How to Be a Woman by Romona Paden

[Steve Pavlina]

Note from Steve: This was one of the "How to Be a Woman" article submissions from someone who preferred to submit it as text instead of via a link, so I'm posting it here in order to have something to link to from the final results post. This article is copyrighted by the original author.

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How to Be a Woman


Being a woman means giving up the little girl routine. Little girls want the approval of others and modify their energy in order to get it. In the most general terms, the little girl routine consists of small-mindedness that makes yen energy so passive that it gets trampled; or, the feminine becomes so perverted that it becomes a disturbing version of the yang, masculine energy.

Good little girls are sweet-tempered, always want to make everyone happy, and make themselves subservient to the wishes of their partners, bosses, children, parents and whoever else happens to walk in their path. They make excellent girlfriends to any man who prefers a role-playing trophy-type relationship to his own Spirit because good little girls never, ever rock the boat.

Bad little girls are slightly more dynamic than good little girls, at least in the short-term. Bad little girls aren’t afraid to be naughty, meaning “Party on, Garth.” Bad little girls are accepting of and even encourage base-level behavior that comes from men who are only willing to be little boys. For bad little girls, the feminine nature is something to be overcome.

Trying to fit into a mold others have made for her, as a little girl does, is as about as graceful and as attractive as the Sergio jeans worn during the early ‘80’s that were so tight, laying down on the bed just to get them zipped up was a part of the fashion regimen. A woman creates her own mold. She wears the clothes that fit her regardless of the tag size! Expectations a woman holds of herself are dependent on her own beliefs and desires. She never looks for an approval stamp from anyone; nor is she swayed by disapproval.

To be a woman is to be Goddess. Goddess is one who loves beauty in her body, in her home, and throughout nature. The Goddess is earth sexy in the body and unconditional love in the Spirit. She feels obligated to explain neither but openly owns both.

Women don’t thrust unconditional love on anyone. Unconditional love is simply present as part of a woman’s engagement in creation. For the Goddess, unconditional love equates to Truth. A perversion of Truth is not a transgression taken lightly by a woman. Once she can no longer justify bad behavior as simple misunderstandings, she calls it as she sees it. A spade is a spade and bullshit is bullshit.

Most all of being a woman—at least one who’s on the light worker path—boils down to wisdom. By Steve’s post, the same could be said of men. The difference, really, is that the incarnations of womanly wisdom is much more subtle than that of male wisdom. This subtlety creates a solid foundation that can make Spirit living a socially pervasive way of life if the female among us are willing to consciously embrace womanhood. When little girls decide to become women and to embrace Truth rather than tolerating or explaining away smallness, fathers, husbands, boyfriends, and sons will respond accordingly.

© 2008 by Romona Paden

[songwriter]

No-one commenting this?
As I have courage as one my greatest strengths, I'll be the first one.

I like a lot the part of little good/bad girl to woman.
The end about not tolerating reminds me of what Steve put: "a man's life purpose is first and second goes the relationship" or so.

The only problem I see with all this is that Steve's man and this woman hardly would get along. Maybe the "real man" attitude would be a "bad behaviour" for the "real woman". ?

[Marth]

Nice article Romona.

To be a woman is to be Goddess. Goddess is one who loves beauty in her body, in her home, and throughout nature.

My favorite part, same with the importance of wisdom section at the end. A lot of the article was about the choice between melding to others or thinking for self. Very important topic to bring up.

I can't really comment on much else, I'm a man. Hey so how many articles actually entered?

[Romona]

Thanks for having the courage to comment, songwriter.

I disagree that a real man attitude is a turn off to a real woman--perhaps you're thinking real women are only interested in an Alan Alda, super sensitive type?

The truth is, I think women today are on different terrain than what's been available in previous generations. We're not willing to stay in a limited, traditional role; but we're not really interested in stepping into a traditional man's role where the prize is that we can apply the "liberated" label to ourselves. I guess a "real woman" is someone who's willing to see sculpting her presence in the world as worthwhile endeavor.

[Romona]

Marth, from a man's point of view, do you think there are some women who really like being women and some who approach the world from a more gender-neutral place?

Lot of really good articles came in on this topic. Hear us roar!

[songwriter]

Originally Posted by Romona

Thanks for having the courage to comment, songwriter.

I disagree that a real man attitude is a turn off to a real woman--perhaps you're thinking real women are only interested in an Alan Alda, super sensitive type?

The truth is, I think women today are on different terrain than what's been available in previous generations. We're not willing to stay in a limited, traditional role; but we're not really interested in stepping into a traditional man's role where the prize is that we can apply the "liberated" label to ourselves. I guess a "real woman" is someone who's willing to see sculpting her presence in the world as worthwhile endeavor.

Women behaviour today depends mostly of their environment, unless they're highly conscious so they can question that and act according their believes or whatever, now that's great. As happen with men, not everyone is like this... Watching only in Spain, my country, there's a huge difference between women behaviour depending of the place of the country they're living.
And imagine if we consider different continents.... the "typical woman" or Morocco, is not the same as the Japanese one, the Brazilian one, the USA one, or the Spanish one.

Well, when you take full responsability for yourself instead or leaving that to what's usual in your environment, now that's great.