Helping People Surpass You (Blog)

[Savage]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Steve Pavlina's blog:

Helping People Surpass You

[Mounds]

If everyone held this attitude, imagine what we could accomplish!

[danas]

I like this article
I am single and looking but at least 3 babies in the world exist bc I intentionally set up their parents (who were very unlikely to meet otherwise)
I am very proud of that.

In my career, one of the country's up & coming art stars was my student, and I see my influence in his work. Im very proud of that too.

Now I have a friend who surpassed me career wise, and they are much more well connected then I am (connection are everything in this business)
and my first urge was to refer my dealers & collectors to them, bc I like to help, but something stopped me. I ask myself if they would do the same for me.... They are in a better position then me now and didnt ask for any help
hmm....I guess Im pretty competitive deep down.
But thats also what has always pushed me forward.

Im always giving friends motivational talks, many have told me I inspire them,
But its true, mostly Im in a better position then they are, until Im not anymore.

One of the closest ppl in my life was in quite a down point with lots of problems. Poor with no relationship
I cared so much I shared every but of knowledge I had. Giving long talks on LOA etc...
Today they are a millionare happily married with a beautiful baby. They told me they used all my knowledge
Of course now they inspire me
I wrote today in another thread that the best way to keep something is to share it

[joyfulgrowth]

When I saw that they were eager to learn from the youngest guy in the room and respected what insights I was able to share, it served as a reminder that I need to keep learning from those who’ve learned from me… and never to feel like such an expert that I deny myself access to their valuable lessons.

Thanks for the reminder!

[roxyruby]

this is a great message! all about lifting eachother up and helping eachother out i love it!

I definitely have in mind all the people that have helped me and I don't forget them and plan to pay them back

[votoshka]

This was an interesting article. I actually had to google the word "compersion" cause I'd never heard it before (and I generally have a good vocabulary!!).

There's definitely something to be said for helping people surpass you... to get to that state where you can do so would be fairly significant for many people, because of course it's much easier to help someone get to your level...but actually helping them surpass you is quite different!

I suppose it comes down to recognizing and appreciating the talents of others. Like the piano teacher who recognises a gifted student and helps them become successful in a way the teacher could never become. There is, of course, a great sense of satisfaction of being the person who helped them get there!

I think the thing is though, it's not helping someone surpass you in ALL areas of life. We've all got strengths and weaknesses, so really there's no point in being jealous by helping someone achieve something that we weren't quite able to do, when in other ways, we would undoubtedly always surpass them!

However, helping someone surpass you should be done only if the other person wants it too. I have seen parents who want their kids to surpass them, to achieve what they were never able to achieve etc. etc. and I think it puts the kids in a bad place, if anything! Parents should be able to help and encourage their kids, and cheer for their successes, but never put expectations on the child that the child doesn't have themselves!

[cacheborn]

Great message. In fact, this is the first time I have seen someone give this message. Thanks for sharing.

[ArthurHung]

Wow, can you feel the love? Steve's posts are still the best

I was having a Skype conversation with one of the board members earlier a few days ago, and I shared with him my strongest manifestation abilities:

I'm luckier than most in how I can manifest almost instantly a personal coach who is willing to teach me all the foundations of any skill (abundance/law of attraction, RMT Massage, how to write blog posts, a dance specialist for every type I'm interested in: popping, Bboying, Hip-hop, tutting, Isolations, Groove etc., and really for anything that helps the direction of my passion in life).

The person I was speaking with had been to multiple CGW conventions and easily makes $100 an hour on the regular, and clearly had a thing to teach me how he was evolving his thinking and where he was growing towards (a passive income stream).

I felt we were sharing our best with each other, but there was no conscious intention of helping each other surpass each other. It was one of the best conversations in my life, and yet, after reading this post:

I intend to only attract relationships and conversations where both parties are consciously helping each other surpass each other, and for those other people left over that still want to connect with me but don't do this, have to go through others who will inspire them to do so.

[silvino]

Originally Posted by votoshka

This was an interesting article. I actually had to google the word "compersion" cause I'd never heard it before (and I generally have a good vocabulary!!).

And these words just don't make things easier to translate

Even the ranks for boys scout ..anyway it was interesting to see the differences between different kinds of mindset for scouts organizations. Here is more about being in a group within the troop, with more people of similar ages. Actually you can be a scout until 20/21, as a Rover Scout, after which you have to become a scoutmaster/chief or leave..

but at least if Bob has moved to Portugal, there is as a little bit closer chance to say Hello