Polyamory Resources (Blog)

[Savage]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Steve Pavlina's blog:

Polyamory Resources

[polyfulcrum]

That's a good comprehensive list of the most commonly known and well-regarded resources for polyamorous connection and information! Kudos to you for really diving in and educating yourself rapidly, Steve!

Adding another community which appears to teem with poly life: The Society for Creative Anachronism. At least locally, SCA members are very poly-conscious and open.

There are other great activity-centered groups like http://lovetribe.org scattered across the country. While not poly specific, lovetribe is certainly poly-friendly and a nice low-pressure way to make some connections, as they host a variety of events from snuggles (non-sexual touching parties) up to more sexual get togethers.

By far, the best resources are people already within the community local to you. If you can find a "hub" person that can help show you around and is willing to vouch for you, that will save you years of flailing about online trying to learn the ropes and meet people.

[oakspringer]

For gay poly resources, there is a active community on tribe.net.

I also set up a website for men looking to meet other poly men.

Its in its infancy but it may prove useful in time.

gaypoly.weebly.com

Ben

[alan7388]

Excellent list-- good work!

A few additions to consider:

1) Under "Polyamory Meetups:" The state-by-state list of local poly discussion-and-support groups at Tristan Taormino's site is the most up-to-date and well-maintained list I know of. Its administrator, Tristan's secretary Sarah, has been quick to make suggested changes and additions, and in March she plans to do a complete review of all the listings. Other lists of local poly groups have tended to go unmaintained and get out of date.

Also on Tristan's site is a similar list of international groups.

Also, for events: Add Polycamp Northwest, Polycamp Ontario, Florida Poly Retreat, and Network for a New Culture Summer Camp, as well as Loving More's conferences and retreats.


2) Poly-Friendly Communities: I second the person who said the SCA is a significant nexus of polyfolks. Not all SCAdians are happy about the SCA having this reputation, but the poly presence is substantial.


3) Online Resources: would you consider adding my own Polyamory in the News site? I've collected 250+ articles, broadcasts, etc., from all sorts of sources and perspectives. With commentary. Searchable and sortable archive. I try to get new stuff up the day it appears.

--Alan M.

[Savage]

I've been learning that a lot of poly people like to dress up and go to Ren Faires. There's one in Vegas each October. I'm guessing some of these people have ties to the SCA.

Erin and I have been to a few Ren Faires and found them fun, but I never dressed up for them.

[alan7388]

Here are some good, thoughtful blogs by poly people:

Practical Polyamory™
Young Metro Poly
The philosophy of non-monogamy

[UtopiaFive]

Seduction community - This is a natural fit because many people in the seduction (or pick-up artist) community are involved in multiple relationships. I already have some good friends in this community, so it was an easy place for me to start. I’m not interested in learning how to pick up women in bars or clubs (wrong fit for my lifestyle), but I’ve met some great poly people in this community who are very intelligent, open, and honest. Several people I’ve met are in committed relationships where both partners are polyamorous, and their primary relationships seem very solid to me. I expect I’ll continue to make many new friends who are involved in the seduction community. These are good win-win friendships because many people in that community want to learn how to enjoy deeper emotional intimacy with their partners (something I’m very good at), and I want to learn how to cultivate and manage multiple relationships (something they’re very good at).

Steve,

"I’m not interested in learning how to pick up women in bars or clubs (wrong fit for my lifestyle)"

This sounds like an excuse to me.

Why doesn't it fit with your lifestyle? You control your time 100% right?

I could imagine you saying this if you "worked" at a corporation and needing to be in a 7AM every morning. But you don't.

Also, drinking at bars and clubs is definitely not a requirement. I go out all the time, and rarely drink. I know you're definitely the kind of person who could pull off "Well, I'm just out to meet some new people and have fun, sans alcohol."

I honestly don't "care" if you go out to bars and clubs, but
. I'm interested how you believe its not in alignment with your lifestyle
. I believe you'd meet more interesting people in those environments than in the "polyamorous community". Or at the very least, you'd get a lot more in the "looks" department. Your brain is fantastic, and I think you'd have some interesting stuff to say about "pickup" (as simpleminded as you might think it sounds, this area of my life makes me think a lot). You might be thinking of weird perspectives from the "Mystery Method" camp versus what people like RealSocialDynamics have to say, which is a lot more personal development and growth oriented in my opinion.

Anyway, that's all. Not quite expecting you to change direction, but hearing your thoughts about this might make me a bit more understanding...

[Joyous]

Steve, you told you met pornstars and told they are cool. Can you please let me know your idea about porn in general? do you watch porn?

I am asking this because I like porn but not very sure about it (like how much) , can you please let me know your perspective?