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If I am feeling angry, when I go outside, I will attract people and situations that validate that anger. I meet another angry person - he is just a reflection of my inner state. If I am obsessed with sin, I will see people sinning all the time. External reality reflects and validates my inner state.

However, if I meditate in the morning on joy and beauty, when I go out, I immediately start noticing beautiful things and people. The trick is to really believe that the good stuff you see is part of you, is you, so that you no longer feel separated from it. You integrate it all as part of yourself.

So, if you notice someone with beautiful teeth, tell yourself that those teeth are part of you and originate from within you. Don't ever say you wish you had teeth, skin, muscles, boobs, or whatever, like that person. Believe that the beauty is already real within you. If it wasn't, you wouldn't be able to recognize it on the outside, in the first place.

If you were born into a perfect family, as a child, you may have been a chubby little smiling Buddha in your high chair who was perfectly happy. You could have gone through life, happy and integrated like that. But as soon as some of us have a bad experience, the ego separates from the true self. We then identify with the ego and spend the rest of our lives searching for our true self or just denying our true self.

We all know that the story of the Fall in the Bible, when Adam and Eve left the Garden of Eden, is symbolic of this ego separation.
But, there was a (symbolic) separation prior to that - when woman was created. Man was separated from his other (better?) half. Is that why many of us spend so much time searching for the ideal mate?

Literature, music, etc is full of stories of lost love, searching for true love, etc. It's just the ego wanting to reintegrate with the true self.

It's paradoxical that in the Christian wedding service are the words, "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder", when it was the Judaeo/Christian God who separated man and woman in the first place! Your ideal partner is already within you and part of you. All the beautiful things you see are already within you and owned by you.
Embrace it all now, why wait?