Benefits of Steve's Separation / Divorce

[impaul99]

With all the negative comments and drama in the other thread, I wanted to create a separate thread to discuss something else related to Steve's separation/divorce - if he'd be willing to go into it.

I'm curious if you experience any of the perceived "benefits" of separating / divorce that some of us married men fantasize about from time to time - and I'm not referring to anything sexual here.

For example I'm interested to know if you find yourself having more time or at least more time/schedule freedom being "single" now. Meaning, most guys I know who are married and/or have kids have to schedule their business around their marriage/kids schedules. For example, they can't just work on a project all day and all night long (with sleep and food breaks) when they're inspired to do so. Usually there are certain "norms" you agree to when married such as dinner time being at a certain time, spending time together during evenings etc.

With kids there's getting them ready to go to school or daycare, picking them up, dinner etc. As a single guy, not married, no kids, you have no such responsibilities and you could technically work on stuff or travel without really too much worry about stuff like that.

I'm curious if you find yourself having more free time for "doing stuff" now, or has the void just been filled with something else?

Another thing I'm curious about is single energy for manifesting. Do you find it easier to manifest stuff now that you're single? For example, lets say that before you wanted to manifest an opportunity to meet someone (Let's say Deepak Chopra for example) and you saw that he was going to be in New York so you wanted to manifest a trip to New York.

However, unconsciously Erin may have had counter-intentions maybe not wanting you to travel to New York right now for whatever reason. Now that you're "single" do you find it easier to manifest things?

I ask because I have often found that whenever I try to manifest something that involves other people, sometimes I'm "clear" on the intention and I want it to manifest but unconsciously the other person may be "blocking" it. So I'm curious if you find it easier now that Erin is not really part of your daily life.

This is nothing against Erin, or anything like that, I'm just mainly talking about the fact that no matter what - each human being has their own ideas, dreams and visions and when you're married the things you tend to manifest are kind of a shared/compromise version of both people's visions. If for example you wanted a house with a 3 car garage, and Erin wanted one with a small 1 car garage, previously maybe you manifested a house with a 2 car garage.

Do you now find yourself manifesting things faster, quicker, easier?

(I realize it hasn't been that long, I'm mainly asking for the future)

According to Dr. DeMartini, everything is always in balance. His theory states that technically things will be no easier and no harder than before. Any challenges or support that Erin and/or the kids may have brought to Steve's life will still be there in the exact same quantity, just in different form.

For example, for every hour Steve may have "extra" now which was previously spent doing stuff with Erin or the kids, may now be taken up by extra house-work type stuff (groceries, preparing meals etc.) that may have been done by Erin before - not to be stereotypical, I'm just giving an example as I have no idea what arrangement Steve/Erin had before for stuff like this.

I'm curious to hear from you Steve what your experiences are now that you're doing stuff by yourself. Especially in these areas:

- Do you find yourself having more time/energy to put towards your projects?
- Do you find it easier to manage your finances?
- Is it easier to do more "exotic" trials, such as eating raw or polyphasic sleep or whatever, now that you don't have to worry about other people being affected by your trials as much?
- Do you find yourself reaching out to friends, family and other "relationships" more as a way to connect with people, in response to not having Erin there at home with you?
- Do you find it easier to keep your house clean / organized without the kids there?

Just stuff like that. I'm curious what differences you experience.

[bunnyman]

Originally Posted by impaul99

I have often found that whenever I try to manifest something that involves other people, sometimes I'm "clear" on the intention and I want it to manifest but unconsciously the other person may be "blocking" it.

Going back to this blog entry:
The Law of Attraction

What happens when people put out conflicting intentions, like two people intending to get the same promotion when only one position is available?

Since you’re the only intender, this is entirely an internal conflict — within YOU.

So that is what Steve wrote three years ago.

I am still trying to figure out exactly what it means. There is one consciousness. It is yours and it is mine. If we block each other, it is because that consciousness intends us to do it. When consciousness itself is in harmony, then we will no longer "block" each other. So let's move towards having more harmony. Perhaps if we have beers together we can figure it out . . .

[impaul99]

Without getting into all kinds of complicated parallel-universe theories, I'm just curious if Steve finds it easier to manifest stuff now.

Yes, I am aware that at the highest level of consciousness we are all ONE, so at that level there is no conflict of intentions, but I'm talking about more individual intentions only related to Steve.

For example, let's say Steve is alignment with ONENESS and that alignment would manifest a trip for him to New York. However, let's say that Erin was afraid of Steve flying in airplanes due to a fear of terrorism (not that Erin would have this fear, but I'm just giving an example). Maybe due to this "counter-intention" by Erin, it would take longer or be harder for Steve to manifest a trip to New York.

Of course, if Steve continues to stick to his intention to get to New York, and Erin is unwilling to let go of her fear of her "husband" traveling by airplane, one way the Universe could solve this problem is through a separation/divorce where Steve is then free to go to New York as he is no longer Erin's "husband".

Once again, this is just a silly, simplified example. I realize Erin is more conscious than that, and she probably has no terrorist fears about Steve flying.

Reason I ask this is because when I left my previous employer where myself and about a dozen employees were trying to accomplish something, as soon as I started working by myself it became a lot easier to manifest things.

I think part of the reason it became easier to manifest things is that when you're part of a company with 12 other individuals, it's easy to blame someone else for something not manifesting. However, when you're the only person in your business, and something doesn't work out the way you want it to work out, there is only one person to blame - the guy in the mirror.

So, by switching from a team environment to a single person business model I have been able to eliminate pretty much every excuse in the book. When my business doesn't do well, I can only blame myself, nobody else as I am the CEO/President and the Janitor. No other people in between to blame.

Not that I was trying to blame others before, but it's a subconscious thing we may not be aware of. I'm now curious if Steve notices a difference between being Single/Married as far as manifesting things is involved.

For example, is it easier for him to work on his new line of products he's been talking about, etc.

[Brutha]

If I understand Steve the right way he's a lot better with that stuff since he made his workshop with might make it difficult to separate between effects of the divorce and other post-workshop effects.

[carenkh]

Originally Posted by impaul99

With kids there's getting them ready to go to school or daycare, picking them up, dinner etc. As a single guy, not married, no kids, you have no such responsibilities and you could technically work on stuff or travel without really too much worry about stuff like that.

Steve has kids, and he's made it very clear he's involved in their lives. I'll bet he'll check in with them and Erin before he jets off anywhere, if it will affect visitation or availability.

My ex-husband became a MORE involved and available dad after we separated. There's no illusion of "no kids" there.

[impaul99]

Originally Posted by carenkh

Steve has kids, and he's made it very clear he's involved in their lives. I'll bet he'll check in with them and Erin before he jets off anywhere, if it will affect visitation or availability.

My ex-husband became a MORE involved and available dad after we separated. There's no illusion of "no kids" there.

It's not so much spending time with your kids that I'm talking about.

More along the lines of them being in the same house as you when you're not spending time with them "officially". Like for example when you're trying to meditate or write a Blog post and you have screaming kids chasing each-other in the background or just simply coming in and asking you questions every 30 seconds.

More than anything I'm curious to hear from Steve what he's discovered the differences to be. I'm just totally speculating with all I've written above, and just pointing out examples. I really don't know what the benefits may be, which is why I'm asking.