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Old 03-26-2009, 07:05 PM
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About a week ago I noticed Steve was nolonger my friend on facebook, I don't get why he would delete me as one. It's not like I post anything bad on his profile, intact I don't think I have ever even commented on his wall! I added him as a friend a cupple days ago and he still hasn't accepted!
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Is he not allowed to have preferences in his facebook contacts? It could be any number of reasons. Maybe he only wants hot babes as his contacts. Maybe he didn't like the stuff on your wall, or he feels your spelling could use a bit of improvement.
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Is he not allowed to have preferences in his facebook contacts? It could be any number of reasons. Maybe he only wants hot babes as his contacts. Maybe he didn't like the stuff on your wall, or he feels your spelling could use a bit of improvement.
His facebook is mainly used as a broadcast and feedback medium. He accepts 1000s of people he doesn't know. So why the need to not let me view his profile?
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Wow, he deleted you off of Facebook. Next he'll call you call you a stinky doo-doo head.

I think he said before that he'll limit the number of friends he accepts on Facebook. If he's reached that quota and somebody got dropped it's probably because someone more valuable friended him and he had to drop somebody. I doubt it's anything personal.
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it seems not a big thing... but obviously to the OP it is.

I know I would be hurt if some one was my friend and then dropped me as a friend on facebook. Sure, you can dismiss me as having no life and no friends that I would care if Steve deleted me as a friend... but rejection is rejection, and I would be hurt too.

Maybe there was a mistake. Or maybe Steve has too many "friends" and is starting to delete some of his non-real-life friends. It doesn't seem like Steve to hurt someone's feelings on purpose.

We will never know why unless Steve tells you why.
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it seems not a big thing... but obviously to the OP it is.

I know I would be hurt if some one was my friend and then dropped me as a friend on facebook. Sure, you can dismiss me as having no life and no friends that I would care if Steve deleted me as a friend... but rejection is rejection, and I would be hurt too.

Maybe there was a mistake. Or maybe Steve has too many "friends" and is starting to delete some of his non-real-life friends. It doesn't seem like Steve to hurt someone's feelings on purpose.

We will never know why unless Steve tells you why.
Yeah I imagine it's because of his friend limit. Ironicly enough I was deleteing people off facebook that wernt my friends I met in person. But recently I have disided to accept anyone. So maybe this will mean he will get this same idea.
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that is hilerious....man....what you guuna do now!......

Id create a facebook group for all steve pavlinas rejects!
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that is hilerious....man....what you guuna do now!......

Id create a facebook group for all steve pavlinas rejects!
There would be no point. I'm probably the only reject
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Steve must really hate you. He accepts anyone as a friend, but to stay his friend is a great feat. I would say that you should not worry about it. I can't really see Steve doing this, but perhaps there was a reason for this. I don't think Steve goes around haphazardly deleting friends on Facebook, but I really don't know. You should message him on Facebook and ask what's up.
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After what you did at JD's party you think any of us will keep you as facebook friends? That was not cool man.. not cool.
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It could be any number of reasons. Maybe he only wants hot babes as his contacts.


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Since you asked this publicly, I assume you're looking for a public answer. Else I'm sure you'd have PM'd me instead.

I've only deleted a handful of Facebook friends since I started using Facebook (maybe around 10 people total). This always happens for one of two reasons:
  1. Spamming (sending solicitation messages or posting spam on my wall). You ever spam me about anything on Facebook, I drop you as a friend immediately.
  2. Exhibiting a pattern of posting lame or immature comments on my wall. If you do things that annoy my other Facebook friends, causing people to start complaining to me about it, I drop you right quick. Just don't have time for that sort of thing.
There's a hard limit of 5,000 Facebook friends, and I'm already past 3,800, so I'll probably hit that limit later this year.
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Since you asked this publicly, I assume you're looking for a public answer. Else I'm sure you'd have PM'd me instead.

I've only deleted a handful of Facebook friends since I started using Facebook (maybe around 10 people total). This always happens for one of two reasons:
  1. Spamming (sending solicitation messages or posting spam on my wall). You ever spam me about anything on Facebook, I drop you as a friend immediately.
  2. Exhibiting a pattern of posting lame or immature comments on my wall. If you do things that annoy my other Facebook friends, causing people to start complaining to me about it, I drop you right quick. Just don't have time for that sort of thing.
There's a hard limit of 5,000 Facebook friends, and I'm already past 3,800, so I'll probably hit that limit later this year.

If only commented the wall to say thanks for accepting me. And you don't get your account hacked by spammers like you do on myspace right?
Also commented twitted updates with it, but never anything but positive things.
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Dwixi..

It may not be Steve's fault.. but rather a bug in Facebook itself..

I've had this happen to me where a friend would no longer be a 'friend' on FB.. and neither one of us had initiated such a request to 'un-friend'...

I've seen this happen for others as well, and your case is no different. I don't know why it happens.. but it's been happening recently to many people...

You can try writing a complaint to FB to see what's up..

Here's a thread on the help pages that will confirm what I'm talking about:
Help Center | Facebook

Just send another friend request to Steve if you want to buddy up again... though hurry before he reaches the 5K mark..
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Dwixi..

It may not be Steve's fault.. but rather a bug in Facebook itself..

I've had this happen to me where a friend would no longer be a 'friend' on FB.. and neither one of us had initiated such a request to 'un-friend'...

I've seen this happen for others as well, and your case is no different. I don't know why it happens.. but it's been happening recently to many people...

You can try writing a complaint to FB to see what's up..

Here's a thread on the help pages that will confirm what I'm talking about:
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Hey, this happened to me too, but since the friends who disappeared were actually strangers, I thought they had just cleaned me out of their list.
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Do you need him? Wake up you need his tips to develop not him, you turning this guy into a god of sorts.
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If only commented the wall to say thanks for accepting me. And you don't get your account hacked by spammers like you do on myspace right?
Also commented twitted updates with it, but never anything but positive things.
Selective memory? Either that or someone else was using your account while you weren't looking. Suffice it to say that the reason you were unfriended was #2 as explained above.
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Dwixi, where are you? I'm curious for 2 days already, what was the exact post, for which you got deleted...

Steve won't tell us for sure (without dwixi's permission). First, I was surprised why wouldn't Steve tell the reason directly according to the principle of truth. Now I understand. Steve respects dwixi's private bounds, and doesn't want to make him feel embarrassed in public in any way.

But I'm soooo curious. Dwixi. c'mon, be a man, you've started the thread, tell us what the post was, or ask Steve to tell directly, in case you have selective memory
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Dwixi, where are you? I'm curious for 2 days already, what was the exact post, for which you got deleted...

Steve won't tell us for sure (without dwixi's permission). First, I was surprised why wouldn't Steve tell the reason directly according to the principle of truth. Now I understand. Steve respects dwixi's private bounds, and doesn't want to make him feel embarrassed in public in any way.

But I'm soooo curious. Dwixi. c'mon, be a man, you've started the thread, tell us what the post was, or ask Steve to tell directly, in case you have selective memory
I post? No it was being unfriended on facebook that we were talking about.
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The assumption at this point is that you (or someone else who used your Facebook account) posted something lame or immature on Steve's Facebook wall, which caused the un-friending.

You have already said that you did not do anything like that.

So we are not sure what the truth actually is here.
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So we are not sure what the truth actually is here.
... and we're still waiting, dying from curiosity, having a great desire to know what was the actual post (facebook comment, whatever you call it)

Dwixi, if I were you, I'd asked Steve - hoping he has at least little time for this little fun we're having here, but understanding, that he might be really busy - he promised us a nice info product in a near future - asked Steve to reveal (in public or privately, you decide) the exact post he was unhappy with. Then I'd investigate who could post such a nasty thing using my account, if not me
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dwixi, sue him!!!
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Dwixi, Steve says that you posted an immature or lame comment, and you disagree. You're not doing your argument any favors by starting this thread -- it points to a lack of tact.

It's certainly conceivable that someone who starts the thread titled "Steve deleted me as a friend on facebook!" posted something obnoxious. Or maybe the dude who popularized subjective reality and polyamory in the minds of many is suddenly an intolerate, unreasonable prude. =^)
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Steve's a busy guy. He doesn't have time for idle chit-chat and other lame stuff, so if you left a comment that Steve didn't think was worth reading and he didn't want to read anymore of your comments, then he has every right to get rid of you as a Facebook friend. It's not like he banned you from the forums or his Twitter account. He didn't put a block on PMing him here, so what's the problem? It's a stupid social networking site. And it's not like you personally know Steve, so I suggest that you move on because the more you whine about it and complain about it, the more Steve is going to wonder if he'll ever take you back as a friend on Facebook.
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FYI I don't drop FB friends for posting a lame comment unless it's pure spam or just really obnoxious/insulting. Silly joke comments are fine too, and sarcasm doesn't bother me either. It's only when someone exhibits a pattern of repeatedly making lame, immature, or dorky comments that I think about dropping them. I don't see any value in retaining such people as "friends." I'm not particularly demanding of my Facebook friends, but I do have some standards.

Much of the time it's not that the other person is deliberately doing anything wrong. Some people are simply clueless about Facebook etiquette, and I don't have time to personally educate them. It's faster to dump them and let them figure it out on their own.
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The first thing that came into my mind reading the thread title:

"Steve deleted me as a friend on facebook!"

"Well, boo-f*cking-hoo!"

Sorry for the expletive, it's just a very fitting quote from the movie "Jerry MacGuire" .
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I LOL'd all through this thread.
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I LOL'd all through this thread.
agreed but we gotta give dwixi a break, hes 17 and steve is prob a massive role model for him
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