Being Passive in Dreams, Passive in Life

[John68]

Steve (or whoever's out there) -

I'm a new member of the community but a regular reader of this blog since 2006. I've studied Jungian dreamwork for the past couple of years, but haven't gotten much out of it. But I recently had a revelation, and I'm wondering if you (or anyone out there) can help me with it:

In my dreams (at least the ones I remember), I tend to be very passive. Things happen TO me, but never of my own initiative. I find myself dreaming of being IN events but not controlling or initiating them. Sometimes I find myself surrounded by powerful people who are always DOING or GOING, and yet I'm just watching them. Or I'll have a dream where I'm at a gathering, a party, and I'm always the outsider. Everyone else is comfortable and engaged, and I'm not. I recognize that in the Jungian framework (and in what you've been writing about in your subjective reality experiment), all the 'characters' in a dream are just different parts/sides of me. Therefore, all of the 'active' people in a dream are parts of me. But why am I such a passive observer? Why can't I integrate and 'become' one of the active doers?

My question: If life is truly objective, a dream, how can I change this passivity in my dreams and in my life? How can I become more active, more powerful? Is it possible?