The #1 Mistake People Make When Using the Law of Attraction (Blog)

[Savage]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Steve Pavlina's blog:

The #1 Mistake People Make When Using the Law of Attraction

[nomad]

'manifest a life'

Thanks for the Article. Am looking forward to the conclusion.
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[bellbird]

Steve thank you for writing your blog on how to actually physically create one's manifestation through energy use. You're right, the more (positive) excited I get about something the more it seems to take off! At the moment I energize quite a bit of energy towards a big goal in my partner and my life: finding property (and we did, it's quite amazing really). Tomorrow it's off to the accountant and it will be interesting to see what will happen in the next few weeks... Yeah! Use the Force and all that

I really enjoy reading your blog and the threads on the forum. It's very inspiring and at the same time 'no nonsense' stuff. I love it.

[Lauxa]

Great beginning of an article, can't wait to see the conclusion!

It would be nice if you could work in the manifesting a parking space example. I've never gotten that to work and it would really increase my confidence in LoA if I could see something tangible.

[cela]

Hey Steve,

Love this post – and absolutely agree with you. I know from my own experience, as bellbird mentioned, that when the energy and excitement is there, things manifest pretty easily. If you give the universe even a teensy bit of doubt or negativity, if you're not really, completely SURE that you want something, or that you even deserve it, then it ain't gonna happen.

The objects/outcomes I have manifested in my life, I've known to the core of my being that I wanted them, and deserved them. Other intentions I hold at the moment – well, I may have some limiting beliefs that I need to work on...

Thanks again for your wise words.

Cheers,
Claire

[john6630]

Lauxa,
Funny you should mention the parking space thing. Since I saw The Secret, I thought I would try manifesting parking spaces, like the guy in the video. Well...I am 4 for 4. Three times at the mall and once on the busy street my daughter lives on. 3 of the 4 times, a space was right where I wanted it. And one time someone was pulling out as I pulled up....not completely scientific proof of the LoA but encouraging...

So let me be sure... you do drive a car, dont you? If not, that may be the problem :>)

John

[John Wesley]

Not everyone manifests success, because most people don't really want it. They don't like working hard and would rather take it easy than be successful. This is perfectly fine. It actually works out a lot better. If everyone actually wanted to be successful the competition would be much more unpleasant.

[JJH]

Just chiming in with car park experience. This was my first successful manifestation since seeing the secret in August - I must be up to about 600 carparks, with a success rate of at least 95-97% - HUGE.

Great blog post, too - looking forward to part two!

[Kevin]

OK, so here's my question (and maybe it'll be addressed in the article's conclusion): How do you eliminate the natural confusion and doubt that comes with undertaking something big?

If you give the universe even a teensy bit of doubt or negativity, if you're not really, completely SURE that you want something, or that you even deserve it, then it ain't gonna happen.

Are those of us who struggle with low self-esteem totally screwed, then? Sometimes I have days where it's a struggle to feel like I deserve what I want, even when it's something I know I want.

Is it that truly successful people have never doubted themselves? Or that the key to success is ignoring the less confident voices in the back of your mind?

Following this logic, wouldn't the megalomaniacs always win?

(I'm not trying to be argumentative or confrontational here, so if I come off that way, sorry. This is really just an aspect of IM that I've been struggling with.)

[Kevin]

(Oh, and by the way, the parking space thing worked for me the first three or four times after I saw The Secret. Then it gradually sloped off.)

[Mann]

Some what same doubt here. As you said, may be it'll be addressed in the article's conclusion.

Steve, we wait for the concluding part of your wonderful article...

Best,

Mann

[Mann]

Originally Posted by cela

...I may have some limiting beliefs that I need to work on...

Cela, any inputs on how you 'work on'...

Best,

Mann

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

So what are the two polarities of intention-manifestation, and how do you apply them to build a strong intentional current? I’ll cover that in detail in my next article, so stay tuned…

It wouldn't be February sweeps without a cliffhanger!

[cela]

Originally Posted by Kevin

OK, so here's my question (and maybe it'll be addressed in the article's conclusion): How do you eliminate the natural confusion and doubt that comes with undertaking something big?

Are those of us who struggle with low self-esteem totally screwed, then? Sometimes I have days where it's a struggle to feel like I deserve what I want, even when it's something I know I want.

Is it that truly successful people have never doubted themselves? Or that the key to success is ignoring the less confident voices in the back of your mind?

Following this logic, wouldn't the megalomaniacs always win?

(I'm not trying to be argumentative or confrontational here, so if I come off that way, sorry. This is really just an aspect of IM that I've been struggling with.)

Kevin, it's a totally vaild point you raise, and your post doesn't come across as confrontational at all.

I can't answer whether truly successful people have never doubted themselves, but let me give you an example of where I'm at: if I can clearly picture something in my mind (an ideal job, or a house, for example), and it feels right TO ME, then the Universe seems to work with me, to make things happen - but only in the comfort zone I have at the time. I have yet to focus on large sums of money or palatial houses, because that's not something I have a need for right now.

Now, on the flipside, I am currently slightly overweight, and always have been, and I struggle to get a clear picture in my mind of myself at an ideal weight, because I don't know what that looks like on me. I could cut out all the pictures of slim models in the world and visualise, but if I don't really see MYSELF that way, then the message that I'm putting out to the Universe is a bit fuzzy...hence the results I get are fuzzy. Currently, I'm just making sure that the diet and exercise are in order, and I'm working on that mental image.

Apologies for the long post. I'm sure Steve will answer your questions more succinctly in "Part 2"!

Cheers,
Claire

[shiatsustudent]

Steve,
Thanks for the timely post. I set out this year with one big intention and was seeing some real results and feeling/getting a lot of positive energy. Things have dipped for me recently so it was great to read this post today to remind me to reconnect to that great battery in the sky!!
Tony

[Andrew Russell]

Originally Posted by nomad

'manifest a life'

Must... resist... urge... to out-nerd...

That's one thing about Personal Development folks - their analogies always make me cringe

Actually - there's a request/challenge for you, Steve, can you write an article about I/M that doesn't invoke analogies?

Cheers,
- AR

[Alan!]

there are lots of aussies on here.

my favourite line:

"
You’ll know you have a strong intentional current when you experience strong emotions. No emotions means you have no current.
"

this is applicable in all areas.

[carenkh]

Originally Posted by Lauxa

It would be nice if you could work in the manifesting a parking space example. I've never gotten that to work and it would really increase my confidence in LoA if I could see something tangible.

Christine Kane wrote a *wonderful* blog about just that:

Starting Small With the Law of Attraction


Well - it was actually more about accepting the present moment, and gratitude, but it's framed around a parking space story.

If you click around on Christine's blog, she presents LoA in a way that's friendly, approachable and real -- like her!

[Lil Chris]

One thing that clicked with me after reading this article is about the alpha reflection... The thought that came through was "the alpha reflection is designed to get you excited, to generate the energy needed to manifest your intention"

So when you see your alpha reflection... GET EXCITED BABY!!! and know that it's on it's way...
Excitement = Energy

[KaileeDesiresNew]

I enjoyed what Steve wrote about LoA. I'm not just new to this site, I'm new to this terminology. I follow mostly the writings in the bible but I'm also exploring additional and new ways of thinking. I know christians have missed entire boatloads of information out of fear. I don't want to be closed minded anymore, it hasn't worked well for me so far.

I do believe this is great advice...The bible teaches: "Whatsover things are good, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are of good report, think on these things!"

[ahimel]

Originally Posted by Lil Chris

So when you see your alpha reflection... GET EXCITED BABY!!! and know that it's on it's way...
Excitement = Energy

And make sure it's excited about the right thing. I've been trying to manifest a way out of our financial problems for a while, and keep running into the same block. I put out the intention. Money arrives (our roommate pays us a little extra rent, more hours at work, an extra temp job, someone to help mentor me in building passive income) and I get really excited that it worked!! This, of course, sends the signal to the universe that I've got all I need, so I have to start the process over again in a couple weeks.

What I need to work on (Thanks, Chris, for the insight) is getting excited that it's working. I need to say to myself (like a cheesy salesman) "If the trailer's that good, think how good the movie will be!"

I'm off to check my bank account and get excited about how well it's working...

[ahimel]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Are those of us who struggle with low self-esteem totally screwed, then? Sometimes I have days where it's a struggle to feel like I deserve what I want, even when it's something I know I want.

(I lied, I wanted to answer Kevin, too)

Here's the two ways it works for me:

1) I want it so badly that I don't care whether I deserve it or not. When I learned I couldn't go on our annual family trip I was heartbroken. When my godparents offered to pay half the fee I felt terrible about them covering for me.... but I took the money anyway.

2) I tune out those noises. Usually I'm not able to maintain a positive attitude about my intentions all day, every day. It tend to do it in smaller, more energetic "hits". When I notice myself thinking bad thoughts about my intentions, I stop. I quiet my mind, meditation-style, and focus my thoughts completely on what I want, what my life will be like once I have it, why I want it, and how much I want it. When I feel a little tug in the pit of my stomach, I know the intention's "caught." These threads are weaker than Steve's strong, confident ropes, so I have to do this a lot in order to pull my intention into reality. I also have those self doubts that sometimes get out of hand and saw through my threads sometimes. So all in all, these intentions take longer to manifest than the ones I do by method 1. But I feel better about myself when I manifest them, so it's kind of a trade off.

OK, now I'm off to check my bank account and get excited.

[Kevin]

Ahimel, I didn't read all of the responses to the posted question you linked to, but without derailing too far, I'd offer you the advice that the one reason you should never feel guilty about receiving a gift is that the person who gave it chose to do so. Let the good stuff happen!

I think the biggest challenge I have with all of this is that I feel like it's really, really easy to ruin all your progress without lifting a finger. I feel sort of like this poster does on the site carenkh linked to -- it's pretty exhausting sometimes to have to maintain that level of high-mindedness.

OTOH, there are lots of times when I start to get really excited about something (as Lil Chris mentioned) and a voice in my mind says "Don't get worked up, you need to be a grownup here and buckle down and take responsibility and not get your hopes up over something silly and grump grump grouch grump." If silencing that guy is key to making things work, then I'll gladly make the effort.

[Andrew Brunelle]

I really enjoyed this article and it is exactly what turned me onto what I need to be doing with my life and I now understand what it is I need to do, whatever makes the energy flow through me and it brought me back to my dormant passion...comedy....and writing.

[yogi]

Very nice article. The electricity / circuit analogy is very apt.

[Joaquim Mutim]

An interesting thing to remember about this article is that the "content" that Steve refer is in your conscious mind and the "energy" is in your subconscious mind, to manifest your intentions you need to use both sides of your mind to it, shaping the energy of subconscious mind with the content of your conscious mind.

see you

[mandomom]

[QUOTE=Kevin;42971]OK, so here's my question (and maybe it'll be addressed in the article's conclusion): How do you eliminate the natural confusion and doubt that comes with undertaking something big?

Are those of us who struggle with low self-esteem totally screwed, then? Sometimes I have days where it's a struggle to feel like I deserve what I want, even when it's something I know I want.

Is it that truly successful people have never doubted themselves? Or that the key to success is ignoring the less confident voices in the back of your mind?

Kevin,

You raise a very good point! 'The Secret' is truly an awesome movie and the Law of Attraction certainly is for real. But, for some of us, there is this big problem of having such ingrained, unconscious, self-sabotaging patterns that no amount of positive affirmations or focus works. In fact, according to Dr. Alex Loyd, founder of the Healing Codes and the Success Codes, the stress of working so hard at fighting those unconscious tapes, creates conflict and even more stress.

I'm one of those people, but the good news is that, through using the Success Codes, I'm reaching a point where a lot of those unconscious wrong beliefs have been healed, and I can now practice the principles of the Law of Attraction without stress, and with success.

Check out my blog for more on this: New Hope 4 Healing Blog

Marion

[Janice]

Hi Steve..

In your blog, you mentioned that to use/experience the Law Of Attractions, intention is very important and Intention = Content + Energy (Emotion).. then what about visualization? Isn't it important too?

Or Intention = Visualization? If they are not the same, what's the differentiating factor between the 2?

I've just read a latest report of an interview with Bob Proctor that talks about Law Of Attractions, The Secret and Creative Visualization... and in the report, it stated that Visualization is the KEY to turbo-charge (i.e. accelerate) the Law Of Attraction.

What are your thoughts on it?

[may777]

interesting article.
Bob Procter mentions another law: the law of vibration that is primary to the law of attraction, how it's affected him and why it's so important.
check out the report at: wisdomofgettingrich.com/rights.♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥.pdf

Blessings

[may777]

interesting article.
Bob Procter mentions another law: the law of vibration that is primary to the law of attraction, how it's affected him and why it's so important.
check out the report at: http://♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥/ri...ccelerator.pdf

Blessings