Conscious Sexuality (Blog)

[Riddle]

Originally Posted by Riddle

I feel a bit sad that our society has lost its moral integrity and succumbed to hedonist morals and values.

Originally Posted by Angela

Not me.

Originally Posted by Fullcrum

If you do not have a society focused on feeling good and pleasure...what do they focus on?

Originally Posted by Riddle

Morality that stems from principles independent of self-interest or desire.

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

LOL. Can't believe I didn't think of that.

Originally Posted by Angela

I sure don't care about leading a moral life! Screw a moral life! And I do only want to feel good, it's true.

Originally Posted by WhiteCrow

morals have no meaning. It is the people who give them meaning.

Originally Posted by Fullcrum

"Hedonism" is inescapable.

Originally Posted by Riddle

when I see my little sister watching a show on the disney channel with some 10 year old kids talking about sexual relationship problems... that's when I lose all faith in humanity!

Originally Posted by Angela

Not me. I never get tired of hearing about sex.

Originally Posted by Riddle

Why?

Originally Posted by Angela

to me it is heaven.

Originally Posted by million

go you!!!

Originally Posted by Angela

If I hear the sound of my lover's moan only 1,000 times, I'll feel like I'm just getting started.

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

You slut!

Originally Posted by Riddle

Perhaps it is possible to rationalize promiscuity as ethical conduct,

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

Since I currently want to improve my experience of intimate relationships, I am actively moving toward that goal. If I didn't do this, I'd be turning my back on growth and living way too timidly.

Originally Posted by million

go you!!!

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

You slut!

Originally Posted by Asmoday

Did Steve Pavlina just call me a slut?

Originally Posted by gingembre

”Yes, yes, yes, YES!!!"

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

Let’s be honest. If you were whisked away to a fantasy land where you could do absolutely anything you wanted, and no one else would ever know about it, what would you do?

Originally Posted by CelebritiCat

My personal approach is to skip right past polyamory and go for omniamory.

Originally Posted by Angela

But hopefully not omnisexual!

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

Is this such a bad thing to invite into your reality?

Originally Posted by WhiteCrow

If we are not hurting anyone in the process, what is the problem?????????

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

Just to be clear, let’s assume your body and your partner’s body are physically capable of having sex as well.

Originally Posted by Riddle

There is no problem in that case.

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

If you have a willing partner, you can have sex.

Originally Posted by Angela

I hope you are taking your vitamins.

Originally Posted by million

Newsflash, society was always like this even in the days of stone age.

Originally Posted by RRR

Yay sex.

Originally Posted by MidasGirl

Just be happy you live in a country where you can choose these lifestyles, whether you are a man or woman.

Originally Posted by Andreas

I can dream...

Originally Posted by Angela

I hear the sound of my lover's moan...

[WhiteCrow]

Originally Posted by xyz

Steve Wrote:



Is it really that simple? IF its consensual, then it is OK to have it with your father, mother, brother, daughter and sister? Will it just be pleasure, warmth, energy flow and above all FUN? Or we have to keep these people out of the periphery of such higher level of consciousness?
What about orgy, if it is consensual? Should we encourage our teenage / adult children to join our groups too using same theme of ONENESS?

This got me thinking too. An 18 year old girl, if she wants to screw her father, and her father does not mind, then it should be possible right? For me it feels wrong though, but if they choose consciously?

An orgy however is in my opinion one of the best things ever. Sexual experiences with multipe partners, without judgment, jealousy or possesiveness. Great! Mi casa es su casa. My wife is your wife. My money is your money. My country is your country. And soon we would have world peace!!!!

[Angela]

Have you ever read The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins? He talks about the pheromones that people emit and are attracted to, and how there's a built-in sexual dis-attraction to "family" -- that is, people with the same genetic makeup -- and a chemical attractor for people with disparate genes.

If this is true, and I believe it probably is, it would explain why you might get an icky feeling thinking about having sex with your brother or father, and why you might associate a foreign accent with sexual turn-on. If you are living consciously, you would be paying attention to these feelings, and take your sexual action based on the feeling-good ones. Maybe you would notice that you have mixed feelings about a sexual attraction for a relative, and you would examine that. And you'd take into consideration the possible and likely consequences of having sex with someone, before you "consent."

It's not like conscious sexuality means boning everyone you have a sexual impulse towards. We have more resources available to us than that, in living a life we're in love with. I don't think Steve is suggesting we ignore our resources and live a totally reactive life.

[Fullcrum]

HAhaha Riddle that's funny.

Angela nailed it on the head.

For some reason sex induces "tunnel vision" in everyone who discusses it. So we either become "sex maniacs" or "abstinence moral people". It doesn't have to be. It's not "screw every hot girl" or "never have sex again except with one partner". There's more to the decision than that. To me, a strong feminine polarity, freely expressing sexuality, and someone's "energy" are also big things for me.

[Jake Birkett]

Bit late to the party, but lol at "warts and all" and the multiple quote postings that have been going on.

Also great post Steve, thanks.

[RAWAWAKENING]

Happened upon the Concious Sexuality article on another website. Happy I explored and read the article. This is a topic I have explored within my mind for years and am feeling a shift myself toward polyamory, actually, more like an alignment with spirit and body. From my personal experience alone, I venture to say I understand Steve's shift/exploration of polyamory to be a truth of his that has manifested through his experiences on all planes of existence. Motives, ego, I beg to differ... simply an evolution. Rather than framing his instinct toward polyamory as "having consequences", be it positive, negative, neutral, however one needs to label the "consequence", I see it as a chance/conscious choice for a fellow spirit to follow his heart, thereby allowing others to do the same, that is, follow their heart. When each of us choose our truth at any given moment, we thereby enable others to do the same by opening and creating new pathways of love and light within the matrix of the All One Love energy, blossoming and contributing to the beautiful evolution of humankind. How could I possibly feel good about restricting someone from exploring Love, following their heart? When I feel inclined to control, I have to look at myself first and ask...Why? What is my fear projecting onto this life situation? This inevitably leads to Why Not? Really? What is the fear.....really, what is the fear? -Peace

[xyz]

Originally Posted by WhiteCrow

An orgy however is in my opinion one of the best things ever. Sexual experiences with multipe partners, without judgment, jealousy or possesiveness. Great! Mi casa es su casa. My wife is your wife. My money is your money. My country is your country. And soon we would have world peace!!!!

Wow!
Take that line a bit farther. My mother is your mother. My brother is your brother. My sister is your sister. My daughter is your daughter. My son is your son. Next year he may join Harvard. So I can count on you for fee. My bill payments are yours too. So honey/ handsome please send me the cheques SOON! And arrange a bypass for my father. My brother needs a rehab for his addiction. Please pay attention. And arrange a lawyer for certain Mr. Osama in advance because My Obama seems hellbent on capturing him alive or dead. Or better go and fight for Mr. Osama in Pakistan following the principle of ONENESS. :-) After all we are all one. :-)

[JeromeX]

Originally Posted by xyz

Wow!
Take that line a bit farther. My mother is your mother. My brother is your brother. My sister is your sister. My daughter is your daughter. My son is your son. Next year he may join Harvard. So I can count on you for fee. My bill payments are yours too. So honey/ handsome please send me the cheques SOON! And arrange a bypass for my father. My brother needs a rehab for his addiction. Please pay attention. And arrange a lawyer for certain Mr. Osama in advance because My Obama seems hellbent on capturing him alive or dead. Or better go and fight for Mr. Osama in Pakistan following the principle of ONENESS. :-) After all we are all one. :-)

LOL. Communism will be realized by fxxcking consciously.

[magi13]

^^, Go get laid guys, quit talking about it hear and just do it. I'm sure that'll change your rhythm for awhile and relax.

hehehe, safe sex is a happy carnal knowledge. ^^,

[royalexander]

This liberal view on sexuality has to also address the issue of sex with underaged individuals. If it's wrong for a 40 years old to have sex with a 15 year old even though both are 1) sexually functional 2)keen on it and 3) neither is forcing the other, can we explain why?


Roy.

[Dan.Linehan]

Originally Posted by royalexander

This liberal view on sexuality has to also address the issue of sex with underaged individuals. If it's wrong for a 40 years old to have sex with a 15 year old even though both are 1) sexually functional 2)keen on it and 3) neither is forcing the other, can we explain why?


Roy.

The age of consent is different in different countries. In most places it is 16, isn't it?

[Eric Roosevelt]

Originally Posted by royalexander

This liberal view on sexuality has to also address the issue of sex with underaged individuals. If it's wrong for a 40 years old to have sex with a 15 year old even though both are 1) sexually functional 2)keen on it and 3) neither is forcing the other, can we explain why?

I think the assumption is usually that people in their early to mid-teens aren't fully capable of making such a decision, regardless of what they say themselves. I think that's certainly true for younger children, although it's a bit more ambiguous for a 15 or 16 year old. People also mature at different rates, which makes it difficult to know where to draw the line.

[medeainokc]

I just read this post today and had a WOW moment. I am recently seperated from my husbnad and trying to rediscover who I really am. I really had to stop and think about where my beliefs on sexuality came from.....and where I want them to be. My new goal is to discover my core belief on sex away from social conditioning and "norms".

[TonyToneTone]

Awesome post! Next time someone online tries to give me the guilt trip about my lifestyle, I am simply going to send them this post.