Meeting in Person
Note: This page is specifically for people who are interested in meeting with me in person, not just online, so the only reason to read it is if you'd like to meet face to face at some point.
Let me 'splain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up...
Since our time on earth is limited, I believe it makes sense for us to favor connections that are likely to have the greatest mutual benefit. So this page has two primary aims:
- Encourage people with compatible desires and interests to feel confident enough to reach out and connect in person when possible.
- Discourage meet-up invites from people with incompatible desires and expectations.
What I Like
Deep conversations - I enjoy real conversations with people who have interesting insights to share. I like people who appreciate open, honest, and direct communication.
Fun invitations - I embrace new experiences, so I usually say yes to invitations to explore something I've never tried before, as long as it meshes well with my values. Fencing, fighting, torture, revenge, giants, monsters, chases, escapes, true love, miracles... that sort of thing.
Learning experiences - Same goes for educational experiences, such as the opportunity to learn a new skill.
Cuddle invites - I'm a shameless cuddleslut. I rarely turn down a heart-centered cuddle invite (women only please). I like cuddle parties too.
Open relationship explorations - After having been in a closed relationship for much of my adult life, I've been on a wonderful open relationship journey since 2009. It's great to connect with others who have similar relationship values or who are just beginning to explore the path of openness in their relationships. I'm fine connecting with people who still prefer possessive relationships, as long as they don't bring jealousy and possessiveness into their connections with me.
Music - I'd like to get better at composing electronic music, but I'm not very skilled at it yet, so it's great to learn from people with more experience. You can listen to some of my compositions on my SoundCloud page, which were posted during my initial 30-day trial of learning music. "Wanderlust - Enhanced" is probably the best one.
Creative people - I like spending time with people who exude a lot of creative energy, such as artists, musicians, writers, etc. We often inspire each other to create even more.
Travelers - It's nice to learn about far-away places from people who enjoy traveling. I love traveling, and I sometimes get inspired to take more trips when people tell me about the places they've appreciated.
People of strong character - I like spending time with people who have a strong sense of their values and ethics. In a world of wishy-washy values, it's refreshing to enjoy the company of people of honor and integrity. A big part of my own path of development in my early 20s involved overcoming a criminal-oriented mindset and doing my best to become a man of honor. People who've undergone a similar transformation feel like kindred spirits to me.
Vegans - I've been a committed ethical vegan since 1997 and expect to remain one for life. I was a vegetarian for 4 years before that. In terms of values compatibility, I love the chance to connect with other vegans.
People who radiate positive energy - You are wonderful. I love spending time with people who can light up a room with their positive energy and good humor. Some of my best friends have been stand-up comedians.
Huggers - I like spending time with people who are kind, caring, compassionate, loving, sensitive, affectionate, and energetically open -- basically the friendly hugger types. I'm definitely a hugger myself.
Canadians - I don't know what it is about Canadians, but I just find them completely awesome. I've been to five Canadian provinces so far. I especially like going there for the various Fringe Theatre Festivals.
Princess Bride fans - If you love dropping random quotes from The Princess Bride, your awesomeness is inconceivable. :)
What I'd Rather Avoid
Free coaching - People who want to meet just so they can pick my brain or get free coaching for their life challenges... I'd rather enjoy an iocane smoothie. Don't get me wrong... I love helping people grow, but I also want to have a life. If word gets out that I'm doing free coaching for anyone who asks, then it's nothing but work, work, work all the time.
Scrooges - People whose #1 concern in life is how much money they make... kill me quickly. Do you want me to send you back to where you were? Unemployed, in Greenland?
Users - People who send me inauthentic, phony connection invites when their true agenda is to convince me to promote something for them (a new book, a new CD, etc)... The first thing you lose will be your feet below the ankles, then your hands at the wrists. Next, your nose. Your ears you keep, and I'll tell you why: So that every shriek of every child at seeing your hideousness will be yours to cherish. Every babe that weeps at your approach, every woman who cries out, "Dear God, what is that thing?" will echo in your perfect ears.
Religious nutters - I prefer to socialize with free thinkers, leaving the religious zealots to wallow in freakish misery forever.
Emotionally closed people - I like spending time with open-hearted people, not with people who are heartless, apathetic, emotionally distant, aloof, dishonest, robotic, or shallow. People in masks cannot be trusted.
Drama addicts - I like intensity at times, but I'm allergic to needless emotional drama. I'd rather avoid people who perpetually dwell in the Fire Swamp.
Depressed people - Friendless, brainless, helpless, hopeless! I myself am often surprised at life's little quirks, but I prefer to socialize with people who maintain a positive outlook on life as opposed to those who believe that life is pain.
People who oppose open relationships - I'm fine with people who prefer monogamy -- please understand I hold you in the highest respect -- but I'm not interested in meeting people who take issue with my years-long path of openness. That does put a damper on our relationship.
People who don't like Depeche Mode - WTF is wrong with you?
Factors That Don't Matter
Your finances - I don't care if you're broke, rich, or somewhere in between. That makes no difference. I want to get to know you, not your bank account. I have friends all across the financial spectrum. I've also explored a lot of that spectrum myself.
Your sexual orientation - I have friends who are straight, gay, bi, transgender, and cyborg. None of that matters to me. But if you expect me to be politically correct all the time, that would be absolutely, totally, and in all other ways inconceivable.
The color of your skin - You're just stalling now. I'm colorblind, both literally and metaphorically. I don't care what race or nationality you are. I care about how human you are on the inside.
How well you speak English - As long as we can basically understand each other, that's good enough for me. I just want you to feel you're doing well.
Your age - You guessed wrong. I have friends all across the age spectrum. Your physical age is of no consequence.
Your weight or fitness level - You fell victim to one of the classic blunders -- the most famous of which is "never get involved in a land war in Asia" -- but only slightly less well-known is this: you are not your body. If you have issues with your body image, please leave that sort of baggage behind. I'm interested in the being inside the shell... or rather, the consciousness that owns the shell.
What I Enjoy Doing When I First Meet Someone
Meeting for conversation - It's a bit mundane, but it works. You can buy me a chamomile tea... or a doppio espresso... depending on the type of interaction you want to have. :)
Walking around Vegas - Sometimes it's nice to share an urban walk around an interesting location like the Las Vegas Strip while I get to know someone. I often do this with people who are new to the city since I know the Strip extremely well, having lived in Vegas since 2004.
Cuddle sessions - Cuddling is one of my favorite activities. I've cuddled with many different women, sometimes with a few at a time. I might one day go as high as five, but I really don't know what that would do to you. Cuddling is a beautiful way to create a strong heart connection and to get to know someone on an emotional level. This being our first try, I'll use the lowest setting. Tip: I adore head scratchings.
Fun activities - Sharing a cool activity together can be a nice way to connect. I'm pretty rusty at tennis, but I play a lot of disc golf. I've been to some concerts when one of the band members invited me to attend.
Educational experiences - How marvelous. I love to learn, so being invited to an interesting lecture or some other kind of learning experience is an opportunity I generally like.
What I Prefer to Do After I Get to Know Someone
Masterminding - I get occasional invites to join people's mastermind groups, but I need to get to know the people first before I can commit to that sort of thing.
Business opportunities - Go ahead... Offer me money... Power, too, promise me that... Offer me everything I ask for... It's all premature solicitation. That kind of cold-calling approach is too abrupt. I'm bombarded with this kind of stuff almost daily over the Internet. If we become friends, we might end up doing some business or creative projects together if it makes sense. Let's allow that to unfold in its own good time though.
Cuddle-sleeping together - That's very comforting, but I'm afraid you'll just have to wait. Sometimes I've agreed to cuddle-sleep with a woman before I've met her if it seems like we'll have a good connection, but usually I prefer to get to know her first. First I need to make sure you aren't one of those psycho stalker types (there have been a few). If we like cuddling together, then cuddle-sleeping or anything beyond that can be explored later... if it aligns with our mutual desires -- and if you're not a crazy person!
Massage - I love giving and receiving massages. The rumors that my massages are inconceivably good, are true. That said, I prefer to limit massages to women with whom I've enjoyed a really nice heart connection first.
Pinning you down on the bed and shagging you rotten while you moan uncontrollably - Do you always begin conversations this way? I'm a sex positive person, but one-night stands don't interest me. First-night stands are a different story. Fair warning -- you're gonna get addicted to it, especially the part with the raspberries. And yes, you can choose your slave name. And no, I'm not gonna blog about it, so your friends and family need never know that you're so naughty, except perhaps when you quietly remember what we did together and they start wondering why you have such a huge grin on your face. ;)
Three-person relationships - If you're a growth-oriented, vegan, bisexual woman with a sense of adventure, and the idea of exploring a three-person relationship sounds like something you'd love to try, let's discuss possibilities for exploring together.
If you think we'd be a good match for hanging out in person based on what I've shared here, you can get in touch via my contact form. Please let me know that you've read this page, and tell me about yourself and your interest in meeting up. If you've already picked a slave name, let me know that too.
On the other hand, if this page scared you off and there's now a thought bubble floating above your head with the letters WTF inside, well then... obviously we wouldn't be a good match for each other. Look on the bright side though -- we just saved ourselves some unnecessary awkwardness. If your situation changes and you eventually become a less boring person, you know where to find me.
The battle of wits has begun. It ends when you decide and we both drink.