Steve, Curious...Stay at Home Mom

[StarieEyed]

I've been thinking for a while, I guess since you posted about your first CGW. I was thinking about attending, actually I would love to attend but my finances just won't allow it right now, or I won't spend that much just right now. I understand what you say about even a teenager can earn a few hundred bucks for a shiny new bike. My situation is I *could* save up $500 but really my heart would tell me I should use that money to pay off our little bit of debt or put my daughter in ballet. Anyway that is not really the intention of my post, really I think you could charge much more for your workshop. My real question is one about what you think of someone in my position...I am a stay at home mom by choice in fact I make a lot of sacrifices to stay at home with them, at least for the first few years of their life.

Is it impossible for me to be really "conscious" while not earning any money? That this really is what I am concentrating most of my time on? I see when you say that anyone who cannot afford your work shop or DVD’s probably would not benefit from the workshop or DVD’s. Is that true for someone in my case?

I am fully relying on my fiancé for our financial status and let me tell you, if it were me in charge we would be much better off. He is doing the best he can but I think he was raised with a lack mindset, me with the abundance (to an extent). Let me also add that I am not completely sitting idly by, I do have a great business idea in mind and have taken a few small steps to make it a reality but I am not really willing to spend too much of my time on it as I want to spend most of my kids toddler years with them.

Thank you and anyone else for any input!

[Steve Pavlina]

I think you'll have a better understanding of your situation after you watch the videos on creating abundance I'll be posting tomorrow.

[StarieEyed]

I am looking forward to it, thank you!

[SarahJaynee]

Hi StarryEyed,

Its really great that you stay at home with your kids and that this is what you want to do...however its not ALL you want is it?
For instance just reading your post I can see you....

Want your fiance to handle the finances better
Want more money so your children can start ballet
Want to go on Steves workshop
Want to get your business idea off the ground - in whatever time frame

You say that you are the "abundant" mindset in your relationship, yet your post doesn't read like that..in fact I see a lot of Lack and Want peppered into it.

I am only taking the time to write this as I think you could turn it around very easily.
Someone who makes a decision such as staying at home with kids to the detriment of financial acumen even when their partner isn't doing as good job as they may - is someone with a solid belief system and that's more than a lot of people!

Anyway my advice to you is to tap into the abundant mindset (even though it isn't so evident in your post maybe its just sleeping!) and realise that BEING abundant means never having to choose one over the other. You CAN have a business that doesn't take up too much time and still have plenty of time with the kids. Maybe the kids will be off to school soon? If not what about evenings when they are off to bed....?
Check out Timothy Ferris's The 4 Hour Work Week for more ideas/inspiration.

Personally I have a 7 year old and almost 1 year old and manage to keep myself financially abundant SOLO as well as homeschooling my 7 year old and spending lots and lots of time with my toddler.

Lack doesn't sit here crying about how $500 could only be spent on ballet - why only 1 spare $500...? Do yourself a favour, if you WANT to go on the course DO and make it your resolution to use the workshop to propel you forth to make many more 500bucks to send your kids to ballet, music, kung fu..whatever!

Good Luck, and everything I wrote is sent in kindness and hope.xx

[StarieEyed]

Thank you sarahjaynee. Maybe I should have been more specific and said that I DID have the abundant mindset, I was raised with it. I'm not really sure what happened but I do know it happened after I had my daughter, she is 4. I moved in with my mom so that I did not have to live alone with a baby. Thats probably what did it. I HATE relying on people, but really love staying at home with my kids. You are absolutly right about working on my business at night. I have even thought of getting a night job but really anything with an hourly wage just doesn't seem worth it to me right now, my yonger baby has only just turned one. I really want to put my efforts into my own business which I know can be very lucritive!

I need to reconnect with the person who I was before I had kids somehow. That seems easier than starting fresh!

I really appreciate your reply. I, too, see how my post was full of lack.