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| Not good... my RPG game analogy has been widely misunderstood and it seems I've created more confusion then clarity... that was not my intention, heh. To briefly explain: My analogy probably wasn't as suitable as I thought it was for someone who isn't me (ie. I understand what I mean, but unless you have the related knowledge I have, no one else will Also, I still see people looking at polarity from a dualistic perspective and confusing the "why" with the "how" (something you don't want to do since if you do, all you get is confusion... trust me, been there done that So ahh, just hold that thought, guys. When I get a chance I'll make some more replies and hopefully clear all of these things up (at least, I'll try). In the mean time, I highly recommend using journaling as a problem solving tool and as a means to create clarity when it comes to polarity (hey, that rhymed Oh and Michael, with me around, expect more game-related analogies (and considering how popular it is, we don't want to be leaving World of Warcraft out).
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| When you mix polarities like that, you're going to get a lot of cancellation. In the long run your lightwork and darkwork will interfere with each other. It's extremely unlikely that you'll be able to keep them so contained. They can't help but interact. For example, in your social interactions, others will get an intuitive hit that your motives aren't pure, and they'll be less likely to trust you. They'll get the feeling that something isn't right about you, and they'll hold back on bringing you opportunities if they have the chance to deal with someone with a more obvious polarity. Even darkworkers are easier to trust because their motives and actions tend to be clear and consistent. As for the proof you seek, the only possible proof must come from personal experience. Words typed on a screen are only content, but lightworking and darkworking are about how you use your energy. Words can only serve as a pointer to the experience but can never effectively convey the full essence of it, nor provide adequate proof of it. You seem convinced that mixing polarities is ideal, so "go big" down that path if you think it's best. The most likely outcome though is that by mixing polarities, you're going to hold back on your own growth in consciousness because raising your awareness would actually threaten the delicate balance you're trying to maintain. Your dedication to your life purpose will be much less intense than it would be if you polarize. Polarization can lead to across-the-board changes to get your whole life pointing in a singular direction rather than having some parts of it devoted to helping you and other parts devoted to helping others. |
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| I have some questions about darkworkers 1. How do darkworkers raise their level of consciousness? 2. Can darkworkers tell the truth all the time. ex: if a darkworker gets in trouble by lets just say stealing and the police officer asks the darkworker if he/she stole what ever it was that was stolen then wouldn't it be in the best interest of the darkworker to lie? 3. My brother is a person who is not that motivated by money or power but everything he does is for personal gain. How would this work? How should he focus on personal growth? 4. Can a darkworker feel connected to all other beings. Since in subjective reality all living beings are apart of me. I hope someone can help me clear some of this confusion up because I have a good grasp on lightworkers but not so much on darkworkers. I don't want to polarize with all this confusion still in my mind. |
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It seems to me -- and again, I'm still just describing my intuition here, I could be quite wrong -- but it seems to me that if you're cold and heartless on the inside, and love only yourself, as a darkworker presumably must, then you're going to be lonely and alienated, regardless of how much you help people externally. You can help other people as much as you want, but if you don't <i>care</i> about them, then they're going to pick up on that, and they won't care about you, either. Lonliness and isolation follows. If a darkworker starts helping people, and then suddenly finds that s/he <i>does</i> start caring about others, genuinely -- then the lonliness and alienation will indeed fall away. But then, of course, they won't be a darkworker any more! Maybe this second option is what you mean when you talk about darkworkers and lightworkers headed for the same place...? |
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| As with anyone, it is a choice to polarize to light or dark, or the choice of not polarizing is perfectly valid. So whichever choice you make, you have to live with the consequences of that choice. Once you reach the highest state of consciousness, where you are one with the world, I do not think the polarization will matter so much, at enlightenment. Although I believe enlightenment is biased towards lightworkers, as it has the term "light" in it. Let us all become enlightened and enjoy the experience full throttle. Peace. |
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when polarized, it is much is easier to make choices, first, and then justify those choices. and there is a feeling of peace/happiness in those decisions and actions. I have a very good frnd who is a darkworker (which I did not until now). I did not understand why he behaved in a certain manner sometimes. But thats how one feels when looking at a more polarized person amidst a sea of mixed polarity folks. Reading posts on polarization has made me realize that in fact, he was much more polarized than many other people. Which is why his actions left someone like me, who was mixing polarities, confused. Must add that he is very predictable, for example, he does NOT have ego issues with anyone. And does not have "expectations" from others and expects vice-versa. His "motives and actions tend to be clear and consistent." |
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| @Jeff: It sounds like you've never experienced the darkworker mindset from the inside. It's far from lonely and isolated. That's the picture commonly presented on TV, but the reality is rather different. In my late teens when my behavior was extremely immoral, I had tons of fun, plenty of friends, and abundant social outlets. I was actually very happy. Even though people around me knew I was shoplifting daily, cheating in school, and plotting various schemes, they were drawn to my energy. Some even came along to watch, and people always wanted to know what I was up to. Rather than inducing people to fear or avoid me, it had just the opposite effect. People would question my morals, and then they'd turn around and invite me to grab a slice of pizza with them. No one, not even the most ethical or religious friends I knew, turned their backs on me. However, I was taking too many risks in a way that wasn't sustainable, and that eventually led to a crash. But if I'd been more aware of what I was doing, even on that dark path I was on, it would have been possible to continue. Maybe it's the same kind of mechanism that causes people to fall into abusive relationships. Certain people get drawn in by the abuser's energy, and they can't turn away from it, even though it seems logical to do so. So rather than being lonely and isolated, my experience of the dark side was just the opposite. Even on the inside I didn't normally feel alone or depressed. What made me feel depressed back then was when I overdid it, got arrested too many times, and had to stop. But that was due to the poor outlet I chose rather than the nature of the dark path itself. As long as I kept the energy flowing, I felt great. |
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| What I want to know is why people suddenly are at each others throats because he said it? To tell you the truth I think maybe 20 or 30 people on this Forum, Steve and Erin included, who actually "get" the whole Polarity thing, everyone else is just seeing what they want to see, or are afraid they will see. People are masters at self delusion because they think they are right. When you think you are right you generally shut the world off. So they get one idea and never cross examine it.
__________________ I dare do all that may become a man; Who dares do more is none. - MACBETH |
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| I'm reminded of a discussion I had with a friend about 16 years ago. It was more of a debate, actually. We were arguing about the true nature of altruism and whether or not it truly existed. My stance was that true altruism did in fact exist (lightworker viewpoint?). His counterpoint was that doing altruistic things stemmed from a position of enjoying the fruits of helping others. That is, the knowledge of doing it because of the good feelings and other benefits that would naturally arise made it an ultimately selfish act. Put another way, one could say that doing great good for humanity can be selfless, and it seems so. But if one considers that helping humanity is in one's own best interests, then who does one truly serve? Humanity? or oneself? Lightwork? or Darkwork? That's the difference in polarity in my mind. Oh, he convinced me, by the way. Now I speak personally when I say that helping others makes me feel good. It gives me pleasure. It also makes my environment more pleasent as gratitude flows to me. I also have tons of gratitude for the life I live and all the nifty things about it. The nice thing about gratitude is that it perpetuates more things to be grateful about, increasing the overall niftiness of my life. Right after I finish this post, it's time to go on a bike ride. It's going to be fun and feel great. That's why I'm doing it. I'm pretty sure that's also why my wife and friends are doing it too. So, gotta run. Cyas! Froste |
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| I wrote an immense post that's far too long-winded on the subject over here: ___Workers, on the Terms
__________________ "I read, I interpret, I think, I criticize, I oppose, I listen, I write, I question, I reply, I quote, I tell, I name, I discuss, I interpolate..., I learn, I teach, I live, therefore I am." -- Marc-Alain Ouaknin, "Mysteries of the Kabbalah", p383. Favorite Essays I Wrote: love, identity & growth, economics, education, equality, definitions. Recent Books I liked: Anansi Boys, Fly By Night, Hyperion. |
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| @Steve: I'd have to agree that I haven't experienced the darkworker lifestyle from the inside. As I admitted above, I'm only basing my comments on intuition, not personal experience or logic. So I'm going to have to take your word for it. :-) While I could never personally take the darkworker path -- it sounds like you have to be a lot <i>smarter</i> than I am to make it work well, quite apart from whatever ethical issues might be involved -- I'll certainly continue to read about it with interest. Thanks for the new perspective! |
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Do you need to be smart to be as effectively caring as you are, or do you just need to be experienced, with enough critical thinking skills to learn from your mistakes?
__________________ People often say that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder,' and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves. --Salma Hayek My blog: Adam's Peace |
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| He also said, "Love thine enemies." Personally, I take the total of these two statements to be "Love everyone."
__________________ "I read, I interpret, I think, I criticize, I oppose, I listen, I write, I question, I reply, I quote, I tell, I name, I discuss, I interpolate..., I learn, I teach, I live, therefore I am." -- Marc-Alain Ouaknin, "Mysteries of the Kabbalah", p383. Favorite Essays I Wrote: love, identity & growth, economics, education, equality, definitions. Recent Books I liked: Anansi Boys, Fly By Night, Hyperion. |
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| FYI a great book to learn how to be an intelligent and aware darkworker is The 48 Laws of Power. |
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It's one of those great books that's a fun read, but totally wrong for me! It is an affirmation of the egoic mind -- away from the expansion of consciousness I'm experiencing. This further backs up my view that polarizing is irrelevant for me.
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The 48 Laws of Power is an excellent source of knowledge. It doesn't matter whether an author is writing from the perspective of a lightworker or a darkworker, the knowledge is the same. (Assuming that their levels of consciousness are high enough.) The motives and perspectives may be different, but the results are the same. When I bought The 48 Laws of Power, I had some fun discussions with people who think that seeking power is bad. You may decide to use it in a "bad" way, but having that power is never a bad thing. You can do great things with power , and you can also do terrible things, but if you're conscious enough to know how to use your power wisely then that's all that should matter. And just for the record, I haven't consciously decided to polarize one way or the other yet. I am, however, finally starting to see the benefit of doing so, I think. Improved concentration and power, which is rather appealing for various reasons!
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