…

Open Relationships

In this post I’ll share some insider insights into what it’s like to be in an open relationship, mainly from personal experience since Rachelle and I have been in one for more than seven years. Many of my friends are in long-term open relationships too. I’d also like to dispel some myths about open relationships.…

My Favorite Questions for Making Tough Decisions

Sometime you’ll encounter tough decisions that can leave you wallowing in indecision, such as whether to change jobs or careers, end a relationship, move to a new city, or pursue a new lifestyle direction. There are many processes you can use to make intelligent decisions, but all of them have shortcomings when you’re dealing with…

Broken Edges

What do you do when you know something isn’t quite working, such as a job, a creative project, a business idea, or a relationship? How do you turn that inner feeling of misalignment into a practical growth experience, so you can ultimately create or discover a better match? I’ll share a pretty straightforward process that…

Mile Wide, Mile Deep

Have you ever heard the phrase “inch wide, mile deep” with respect to picking an area of focus for your education, career, website, business, etc? The idea here is that you should narrow your focus and concentrate on becoming highly skilled in one particular subfield. Then you’ll be able to carve out a space within…

Solving Problems by Blaming Others

Many times when people get stuck working on some aspect of their personal growth, it’s because they’ve defined their core problem in a way that it can’t really be solved. One of the most common forms of this is when someone defines their problem as a mental or psychological one. I see this all the…

Turning Weaknesses Into Strengths

Some of my most rewarding personal growth explorations have involved turning weaknesses into strengths. Nothing proves to me the value of investing in personal growth more than reflecting upon a strength I can leverage with ease and remembering what my life used to be like when I was weak, timid, ignorant, incompetent, or powerless in…