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Savage · 11-11-2010, 06:43 PM

I'm sending out another issue of my free newsletter soon (within an hour or two most likely) that includes an article called "How to Deal with Criticism." I had a lot of requests for an article on this topic.

Just thought I'd create a discussion thread for it here since I noticed people often discuss the newsletter articles.

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gloci · 11-11-2010, 11:46 PM

Steve, your a rascal

VinceG · 11-12-2010, 12:34 AM

If you're not being criticized, then you must be doing something wrong.

BillyTheAdult · 11-12-2010, 12:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VinceG

If you're not being criticized, then you must be doing something wrong.

Well that's great that means I must be doing the right thing by not having my picture as my avatar. I know Steve has criticized people for that in the past.

ssandra · 11-12-2010, 01:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VinceG

If you're not being criticized, then you must be doing something wrong.

Really?

I find that if I follow my passion and do what I feel like doing people will support me and applaud me... not criticize me...

of course, I'm not a public figure either... but does that mean I'm doing something wrong?

VinceG · 11-12-2010, 02:21 AM

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Originally Posted by ssandra

Really?

I find that if I follow my passion and do what I feel like doing people will support me and applaud me... not criticize me...

of course, I'm not a public figure either... but does that mean I'm doing something wrong?

Power draws people who want it. I think you'll get bored in the long run if you stick to doing the safe thing. You'll want to play in a larger arena with people who aren't always nice. And they won't be. Personally, I feel like life's too short to not want to play in the biggest arena you can.

ssandra · 11-12-2010, 02:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VinceG

Power draws people who want it. I think you'll get bored in the long run if you stick to doing the safe thing. You'll want to play in a larger arena with people who aren't always nice. And they won't be. Personally, I feel like life's too short to not want to play in the biggest arena you can.

I'm not really doing the safe thing by design to do the safe thing though... I might get more public in the future, but that will be because I want to. And right now, I just don't have any desire to be "famous". Of course, if in the future I will have that desire, I'll just go for it

Mounds · 11-12-2010, 02:34 AM

I think that the more public you are (on display), the more criticism you will receive. Look at it this way though... lets say there are 1000 people that are currently paying attention to you. Maybe 50 of them disagree with you and criticize you. Now let's say there are 100,000 paying attention and 5000 are disagreeing and criticizing. IMO, it's a game of ratios. If 95% like you, then you are doing something right.

eyerings · 11-12-2010, 03:09 AM

I was fumbling with criticism the day before, and voila - wise words from Steve at the right time again.

I posted about how I managed to face one slight criticism myself in my young blog regarding my new art pursuit, right before Steve send out this newsletter. Coincidence never stops with StevePavlina.com!

Curtis2011 · 11-12-2010, 05:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VinceG

If you're not being criticized, then you must be doing something wrong.

I think it is more like...

Quote:

If you're not being criticized, then you probably aren't doing anything.*

Lifeisamazing · 11-12-2010, 10:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mounds

I think that the more public you are (on display), the more criticism you will receive. Look at it this way though... lets say there are 1000 people that are currently paying attention to you. Maybe 50 of them disagree with you and criticize you. Now let's say there are 100,000 paying attention and 5000 are disagreeing and criticizing. IMO, it's a game of ratios. If 95% like you, then you are doing something right.

If one person in the world likes you, then you must be doing something right.

Lifeisamazing · 11-12-2010, 10:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Curtis2011

I think it is more like...

Yes, exactly.

The more you do, the bigger the chance of getting criticisms is.

James81 · 11-12-2010, 12:26 PM

Ok, so I finally registered for the newsletter, but I'm too late for this one. Anybody who got it want to forward it over to me? Send me a PM and I'll give ya my email.

ssandra · 11-12-2010, 03:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by James81

Ok, so I finally registered for the newsletter, but I'm too late for this one. Anybody who got it want to forward it over to me? Send me a PM and I'll give ya my email.

Send it to you!

Daffy Duck · 11-12-2010, 03:53 PM

If you're not being criticized, then you must not have a mother-in-law!

James81 · 11-12-2010, 03:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ssandra

Send it to you!

Thanks Sandra-Dee.

greggsandler · 11-12-2010, 10:00 PM

Does turning your back on negative-minded people who criticize simultaneously block Truth's?

Curtis2011 · 11-15-2010, 01:53 PM

Speaking of criticism, I just got an email last night from someone via my acupuncture site contact form.

This guy apparently hated me, although I've never spoken to him before. He began by insulting my website, then proceeded to tell me all about his previous website on acupuncture that was "so much better" than mine. Turns out this guy was an SBI user several years ago or so he claimed.

I thought it was funny that he criticized my website and thought his was better, when his isn't even around any more. But according to him, my website which is ranked very well for some great keywords, is much worse than his, which probably never ranked for anything and thus why he let it expire (he sent me his url criticizing me for copying his work; I have never seen his work and his website isn't even up anymore).

His email was so negative I actually laughed at it when I first read it. This guy must really, really be suffering or just enjoy trying to make others suffer. Actually I think he is just jealous that I have achieved more with my acupuncture-related site than he ever did.

This was actually the first very negative feedback I've ever gotten from my contact form. Usually I get a few "thank you's" for the content of the website. I think all of my previous positive criticism/remarks are what helped me laugh off this negative one. I know for a fact that I have helped at least a few people with my website, as they have told me so. If one guy has a stick up his ass and wants to take it out on me, he won't be sending me anything but a good laugh

even if he tries to ruin my day.

Daffy Duck · 11-15-2010, 03:46 PM

Wow Curtis, that guy showed textboom symptoms of being ENVIOUS. I'm just guessing, but he's probably mad at himself for trying to do what you did, but he failed at it.

Curtis2011 · 11-15-2010, 03:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daffy Duck

Wow Curtis, that guy showed textboom symptoms of being ENVIOUS. I'm just guessing, but he's probably mad at himself for trying to do what you did, but he failed at it.

That's the first impression I had of it. Thankfully I feel as if my website is actaully providing some value to people who find it, so I feel confident in brushing off criticism like that as simple negativity for one reason or another.

HiImJeremy · 11-17-2010, 10:04 AM

hey guys, i signed up maybe a day or two late so i didn't get the issue of this, would someone be able to send me the email via private message? i'll give my email address.

Thanks guys!

OnlineRockstar · 11-18-2010, 05:25 AM

+1

I just signed up for everything and missed this newsletter. If someone could PM me it or is willing to exchange emails, I'd appreciate it!

beautyscientist · 11-22-2010, 09:11 PM

If you aren't being criticised it is most likely a sign that you don't spend much in internet forum discussions.

The most revealing criticism I ever received was when a new guy from a big big company joined my lab. He was pretty critical of the whole set up across the board. He criticised me for being weak technically, having poor management skills and being disorganised.

The first two criticisms had as much impact as a lawyer's cease and desist letter on a Somali pirate. But I was furious at his suggestions I was disorganised. How dare he? What an outrage! When I analysed it needless to say I was confident on the first two issues, but was blustering everyone including myself on the organisation front. I got hold of some time management books, and also decided that this guy was well worth getting to know better. We remain good friends some 15 years later.

Criticism is such a valuable gift and it is one so few of us dare to give often enough.

RyanVC · 02-23-2011, 03:35 AM

Hey everyone,

I'm new to the forum. Would anyone be willing to send me a copy of this newsletter?

My email is combine brains @gmail.com, or feel free to PM me.

Let me know, I'd appreciate it, thanks!

11-11-2010, 06:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
Savage Master Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Las Vegas, NV Posts: 5,988	How to Deal With Criticism (Newsletter) I'm sending out another issue of my free newsletter soon (within an hour or two most likely) that includes an article called "How to Deal with Criticism." I had a lot of requests for an article on this topic. Just thought I'd create a discussion thread for it here since I noticed people often discuss the newsletter articles. If you want to get the newsletter, you can sign up here (just be sure to confirm your email address): Personal Development Newsletter There's no archive of past issues, so if you miss it, you miss it. __________________ Steve Pavlina www.StevePavlina.com Join me on: Twitter \| Google+

11-15-2010, 01:53 PM	#18 (permalink)
Curtis2011 Family Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,950	Speaking of criticism, I just got an email last night from someone via my acupuncture site contact form. This guy apparently hated me, although I've never spoken to him before. He began by insulting my website, then proceeded to tell me all about his previous website on acupuncture that was "so much better" than mine. Turns out this guy was an SBI user several years ago or so he claimed. I thought it was funny that he criticized my website and thought his was better, when his isn't even around any more. But according to him, my website which is ranked very well for some great keywords, is much worse than his, which probably never ranked for anything and thus why he let it expire (he sent me his url criticizing me for copying his work; I have never seen his work and his website isn't even up anymore). His email was so negative I actually laughed at it when I first read it. This guy must really, really be suffering or just enjoy trying to make others suffer. Actually I think he is just jealous that I have achieved more with my acupuncture-related site than he ever did. This was actually the first very negative feedback I've ever gotten from my contact form. Usually I get a few "thank you's" for the content of the website. I think all of my previous positive criticism/remarks are what helped me laugh off this negative one. I know for a fact that I have helped at least a few people with my website, as they have told me so. If one guy has a stick up his ass and wants to take it out on me, he won't be sending me anything but a good laugh even if he tries to ruin my day. Last edited by Curtis2011; 11-15-2010 at 01:56 PM.

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11-11-2010, 11:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
gloci Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Longford, Ireland Posts: 238	Steve, your a rascal

11-12-2010, 12:34 AM	#3 (permalink)
VinceG Family Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 3,703	If you're not being criticized, then you must be doing something wrong.

11-12-2010, 02:34 AM	#8 (permalink)
Mounds Family Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 3,853	I think that the more public you are (on display), the more criticism you will receive. Look at it this way though... lets say there are 1000 people that are currently paying attention to you. Maybe 50 of them disagree with you and criticize you. Now let's say there are 100,000 paying attention and 5000 are disagreeing and criticizing. IMO, it's a game of ratios. If 95% like you, then you are doing something right.

11-12-2010, 03:09 AM	#9 (permalink)
eyerings Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 11	I was fumbling with criticism the day before, and voila - wise words from Steve at the right time again. I posted about how I managed to face one slight criticism myself in my young blog regarding my new art pursuit, right before Steve send out this newsletter. Coincidence never stops with StevePavlina.com!

11-12-2010, 12:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
James81 Banned Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,690	Ok, so I finally registered for the newsletter, but I'm too late for this one. Anybody who got it want to forward it over to me? Send me a PM and I'll give ya my email.

11-12-2010, 03:53 PM	#15 (permalink)
Daffy Duck Banned Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,001	If you're not being criticized, then you must not have a mother-in-law!

11-12-2010, 10:00 PM	#17 (permalink)
greggsandler Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 21	Does turning your back on negative-minded people who criticize simultaneously block Truth's?

11-15-2010, 03:46 PM	#19 (permalink)
Daffy Duck Banned Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,001	Wow Curtis, that guy showed textboom symptoms of being ENVIOUS. I'm just guessing, but he's probably mad at himself for trying to do what you did, but he failed at it.

11-17-2010, 10:04 AM	#21 (permalink)
HiImJeremy Family Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Australia Posts: 1,262	hey guys, i signed up maybe a day or two late so i didn't get the issue of this, would someone be able to send me the email via private message? i'll give my email address. Thanks guys!

11-18-2010, 05:25 AM	#22 (permalink)
OnlineRockstar Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 2	+1 I just signed up for everything and missed this newsletter. If someone could PM me it or is willing to exchange emails, I'd appreciate it!

11-22-2010, 09:11 PM	#23 (permalink)
beautyscientist Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: UK Posts: 398	If you aren't being criticised it is most likely a sign that you don't spend much in internet forum discussions. The most revealing criticism I ever received was when a new guy from a big big company joined my lab. He was pretty critical of the whole set up across the board. He criticised me for being weak technically, having poor management skills and being disorganised. The first two criticisms had as much impact as a lawyer's cease and desist letter on a Somali pirate. But I was furious at his suggestions I was disorganised. How dare he? What an outrage! When I analysed it needless to say I was confident on the first two issues, but was blustering everyone including myself on the organisation front. I got hold of some time management books, and also decided that this guy was well worth getting to know better. We remain good friends some 15 years later. Criticism is such a valuable gift and it is one so few of us dare to give often enough.

02-23-2011, 03:35 AM	#24 (permalink)
RyanVC Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 1	Hey everyone, I'm new to the forum. Would anyone be willing to send me a copy of this newsletter? My email is combine brains @gmail.com, or feel free to PM me. Let me know, I'd appreciate it, thanks!

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