Something steve says that I don't get.

[dwixi]

Ok in one of steve podcast he says " if you don't know what to do, stoping what you are doing and know isnt right is the best thing because it leaves you open for the correct solution coming to you"
the thing is he also says that it is good to have something even if its not perfect becuase you can work on it. Like a business! Even if its not exactly what you want just tweek it.
What about relationships? If you don't have a perfect relationship do you stop it and wait to see what comes or do you tweek it and make it right like a business?
Im really confused about this, I really need to clear it up.

[Eric Revelin]

Well, what do you think? Relationships aren't a science. The best approach is going to depend on the circumstances.

In general, whether you should tweak the relationship or let it go depends on the level of compatibility between you and your partner. If you can't work together or you're totally unhappy with the other person, end the relationship. If things are pretty good except for a few rough patches, do some tweaking.

In the end it's your call.

[bunnyman]

A relationship isn't something you do. Things you do include: talking, phone calls, fighting, moving in with someone, snuggling, whining, hugging, kissing, cooking dinner, going on a date, lying, promising, breaking up, listening, and feeling.

Which of these are working for you? Against you?

[magi13]

in my own understanding of what you quoted under the "" is that, when in doubt, reflect on it. he means to say you already know the answer to your own question.

example:

is watching to much tv bad for my health, given the circumstance that it makes me a couch potato and unproductive?

to some they will answer no (addiction)

now let's reflect on that thought

people are the only animals who can lie to themselves and believe it.

that said no will be the problem, now if you give it some effort and reflect on it, you'll realize such actions are really doing you bad.

>.< that's how i understand the thing you quoted.

if he did say such things, then you should know the answer to your problem.

again, i have to state the obvious because some people view things differently than others, there are those who can find the answers for themselves and those who cannot. are you the former or the later?

if you are the former, leave this forum, you do not need to read the tips on personal development. if you are one of the latter, then you can ask for a better explanation from steve who you address the question too.

try pming the person so that he can explain it to you.

or you can search for similar situations or circumstances where you can derive their solution and apply it to your own problems.

^,^

Good luck.

XXX

1. you know the answer
2. you don't know the answer, hence you ask for help
3. find similar situations where you can derive the answer
4. with regards to relationships, be brutally honest with yourself and reflect with what you want for both of you (your partner and you)

[Brutha]

The approach that Steve suggests is an intuitive one.
If you feel that a certain relationship is doomed quit it even when you can't see a way.
It's about listening to your intuition and following it instead of analyzing the situation to death.

[ArthurHung]

Steve's being deliberately mysterious, just to mess with us

Steve's said that what you experience right now is your favorite present moment.

If you don't know what to do , probably what you are currently doing isn't working for you and is on it's way out for a better favorite present moment to come in. So, stop the activities or habits that you think are hindering this better present moment from coming in, and the opportunity to get that better present moment will come. If all your time is kept to doing what you don't like/somehow intuively wrong then you have a higher chance of missing that opportunity.

That's what I read into it, anyhow.

[Evelyne Draper]

Originally Posted by dwixi

...What about relationships? If you don't have a perfect relationship do you stop it and wait to see what comes or do you tweek it and make it right like a business?...

What is a perfect relationship? Do we actually want perfection? Or is it more interesting to grow and develop, get feedback and adjust?
dwixi, I'm not sure I understand your question...