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Old 12-16-2007, 07:30 PM
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I want to add my perspective. I have paid employment and although I wanted to leave I felt very blocked from doing this because everytime I made a move to leave something would happen to stop me, e.g. I got ill, projects came up that needed my involvement etc.

I had a reading with Erin, who confirmed that I was being blocked from leaving my job as I have something to learn before I actually do go. I'm not sure what it is I need to learn, but I am now making the most of my time there to get as much experience and learn as much as possible both in terms of knowledge and having the best attitude.

Which means that saying 'I quit' is the wrong thing for me right now in terms of my personal development. That's not to say it will always be wrong, just that now isn't my time. It does help when there is high stress levels at work, to think, 'I am here for a reason, even if I don't know exactly what that reason is.'
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Old 12-16-2007, 07:40 PM
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I had a reading with Erin, who confirmed that I was being blocked from leaving my job as I have something to learn before I actually do go.
Maybe you need to learn to let go of it willingly, not because someone else told you so! So the learning is not for something within your current job, but for the next step where you are headed.

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Old 12-17-2007, 11:20 PM
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I just quit my job There were several reasons.

First of all, I really didn't like the job. I had a strong feeling that "this just isn't right for me", every time I went to work. Second, I just took the job because other persons in my life really wanted me to. I'm surrounded by people who still think "a job" is the only way to make a living. The reason I took this job, was that my girlfriend wanted me to have one, before we moved in together. However, this excuse is not better than saying "My wife won't let me start my own business". I had the job for only about 1,5 month. And I didn't even work fulltime. Actually I worked 40%. Funny thing though, as you probably would think this would give me enough free-time to start a business in the other 60%-time, I still felt the job "owned" me. I just couldn't really think clearly enough about making a transition while still having this tiny little job.

I think this has to do with one simple thing: As long as you have a job, it's easier to think: "What the hell.. I have a income-source. Why bother to make my own?". I became quite lazy about thinking about something else. This is how you could easily become a slave for the rest of your life!

Luckily, I made the decision to quit. I didn't even say it to my boss' face. I wrote her a little e-mail, explaining my thoughts. This might be an alternative way for those who really fear saying the words "I quit" directly to your boss

Now, I'm unemplyed, and I really have no choice. I must start working on my businessplans, and I'm really looking forward to it.

I will keep you updated on this forum, on how things are going
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Funny thing though, as you probably would think this would give me enough free-time to start a business in the other 60%-time, I still felt the job "owned" me. I just couldn't really think clearly enough about making a transition while still having this tiny little job.
I can relate to this. As a student, I had no energy to think about what I wanted to do instead of studying or to do it in my spare time. I had to breake off my studies first, and then ideas started popping into my mind. Sometimes you need to clear the clutter first in order to make room for something new.

So, no job? Gratz! Welcome to the club of happily unemployed people

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Nothing I *want* to do brings in any money. I have never been able to crack that one, my whole life. It's not the job, it's *Work* I object to, i have always known that.

Currently I'm slogging to build a fund to buy a (small) sailing boat and disappear off on it, living off the rent from my flat (it's paid off) and some interest from savings (which need to be bigger to serve that purpose properly).

But to do that, I am working at something at which, although still talented, I no longer shine (I used to...) because I am no longer interested. Everybody else around me is far more into it that I am, and most people I know are either in jobs they like very much or have quit to do what they want. I have to admit to a touch of envy there...

I tried working in sailing, got commercial skippering/teaching tickets - but it took the fun out of it - I felt far less experienced than my clients/employers expected (or I thought they expected). It dented my confidence, I will admit.

I am tired - but every day I earn is the goal a day closer... Ironically, if I was 'into' my work I could probably earn much more (and have yet more eaten by the taxman... now *that's* depressing).

I constantly ask myself "what can I be doing right now to advance my goal?" but all too often the answer seems to be "just as you are..."
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Nothing I *want* to do brings in any money.
This is basically equivalent to saying:
  • Nothing I want to do creates value for other people.
  • I don't want to create any value for other people.
  • What creates value for me creates none for others.
  • Even the act of sharing what I enjoy would be considered valueless by others.
  • No one else values what I value.
Are those statements also true for you?
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Old 12-22-2007, 10:09 AM
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Hello Everyone,

I'm new to this blog and this forum as well. So much reading to do...Not that I mind

Anyway, I already have a question and thank in advance to all those willing to give their opinion...

I recently quit my job - to pursue my goal - which is in the music field. I switched to a different job that takes me much less time and even sometimes helps me in achieving another mini-goal - improving my english. I have looooooooooooong miles ahead of me to go...I say this because to do what I want to do, and to turn my passion into my job eventually I first need to aquire at least 1 skill, extremely vital to the whole goal-achieving thing - and that is learn to play an instrument, fortunately enough I know which one, lol ) As you've guessed it might take me 4 to 5 years at the least. And my question is HOW to keep my sanity and my focusing on the final destination point when still having to keep this job which is not at all my passion if you know what I mean...Yeah, sure there are always pros and cons and I actually mentioned 2 good things about my current job before, but still....there are times I'm literally ready to explode having to dedicate any time at all to a "passtime" I find completely uninteresting... Not mentioning the sometimes heavy feeling of realizing I might start earning money by doing what I love when I'm like in my 30-ies...(I'm 24 right now)...

Maybe some of you have encountered same obstacles and managed to overcome them?

Thank You Steve, Thank You All - this site is awesome!

Natasha
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