Shutting Down the Forums (Blog)

[Million Dollar Man]

Thanks for everything Steve! You helped me realize I was to GOOD
for a regular job! Have a great time..and lots of fun in 2012!
Let's party like it's 1999!!!

[Andrew Brunelle]

Would there be a way to get these forums to go somewhere else? Or we could all go somewhere else...but I doubt any forum would be of this quality ever again, so I guess for now my forum days are pretty much over.

[Laurenaus]

honestly can Erin take over admin duties?? there really is no forum like this one i agree with Andrew, the combination of quality, format and the unique mix of members this forum attracts is one i have never seen

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Andrew Brunelle

Would there be a way to get these forums to go somewhere else? Or we could all go somewhere else...but I doubt any forum would be of this quality ever again, so I guess for now my forum days are pretty much over.

Sparklit has an interesting hosted forum service. The monthly charge depends on the page views. I don't know how many page views this forum gets a month. (Steve? Would you be willing to share that?) I've been curious to know what kind of traffic the site actually supports.

I know the forums there are not hard to set up. If someone wanted to set up a forum, this would be one easy way to do it.

ActiveBoard: Forum hosting, messageboard software - create a free forum

[Erin Pavlina]

I agree with Steve's decision and his reasoning for closing down the forums. We realize it's a valuable place for so many people, and I hope everyone will find and make connections in their offline world and stay in touch with friends they've made online.

people have asked me if I am willing to host the forums on my site, but I am not. It was a headache for Steve and he had the technical expertise to maintain the site. I do not, nor would I want to learn.

I myself derived a great deal of value from the forum. I've met many friends here that have become friends offline. We will find new ways to stay in touch. You can friend me on facebook if you like, and don't forget that Steve still posts on Google+.

And remember that every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end. Go forth boldly. Seek out those around you who are into conscious growth. Learn and practice growth together.

[cacheborn]

I will say it again. This is one way I would never want to break a party.

Thank you Steve, Erin, all the Mods and all the wonderful people here. This is one forum I kept going to and it made me a much better person.

[MovingForward]

Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina

I agree with Steve's decision and his reasoning for closing down the forums.
And remember that every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end. Go forth boldly. Seek out those around you who are into conscious growth. Learn and practice growth together.

I keep hearing Closing Time in my head[I]...every new begining comes from some other beginning's end.Thanks for all you have done here!

[Lil Chris]

Originally Posted by cacheborn

I will say it again. This is one way I would never want to break a party.

Thank you Steve, Erin, all the Mods and all the wonderful people here. This is one forum I kept going to and it made me a much better person.

I'll second that! I will miss this place...

[cacheborn]

Originally Posted by Lil Chris

I'll second that! I will miss this place...

Chris, thanks for everything dude. I had a great time modding with you.

[Lil Chris]

Originally Posted by cacheborn

Chris, thanks for everything dude. I had a great time modding with you.

Thanks Cache, I feel the same way. I'll catch you on G+ & FB! Take care man...

Thanks for the comment & rep, Beingist!

[TonyToneTone]

Thanks Steve for everything! I wish you all the best!

[johnnyg]

Sadsauce, there's a lot of good material here. Seems to be a common theme, someone provides something awesome for a community, eventually burns out on it, and then something explodes and they pull completely out. After reading the other thread it's totally understandable that you're salty on the whole thing though.

[RaymondArotin]

Admittedly, I really didn't use the forum too often. There were a few times that I found great advice about SBI and books to read, like "Millionaire Fastlane" from other forum members. I was very grateful for these recommendations from like-minded individuals.

I get the most value, though, from Steve's blog articles. Keep 'em comin'!

I think when you have so many different opinions and agendas in one place, it's hard to make all of that into a cohesive "whole". When a forum deals with just one type of thing, like a piece of software, for example - Adobe Photoshop, then the forum posts can easily be kept on track. They either deal with real objective functions of the software, or they don't.

Personal development, though, seems to have so many different aspects and avenues to go down. I wonder how much of it is subjective and how much is objective?

Well... anyway... I'm rambling here, so I'll just end by saying "Thank you" to all the members who posted good solid advice that helped me to get steered in the right direction.

[NicB]

Why? What happened exactly? The blog article about it was kinda cryptic.

Anybody got any other forums that they recommend?

I like this one: MerlinWorld's Forums: Discussion forums on the Subconscious Mind, Law of Attraction • Index page
It's small but i like it.

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by NicB

Why? What happened exactly? The blog article about it was kinda cryptic.

It's just time to move on! It happens. It used to happen to me every few weeks. Sometimes you just get the urge, and it's time to make a (sometimes drastic) change. I'm all for sudden upheaval. It leaves you in an entirely new place, and that's very exciting.

[mattyblu]

So it goes.

[Beingist]

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

It's just time to move on! It happens. It used to happen to me every few weeks. Sometimes you just get the urge, and it's time to make a (sometimes drastic) change. I'm all for sudden upheaval. It leaves you in an entirely new place, and that's very exciting.

I'm wont to agree. Long goodbyes signal attachment, anyway.

[JanT]

Thanks for all you have done Steve - wishing you and yours a wonderful new journey from here!

Jan

[rei]

This place has held high regard for me. I've gotten tons of value from the forums, and though I've taken my PD efforts afk recently I wouldn't have made the progress I've made without this place.

So thanks for allowing it to be, and I'm sorry to see it go but everything changes so I'll roll with it.

Thanks for holding important space for me while I needed it.

[Weena]

Originally Posted by Laurenaus

from the Angela Fan Club (Criseyde), and PS lots of people DO NOT KNOW WHO ANGELA IS OR FEEL A LOSS FROM HER BEING BANNED, this wouldn't have concluded the way it did.

Jesus Lauren! Do you realise you are pulling facts out of your bum? Angela was invited to pdforyou.com. She is not the owner. She eventually joined the council as other people did. I've been there as long as she has. What you read is Steve' s assumptions and emotional reaction to these assumptions. Get your information right before saying things like these. As ALG said before, we are on Facebook, Google+ and other forums... helloooooo basic freedom for us to hang wherever we like???? We do not "belong" to this site. We contribute to this site. See the difference?

[Curious cat]

I've said this before ... But thanks again for this forum. I've enjoyed it in my brief time here.

I was sad to witness how everything unfolded yesterday and at the idea of this forum being shutdown, BUT today i am looking forward to new adventures! Happy new endeavours to all!

[ButterflyWoman]

Originally Posted by Laurenaus

PS lots of people DO NOT KNOW WHO ANGELA IS OR FEEL A LOSS FROM HER BEING BANNED, this wouldn't have concluded the way it did.

Steve was already resolved to do this. Stop laying blame on forum members. This is 100% Steve's decision.

[Laurenaus]

Originally Posted by Weena

Jesus Lauren! Do you realise you are pulling facts out of your bum? Angela was invited to pdforyou.com. She is not the owner. She eventually joined the council as other people did. I've been there as long as she has. What you read is Steve' s assumptions and emotional reaction to these assumptions. Get your information right before saying things like these. As ALG said before, we are on Facebook, Google+ and other forums... helloooooo basic freedom for us to hang wherever we like???? We do not "belong" to this site. We contribute to this site. See the difference?

I never said Angela was the owner of the site did I??? I was disagreeing with the way she went about secretly trying to recruit people from this site over to the other one and the results of this are that some people felt left out because they took it personally they were not invited although I myself can care less, and Steve feeling frustrated over this which became the "proverbial straw that broke the camels back". i was also frustrated that Steve was announcing that he was shutting down the forums which is a big deal and is affecting people here, and then all the posts I saw were about how great Angela is etc etc. Right now an important forum I have visited everyday for 3 years is shutting down so I can care less if one person who contributed was banned especially when there are SO MANY OTHER AMAZING people here that contribute. If I was Steve I would probably feel just as frustrated and the member a few posts up from Sydney articulated it perfectly, I completely agree with his comments about the situation. Good luck at pd4u! Seeya!!!

[Weena]

Originally Posted by Laurenaus

I never said Angela was the owner of the site did I??? I was disagreeing with the way she went about secretly trying to recruit people from this site over to the other one and the results of this are that some people felt left out because they took it personally they were not invited although I myself can care less, and Steve feeling frustrated over this which became the "proverbial straw that broke the camels back". i was also frustrated that Steve was announcing that he was shutting down the forums which is a big deal and is affecting people here, and then all the posts I saw were about how great Angela is etc etc. Right now an important forum I have visited everyday for 3 years is shutting down so I can care less if one person who contributed was banned especially when there are SO MANY OTHER AMAZING people here that contribute. If I was Steve I would probably feel just as frustrated and the member a few posts up from Sydney articulated it perfectly, I completely agree with his comments about the situation. Good luck at pd4u! Seeya!!!

So, when you connect with someone from here on Facebook you secretly recruit them to Facebook instead of Steve s site? Because it's exactly the same thing.

And yep, good luck to you too, and "see ya!" (obviously not at pdforyou where some of your "amazing friends" are hanging, by the way).

Bye bye everyone.

[Savage]

Please carry on while I place a few explosives here. Nothing to be concerned about.

[Wax Frog]

Originally Posted by cortocabezas1111

You might reconsider if you stop to think about the amount of traffic you get here, and how much of that is solely because of the forums. Honestly, I haven't read a pavlina blog article in forever, and whenever I come to this site, I go immediately to the forums. I feel like it'd be almost the same as Dunkin Donuts getting rid of all their coffee and donuts and expecting to still make a profit. I don't go to Dunkin Donuts for the turkey sandwiches. I don't come here for the blog articles. This site was all about the forum. Now that's over so I guess the site's over.

QFT (funny, first time I ever use that here will apparently be the last)

[Plays With Life]

Originally Posted by Savage

Please carry on while I place a few explosives here. Nothing to be concerned about.

*tosses Steve a lighter and walks around whistling innocently*

[Midwinter Mist]

It intrigues me how 2012 will have many changes. I see it here, I see it in myself, I see it in friends and family and even in strangers around me. Things are shifting, and liberation will kick ass!

Farewell, amigos and amigas! This midwinter, this mist will finally be drifting.

By the way, Steve, take it easy on the explosives! I understand the preparations, but what's with the claymores!? Watch where y'all tread, now.

[Lioness]

If you really read the blog and the link to the one about tolerance vs. love you will see Steve is not just reacting to what some former members did. This decision was a long time coming. If you fell out of love with your gf/bf, would you force yourself to continue the relationship just because they wanted you to?

There is a tipping point where providing value for others is trumped by "do I really want to do this anymore? And is this the best use of my time?" Obviously the answer became no.

I really appreciated the forums and would like to thank Steve for providing them, but I fully embrace his decision now. It sets a very powerful example.

Originally Posted by Plays With Life

Sparklit has an interesting hosted forum service. The monthly charge depends on the page views. I don't know how many page views this forum gets a month.

On the other board Steve said: "The reality is that even though this place gets tons of lurkers, in an average day we only have about 400 members visiting. And many of those 400 don't post very often."

I don't know what "tons" breaks down to in numbers but it sounds like more than enough to pay for itself. Could be a great opportunity for someone. The problem is, how would you capture all those "lurkers" from here?

[Apollia]

Thanks Steve and everyone. Steve, I really appreciate all the trouble you went to to keep this forum going as long as you did.

In the brief time when I ran my own forum years ago, I felt so burdened by it and I was so relieved when I finally couldn't continue it anymore (thanks to the social networking site it was on changing its rules).

My forum had been taking way too much time/energy away from things that I felt would probably, down the road, contribute a lot more value to people (and improve my own life as well) than if I continued unhappily forcing myself into a role I just wasn't naturally suited to, or even really drawn to (except in theory).

So, I sympathize a lot with your blog post and totally support you in your decision to close the forum.

I look forward to all the awesome things you'll be creating in the future. Thanks for everything.


I was too shy/busy/etc. to post as much as I otherwise might have here, and no one here knows me very well, but, thanks to everyone for making this forum such an awesome, fascinating, helpful place.

Best wishes and hugs (if desired) to everyone, including the banned folks.

Apollia