Broadcast Your Desires (Blog)

[Savage]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Steve Pavlina's blog:

Broadcast Your Desires

[Beuford]

I knew this post would help me, because this thread was up not even 1 minute after I came online. I tend to keep my desires hidden from people in real life, but I can see how much it could help if they knew what I was doing.

[bright]

I'm starting to get a bit tired of all these posts about D/s and steve's personal life. Its great that you're enjoying your life and have found a good partner steve, but we'd like to read about things that can help us with our lives, we're not that interested in your personal romantic life.

[James81]

We’ve shared many laughs about them, like the commenter that posted, “I just threw up in my mouth.”

LOL

I could swear that was me, but I can't seem to find the thread where I said that.

This post kinda rings home to me now, because I've been debating about starting a new website (one with a more proactive approach at making money instead of just a place to house all my thoughts and growth) lately and kickstart a career in freelance writing.

Thing is, a lot of people advise someone building a site to that end to make the domain name your own full name to build up your name. But something about that, uh, scares the hell out of me. It's hard for me not to want to hide behind a small modicum of anonymity...even though I know that nobody is ever REALLY anonymous on the net.

There's a block there that keeps me from going down that path toward sharing who I am with the people I know personally.

[smilodon]

Thanks for this post. Something I am working on gradually, and letting people know what is on your mind brings so much peace and freedom to me, while once I was worried of critics. Of course, I still have some desires to broadcast, but I know I'll get there.

Thanks again Steve

Originally Posted by James81

LOL



There's a block there that keeps me from going down that path toward sharing who I am with the people I know personally.

Well, start with sharing who you are here

[James81]

Originally Posted by smilodon

Well, start with sharing who you are here

That's not the problem. You guys get the realest, most honest version of me.

Or, perhaps a better way of saying it is that I am capable of building more intimate connections through text online, whereas in real life a piece of me holds back from going beyond the silly, goofy guy who likes to laugh and have fun.

[Savage]

Originally Posted by bright

I'm starting to get a bit tired of all these posts about D/s and steve's personal life. Its great that you're enjoying your life and have found a good partner steve, but we'd like to read about things that can help us with our lives, we're not that interested in your personal romantic life.

Well, I didn't really think people would want to read an article about your hand.

[dendennz]

I don't get bright at all.

Steve IS helping us. He's giving us a completely different insight on how to attract a partner for a starter. There are so many people in the Social and Relationships part of this Forum who are desperately trying to figure out how to attract a partner. As much as I'm excited for Steve and Rachelle and how they found each other, I'm still interested in how they made the connection so strong before even meeting each other. It kind of gives hope to people who "meet" others over the internet/phone and what kind of behaviour to expect when you meet in person.

Steve is demonstrating this and I think it's helpful to others.

I don't need it right now (I'm hooked up with a cute guy that I'm married to) but I'll certainly make use of these ideas if I'm ever in the "market" again, and/or helping my single friends And being really clear about what you want is something I've been practising on hubby and well, let's just say it's having pay offs...

Bring it ON, Steve!!!

Cheers,

Jenny.

[mmartin2009]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

Well, I didn't really think people would want to read an article about your hand.

HAHAHAHA!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This made my night! Thanks for the belly laugh!!!

[cacheborn]

Good article.

I am beginning to realize that asking directly for what you want is the most efficient way of doing things. The main culprit is social conditioning, heaps and heaps of it piling over the centuries. It is refreshing to identify and break free of them.

Btw, there is a definite love vibe in the post.

[Beuford]

Originally Posted by James81

Thing is, a lot of people advise someone building a site to that end to make the domain name your own full name to build up your name.

That's a great idea and saves thinking of a good domain name, but my problem with that is that hardly anyone would say my last name correctly, or remember the exact spelling.

[Melchior]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

And most likely some of the people in your life will reject your new direction. For whatever reason they won’t be able to accept it. They may react with sarcasm, criticism, or other forms of non-support. This is actually beneficial to you because these people are revealing that their presence in your social circle is incongruent with your new direction, so now you know where you’ll need to make some cuts. It doesn’t matter if they’re friends or family members — they’re making it clear that they can’t accept your new direction and that they’re unwilling to support you on this journey. It’s generally a waste of time to try to convince them, so don’t get clingy. Simply let go, and drop the unnecessary drag on your forward momentum. Say to such people, “I understand that you can’t accept my new direction, but I’m doing this anyway, so if you’re going to oppose me in this, then I’m going to have to drop you from my life. Either you learn to accept this part of me, or we’ll have to each go our separate ways and let go with love, okay?”

Why do you believe this to be the case and correct course of action for it?

[shasah]

I'm interested and need to think about this for a while. I have come a long way in this respect but there are still the pre-conditioned responses to certain subjects. I find that I am having to analyze my thoughts and decide which are truly my opinions and which are programmed responses. Until I know that, I find it difficult to broadcast my desires because I have found that sometimes they are not truly my desires but what is expected of me. I am finding a whole new person under all the layers.

[bluelighth]

I really need to practice this more.... It's really hard for me - I tend to fear what people will think, and since some of the things I want can "just happen", I would much rather people think it worked that way rather than me wanting it....
Also - for some reason, I'm just damn scared of saying what I want... I even found it hard to do here on the forums, or on the CGW skype meetups. I think I only mentioned things I want there once or twice.
Anyhow - thanks for the article. I'll have to figure out how to get over my fear there. But I will, so...

@James81 - I understand the wish to stay annonimous. I've got that to a large extent as well....

[Zach M]

I can vouch for this one. Posting my desires under my real name on my blog and in the social and relationships forum has been a little scary, but also empowering. I am grateful for all the support from my new friends.

[Cochonette]

I agree with this post... however, thinking about broadcasting myself made me realize something... lately I feel so ashamed of all sorts of things I broadcast. I used to always hide and keep silent, but then I started broadcasting things on FB more and more, and it's such a habit now that I can't stop. Also, I am forced to speak a lot in my classes, which has been bothering me. I think I need more silence in my life to balance out all this broadcasting... I'm such an introvert. After I get that, I can worry more about what I actually want to broadcast.

[Xamuel]

Great call. Here are a few of my desires.

I desire to have tons of close friends I can really count on.

I desire to change thousands of peoples' lives for the better.

I desire to be able to bench press 200lbs.

I desire to make so much money from my websites I can buy anything I want and never have to work for another man.

I desire to be always present and highly conscious.

I desire a deep and constant, unshakable, inner joy

[Savage]

Originally Posted by Beuford

That's a great idea and saves thinking of a good domain name, but my problem with that is that hardly anyone would say my last name correctly, or remember the exact spelling.

Arnold could have used that same LAME excuse.

Btw I just walked over his star on Hollywood Blvd today.

I'm sure your life would be much easier if your name was John Smith.

[Beuford]

You're right, I should be happy that I have a unique name as it would be easier to build up on than an ordinary name like John Smith. That was just an improperly thought out lame excuse. Thank you for waking me up.

[Plato]

Haven't read the article yet, but one thing I know I'm uncomfortable expressing is occasionally when I see a woman and I want to take her... whether she wants it or not.

I have no idea how to express this in a sane way, least of all in the moments I feel it. Sometimes it's a friend's girl, or just a stranger on the street. I want to walk up and say "You're coming with me. You're mine now." And really mean it, no matter what her response I'm taking her.

There's this inner fury that I've kept bottled up, at least so far in my man life.

[PaulV]

Thanks Steve that was a great article. It's really one of those things that's completely evident, yet so easy to forget.

If I look at the last few weeks of my own life, I can definitely see that the stuff I talk about with others is seeing way more progress than other parts. Those are also the parts I'm most clear about. I'm sure that being more clear about your goals makes it easier to broadcast them (and take action on in general), but the opposite might also be true, that taking action on your unclear goals will make them clearer and allow you to effortlessly shift your actions as you know what you want better.

However society seems to make a big deal of failure. If you try out something because it seems interesting, only to figure out it's not really where your heart is, you have failed somehow. Even if exploring that lead you to your true desires. And even though the actual cost of this 'failure' is quite low, and could even be considered a profit instead of a cost, we tend to make this into a big deal. I can see this behavior clearly in many older people using computers, they're so afraid to push the wrong button that they are simply stuck, instead of exploring their options.

And even though I know all this, I simply don't feel ready. I've basically been sitting at my computer and sleeping since the start of November, feeling depressed. That changed this week though and now I've finally gotten some momentum. I just need to remind myself to keep it going. Baby steps are okay, as long as they are pointed the right way. So maybe I do feel ready. I'm not sure, but at least I'm feeling something. Which is quite an improvement since I suppressed my emotions before.

I think I wrote this post for me more than for any of you, but I'll still hit submit. This is about broadcasting after all.

[Ken Benjamin]

Since our connection began with such openness and honesty, it’s been incredibly frictionless and blissful. (From Steve's blog posting)

Steve,

I, too, have recently begun a new relationship. Mine started as love at first sight, what an amazing experience. What has struck me the most is something you mention in passing in your blog posting: trust.

We have a deep seated trust that goes beyond any experience I have had before (and I'm not a young man anymore - not old yet, either). I am glad to hear that you are experiencing something similar.

My feeling is that if you are true to yourself, put yourself 'out there' with intentions as you describe, that you will attract people who like you just as you are. The converse is also true, you will attract people you like just as they are as well. When love strikes in such a situation there is no pretense of being something other than you are. That ability to be yourself is a true pathway to personal and relationship bliss.

“I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Dropping the notion that you have to please everyone or anyone, or comply with societal norms gives you the freedom to be the person you are. In the end, that is what people admire most in others, although most people don't have the courage to open themselves to the world as you have done.

Thank you, Steve, for putting your heart and soul out there for all of us to see and learn from. I wish you and Rachelle continued bliss (and only friction in ways you both enjoy ).


Follow Ken as he travels the world looking for himself and having adventures: Independent World Traveler

[roxyruby]

Someone said that "we don't want to hear about SP's personal life" is that, as in all of his readers or forum members? Cause I don't think that would be true. I don't mind and it's interesting to hear about something exciting in the life of someone you know, though it can be uncomfortable if its too honest and detailed but maybe that's just me. It actually sounded a lot like my relationship which was a bit weird.

To broadcast my desires, I'd like at-least $600,000 so I can move out and buy a place with my boyfriend and live with him ^ ^

I'd like $3000 so we can go on a holiday to Sydney together

& I would like to live forever with him and / or help as many people as possible live forever.

& I would like to go to U.S.A (preferably on a ship not plane) to get this treatment to rectify a health issue that isn't available in australia.

There! It's out there!

[roxyruby]

Originally Posted by Xamuel

Great call. Here are a few of my desires.

I desire to have tons of close friends I can really count on.

I desire to change thousands of peoples' lives for the better.

I desire to be able to bench press 200lbs.

I desire to make so much money from my websites I can buy anything I want and never have to work for another man.

I desire to be always present and highly conscious.

I desire a deep and constant, unshakable, inner joy

Aww, good luck! Let me know if there is anything you think I could do to help.

[Berrie]

Originally Posted by bright

I'm starting to get a bit tired of all these posts about D/s and steve's personal life. Its great that you're enjoying your life and have found a good partner steve, but we'd like to read about things that can help us with our lives, we're not that interested in your personal romantic life.

I'm going to have to second that.

It's not mere annoyance that I feel, I get literally grossed out and can't keep reading, no matter how useful the article may be. I don't mean this in an offensive way, it's very similar to having to picture your father's sex life while reading something potentially useful.

Steve, are you still into helping people? Or is being self-centered more important now?

[NewSimon]

A nice post actually with something important take away. I think a lot of us are embarrassed about what we desire. I desire a life of swanning around the world enjoying clothes, high quality travel, accommodation, food and meeting interesting people, without the excersion of actual dull labour. How is this possible?

Is she a Canadian actress?

[shasah]

Originally Posted by Berrie

I'm going to have to second that.

It's not mere annoyance that I feel, I get literally grossed out and can't keep reading, no matter how useful the article may be. I don't mean this in an offensive way, it's very similar to having to picture your father's sex life while reading something potentially useful.

Steve, are you still into helping people? Or is being self-centered more important now?

IMO his article is helpful. What is wrong with adding a little personal insight? It's not as if he went into great detail or anything. Pot - kettle - black?? Meaning who is being self centered?

[roxyruby]

Originally Posted by NewSimon

A nice post actually with something important take away. I think a lot of us are embarrassed about what we desire. I desire a life of swanning around the world enjoying clothes, high quality travel, accommodation, food and meeting interesting people, without the excersion of actual dull labour. How is this possible?

Is she a Canadian actress?

Know it is possible, and it is, believe, use LOA & you will move towards that! or have that! That's nothing to be embarrassed about. I doubt there is anyone that wants to do boring work, they do it to experience some of the things like you mention.

[restless]

Its great that you're enjoying your life and have found a good partner steve, but we'd like to read about things that can help us with our lives, we're not that interested in your personal romantic life.

I disagree. I find it highly enjoyable to read about Steve's personal life. It gives his message much more authenticity and has a bigger impact on the reader.
Also, it's great to see how Steve puts this amazing ideas into practice - which is difficult, like all true personal development! That way, he acts as a role model for his ideals and sets a great example.

[MidasGirl]

Originally Posted by Plato

Haven't read the article yet, but one thing I know I'm uncomfortable expressing is occasionally when I see a woman and I want to take her... whether she wants it or not.

I have no idea how to express this in a sane way, least of all in the moments I feel it. Sometimes it's a friend's girl, or just a stranger on the street. I want to walk up and say "You're coming with me. You're mine now." And really mean it, no matter what her response I'm taking her.

There's this inner fury that I've kept bottled up, at least so far in my man life.

LMAO.........That could land you in jail though. Are there ways you could channel that fury that do not involve kidnapping a human being?