Polyamory and Blog Traffic (Blog)

[Savage]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Steve Pavlina's blog:

Polyamory and Blog Traffic

[frankderived]

Steve, lately I've noticed too much "I" on your writing.

[24evita]

It is funny that you should write about this specific topic Steve of traffic and your latest topic as, as soon as I read your first article on polyamory I thought to myself "man is this ever going to send his ratings through the roof"

And indeed your traffic as you report has sky-rocketed, no surprise there. I know you said that you did not do this for that, I completely believe that as I think you are way past that, besides the google ads are gone, so no need there But we all also know that anything controversial brings people in more than anything else.

I guess it is just that "ego" driven desire in so many of us that is still so attracted to drama, as I am sure many people have come into these forums just to give you their two scents of how they see this situation and what you are doing. As for me I am not for it or against it. It just is.

I think besides learning about polyamory, there is another big lesson for people here with your posts when it comes to recognizing their own ego and whether it is in charge of them, or they are in charge of it...

[Savage]

Originally Posted by frankderived

Steve, lately I've noticed too much "I" on your writing.

Writing has two i's. Expect more of the same.

This is a personal development site. That means I get personal.

[Dive Bomb]

I made my personal theme for 2009 to develop deeper connections with people and was so excited when I read that you were going to focus on this too with polyamory.

Connecting with people is still a subject often in the dark, or at least the conventional wisdom makes things awkward as you put it in a previous blog post. I'll be paying attention intently as you make this journey toward polymaory since your insight about relationships and maintaining a strong connection with people will prove valuable beyond the original subject.

[Judge]

I think there is a lot of defensive egoism going on within this topic space you are covering. While you cover most topics in great depth, this one seems to require much more justification on your part.

I have no for or against opinion on the topic, it's a free contry, do what you like. Maybe it's just me, but it seems that you are trying to make a point that if enough people are supportive, then it's more than acceptable.

It's a fine line between sharing experience and defending the topic, but of course it's your space, say what you like..........just don't start hitting on me okay, I'm unavailable

Judge

[Savage]

Originally Posted by Judge

Maybe it's just me, but it seems that you are trying to make a point that if enough people are supportive, then it's more than acceptable.

I'd have to agree that it's just you.

Take a moment to reflect on where in your life you're holding yourself back because you're worried about losing the support of others. Anything come to mind?

As far as the support of readers is concerned, it's not an issue for me when I'm making personal changes. However, the level of reader interest does influence what topics I'll choose to write about. If I see there's a lot of interest in polyamory, it encourages me to write more about it. If I thought nobody cared, I'd still pursue it for myself, but I wouldn't write as much about it.

I play disc golf often, but I haven't written any articles about it because I doubt many people would care.

As for whether or not large numbers of people approve of what I'm doing, who the hell cares? Living for the approval of others is boring, pointless, and completely meaningless.

just don't start hitting on me okay, I'm unavailable

Oh... playing hard to get, eh?

[Yynatago]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

I play disc golf often, but I haven't written any articles about it because I doubt many people would care.

Actually, I'm rather interested in your disc golf techniques and strategies!

[Savage]

Originally Posted by Yynatago

Actually, I'm rather interested in your disc golf techniques and strategies!

And there's the rub. I could share some techniques and strategies, but the most effective one involves how to get a disc out of a tree.

[Dive Bomb]

Speaking of traffic, I wonder if Steve can top Wikipedia as the top search result for "polyamory". Right now he is number 5.

[Judge]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

As for whether or not large numbers of people approve of what I'm doing, who the hell cares? Living for the approval of others is boring, pointless, and completely meaningless.

You write about things you want to try and if you see and/or feel that others would be interested and therefore you are aiding the consicous development of others, then you write more about it.

Hmmmm............okay that does make sense as there is no point in writing stuff no one has an interest in, however you yourself have written about how you see yourself as one cell in a giant conscious being, so your above statement contradicts itself.

Your actions (according to your beliefs) do indeed impact on others if we are to believe what you write about. You state you want to aid in the conscious pursuit of personal growth for others via your blog and site, but you don't care what anyone thinks or what large numbers of people think?

Sorry Steve I think you are indeed trying to gain approval for this current topic and are in fact defending it as best you can so it's more acceptable to you.

But like you say, who the hell cares what others think right? I know I don't care what you do and I think most people don't care what you do, it's more the subject matter (good for traffic) than what crazy ol' Steve is up to now

Judge

[Savage]

I think for myself. If lots of people disagree with me, I look to see who's getting the best results. If other people's results seem better than mine, I learn from those people. If my results seem better, I share my viewpoint with others and let them consider it.

Makes no difference whether other people think I'm right or wrong. I just look to see who's getting the best results since effectiveness is a reasonable measure of truth alignment.

Quite often, the masses are wrong, and the few are correct.

[frankderived]

Steve thanks for teaching me the meaning of writing, or that it always has two ii’s. I believe this will be my first lesson on personal growth; tough by the master himself. Since English is my second language I was afraid to express my thinking on any level since I thought my writing is not good enough. You see I think I have good thoughts but I am envarased of not spelling the right word, or not using the right nomenclature. Well, let me say to your audience that now I no longer have fear; I finally understand that writing is a verb or an action by which one express oneself. Basically by writing the information goes from one memory to another. And regardless of what one writes, it will automatically become part of the past as soon as it is written.
The next issue is reading something one wrote in the past and wanting to erase it because it truly sounds stupid. But it is already online and one can not erase it. For this issue I now understand that no one will fully understand what you meant to say in the first place. For example, I got offended by steve’s reply that all writing has two ii’s, since in my comment he misunderstood me. However, I know he is being funny and meant to go out there in the world and say that even thought I can not spell Einstein, one can write e=mc2 and grow with it.
Thanks For your time

[Judge]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

I just look to see who's getting the best results since effectiveness is a reasonable measure of truth alignment.

So when you find enough people to support your ideal, it becomes true for you.

Turns out you were god.........all along

Nice

Judge