Recently attended the Landmark Forum...whats next
 

Hi I'm new on this forum!

I am somewhat new to self development, a few years ago I discovered this industry by clicking an ad with a picture of two women, one was an old woman and one was a model type in her early 20s, there was text above saying something along the lines of "which one is right for you". I clicked on the ad and was exposed to a site called doubleyourdating.com.

I've read everything related to the site and somehow it led me to find out about the self development industry, found out about Tony Robbins and after googling working from home I found Steve's website 2 years ago.

Recently I attended the Landmark Forum, which I found through a recommendation by some self help guru I used to read about, it was interesting, basically they taught a new perspective on things and a different communication style. They teach to look at life as a blank canvas that you paint on and what happened in the past has nothing to do with what you can create in the future, a similar perspective is given when talking about people and requires A LOT of balls to execute which is part of an assignment given to everyone.

Right now I am part of a weekly program in which I am supposed to keep in touch with a team I am a part of (I am the leader) and keep in contact with them, also we are supposed to identify something that we want to achieve and something thats holding us back after that write those down.

I was supposed to also identify 3 things I want to get out of the forum, mine are:

1. A Relationship
2. A Career
3. A growing Asset Column (originally a business but this makes more sense to me)

The last one was inspired by Rich Dad Poor Dad which I've re-read lately.

I should do the assignments which I have not yet, one involves telling 3 people about something I intend to do and "leave at least one of them inspired", I am a bit scatterbrained and don't know what to say.

I am also reading some of the stuff on Steve's blog at the moment which I don't know if I should because of the forum, his stuff is very highly conceptual and while I like reading it I don't know how to apply it.
Like this thing: Waking Up

I am finding it easier to relate to this stuff: RossTraining.com Blog
Though its not self development related in the way Steve writes about, its actually fitness related even though it can be re-purposed in a non fitness way.

2 questions:
What would you suggest I say in the assignment?
Should I read the other stuff?

Thank You!
-Oleg

Oops I posted in the wrong place :P

What inspires you about getting a relationship? A career? An asset column? How do you even know you care? Is there anything about any of these things that really excites you?

Hi Analysis Paralysis, welcome to the forum :) Let me know if you want me to move the thread to a different forum since you said you posted it in the wrong place.

Not sure where it should be moved

What inspires me about getting a relationship?
Connecting with a woman, having someone to deeply care about, sex and improving that experience.

A career?
I get to live by myself and take care of myself (still live with my parents :/)

Asset Column?
I get to ensure that I don't end up working my entire life going through the motions just to make money because I will have assets generating monthly cashflow without my presence, I will be able to eventually quit my job if I want to and do something else without worrying about money.

What is helpful to me is to describe how I feel where I am at as well. There is a difference to me in moving from a place I like to a place I like even better, and moving from a place that feels bad to a place that feels better.

The difference is that if I am uncomfortable where I'm at, I will not think clearly, I will feel edgy, and the funness of moving to a place that sounds so enjoyable will be replaced by an urgency to move to somewhere more acceptable.

How comfortable are you with where you are at, and the knowledge and skills you have to get to where you want to be? Does it feel like an obvious set of steps to embark on to move towards your goals? Or does it seem confusing what to do next? A good question to ask is "how do I go about getting this?" Where this could be any of those achievements you would like. This question is sometimes blocked by a feeling that something is wrong with me because I do not know the answer. Then you will be unable to jubilantly ask people how they would go about these things, because of the sense that you don't like that you are here.

Once you are comfortable with where you are at, and the knowledge you don't have of the details of the steps to take next, and are 100% okay with this, a whole new world opens. It's okay if you don't know what to do next to find the relationship, or career, or assets that you like to have. We have all been there. Imagine what it would feel like if you felt excitedly welcomed by everyone on the planet, all of whom wanted for you to find exactly what you are looking for. Imagine that everyone is deeply interested in finding out with you what you should do next, and if they didn't have a really good answer, it is because they are just as perplexed as you are.

I love the idea of you having all these things in a way that is amazingly satisfying and exciting for you. If I know of something that will specifically help you, I would not hesitate to share it with you.

The vision I see of you that is the most fun is you being perfectly okay with not knowing the details of how to get to where you want to go, and recognizing that as the details become obvious and clear, you will move immediately to accomplish these details. The difficulty is never in doing what you need to do, but knowing precisely what to do next.