What I Learned From Going Bankrupt in My 20s That Proves to Be Immensely Valuable in

[Monique7nuns]

I came back and re read that series of blog posts on Thursday and still sorta felt a loss for words.

However, today I'd like to share what I feel/hope are a few recent important, positive signs.

+ Week before last I dropped my site design card off at the local chamber of commerce. IMHO, they need a new site. The following week, they emailed me and asked that I submit a proposal which I did the same day. I already had most of it ready. When I spoke with the primary coordinator she said she thought it was ESP that I dropped my card off when I did because she was just going to get in touch. We'll be setting up a meeting this week and I fully intend to get the job.

+ My photo page that I listed in an earlier post received 176 views one day since someone Stumbled it as a favorite. It normally peters along in the single digits. A few days prior to finding out about the increased traffic I've felt very inspired to get out and take more pics than ever. I'm now mulling over a few ideas about developing the web page into a proper site with pic of the day, sales and possibly offering a day nature photo excursion with the idea of encouraging others to (re)connect with nature via the lens of any camera.

+ I also got a letter regarding my unemployment status since the last time I received benefits. Seems our president has signed an emergency extension to the continuously unemployed and from what I can see so far, I qualify. It won't solve all my issues, but it has the potential to give me some much desired financial relief and is from seemingly out of the blue.

I feel like these ripples are giving me a chance to make break major through... but no pressure or anything.

[ProjectX]

Thanks Steve for this article. Once again you change lives. I've been having a lot of thoughts about what I should pursue in life. I am studying business in college right now and thinking about being an entrepreneur/investor. But someone it doesn't feel right. I want to be rich but I also want to something creative which is film making. I want to make films but I know that route is hard. So there has been a lot of doubt but I know creativity itself is a gift that must not be discarded. What really is holding me back from doing what I really want to do is fear. I want security and success in my life but I also want something bigger.

[songwriter]

I'm checking back his article once I read some of those "12 spiritual laws".

and one was facing obstacles in life as challenges that will help us to grow in some way.

I have an "eternal" problem with finding a girlfriend, and I've seen there's more people like me in this forum...

If I face it the Steve way I could say "I only gonna try with the women I really want" and ignore the rest. Maybe trying with someone you kind of like only is disempowering... you don't like her much, you hardly gonna get far together and you're gonna be frustrated. But if you go for the ones you truly like the most, maybe it's different.

Maybe so many time alone is a price to pay to find a quite ideal partner, instead of taking the "half way" and going with anyone... as it would be doing whatever job...

[Ari Koinuma]

Originally Posted by songwriter

I'm checking back his article once I read some of those "12 spiritual laws".

and one was facing obstacles in life as challenges that will help us to grow in some way.

I have an "eternal" problem with finding a girlfriend, and I've seen there's more people like me in this forum...

If I face it the Steve way I could say "I only gonna try with the women I really want" and ignore the rest. Maybe trying with someone you kind of like only is disempowering... you don't like her much, you hardly gonna get far together and you're gonna be frustrated. But if you go for the ones you truly like the most, maybe it's different.

Maybe so many time alone is a price to pay to find a quite ideal partner, instead of taking the "half way" and going with anyone... as it would be doing whatever job...

Songwriter,

Your job analogy is apt. Think about it this way:

Going out with someone you sort of like -> It's because you're trying to fill your void -> Bad.

Going out with someone you fall head over heals with -> It's because you're in love with that person -> Good.

Don't bother with people you kinda like. You deserve better! (not to say that people you kinda like aren't good people, but.)

I've been in your shoes. Perhaps you may enjoy reading my story of how I found her -- my wife.

Our Best Version | How I Found My Soulmate

ari

[songwriter]

Originally Posted by Ari Koinuma

Songwriter,

Your job analogy is apt. Think about it this way:

Going out with someone you sort of like -> It's because you're trying to fill your void -> Bad.

Going out with someone you fall head over heals with -> It's because you're in love with that person -> Good.

Don't bother with people you kinda like. You deserve better! (not to say that people you kinda like aren't good people, but.)

I've been in your shoes. Perhaps you may enjoy reading my story of how I found her -- my wife.

Our Best Version | How I Found My Soulmate

ari

God (The force, the universe, the conscience, the collective unconscious) knows I'm gonna read your story right now.

Well, sometimes I see some people has a partner... and even marry on fear of being alone, not because they are in love, but kind of "this is a secure way", kind of sticking to an ordinary job. And when someone ask you "Do you have a girlfriend/wife?" you can answer YES, and seem more "normal" or "successful" than if you say no, kind of like jobs (even if you secretly hate your job).

And sometimes people may to say to you "What are you waiting for?, pick any girl " or so... like I was being snobbish or narcisist for waiting for someone I really like... I prefer to be romanticly "broke".

Maybe someday I'll write, What I learnt for my romantic bankruptcy in my 20s.

[Fullcrum]

It's hard to put into words how powerful this article is. As a teen who's never experienced such hardship, it feels really cool to have someone who's gone before you share the lessons learned when faced with adversity.

[songwriter]

I'm into your link, and I like to comment all the way, to take it all out.
First I've went on how to know if someone is your soulmate?

Yes, there's a woman I met recently that, since the first moment, I felt more "me" than with anyone, I noticed something special. Lately she told about she reads about Law of Attraction and things like that, and we joke that we may had attracted each other. Quite possible.

We had some freaking similarities, so we can understand other and no-one else, I think.

I bet she was the example of a soulmate for me, and viceversa, but she was already in a relationship! and that stopped it all, but it was great anyway to be friends.

"I quickly learned that she had a boyfriend from high school, though she wasn’t sure where that relationship stood. Her friends at college were trying to set her up with another guy" that has been/is exactly my situation

"I didn’t exactly “find” her. We just bumped into each other. And she was the one who opened the door."

I didn't either, we just worked in front of other "casually".

It seems we think alike a lot reading the end of your post about settling.

Perhaps that girl will suddenly call me to have a weekend together or so, too?

Or maybe not, but I think I'm not very away from it all. I'm not in flirting with anyone around...

[Ari Koinuma]

Originally Posted by songwriter

I'm into your link, and I like to comment all the way, to take it all out.
First I've went on how to know if someone is your soulmate?

Yes, there's a woman I met recently that, since the first moment, I felt more "me" than with anyone, I noticed something special. Lately she told about she reads about Law of Attraction and things like that, and we joke that we may had attracted each other. Quite possible.

We had some freaking similarities, so we can understand other and no-one else, I think.

I bet she was the example of a soulmate for me, and viceversa, but she was already in a relationship! and that stopped it all, but it was great anyway to be friends.

"I quickly learned that she had a boyfriend from high school, though she wasn’t sure where that relationship stood. Her friends at college were trying to set her up with another guy" that has been/is exactly my situation

"I didn’t exactly “find” her. We just bumped into each other. And she was the one who opened the door."

I didn't either, we just worked in front of other "casually".

It seems we think alike a lot reading the end of your post about settling.

Perhaps that girl will suddenly call me to have a weekend together or so, too?

Or maybe not, but I think I'm not very away from it all. I'm not in flirting with anyone around...

Hey songwriter,

Thanks for checking out my stories.

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone -- you can be honest with your feelings. Though obviously what you DO out of your feelings is another matter, especially in her company. But if she is open to being your friend, why not? It's one thing if she's married, but if it's a boyfriend -- they tend to come and go, you know.

Don't lose hope! You can find the right person to you, when you are ready. If it can happen to me, it can certainly happen to you. Here's one more post that may be relevant -- it's about how we think we know what's going to happen, though we really don't:

Our Best Version | The Formula Fails

I did marry my first girlfriend, and for a while I wondered what it's like to be with someone else. But really, I grew to be really grateful that I didn't go through the turmoils of any romantic relationships ending. The ones didn't work for me crashed and burned all at the beginning, when the pain was probably the least.

Look on the bright side, and work on getting yourself ready for her, whenever she shows up.

ari

PS of course we think alike -- we're both musicians!

[songwriter]

Originally Posted by Ari Koinuma

Hey songwriter,

Thanks for checking out my stories.

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone -- you can be honest with your feelings. Though obviously what you DO out of your feelings is another matter, especially in her company. But if she is open to being your friend, why not? It's one thing if she's married, but if it's a boyfriend -- they tend to come and go, you know.

Don't lose hope! You can find the right person to you, when you are ready. If it can happen to me, it can certainly happen to you. Here's one more post that may be relevant -- it's about how we think we know what's going to happen, though we really don't:

Our Best Version | The Formula Fails

I did marry my first girlfriend, and for a while I wondered what it's like to be with someone else. But really, I grew to be really grateful that I didn't go through the turmoils of any romantic relationships ending. The ones didn't work for me crashed and burned all at the beginning, when the pain was probably the least.

Look on the bright side, and work on getting yourself ready for her, whenever she shows up.

ari

PS of course we think alike -- we're both musicians!

haha