Feeling in the flow of things...

[Lychee]

A member here shared his experience with subjective reality. He said that he felt he could "control" people and expect their reactions, and that he knew that he was in full control of his reality. (If someone remembers the thread, could you please let me know? I haven't been able to find it. I'm not sure if it was posted in the IM or Spirituality-Consciousness forum.) I've felt something similar to this today.

For some reason today I felt different. I was confident and I felt I was strong enough to conquer any problems that may have arose during the day. I felt like I had the help of God, more so than before, and I could set an intention and it would occur. I also felt a definite unattachment. I walked around like water could roll off my back without getting wet. Someone could insult me and I wouldn't let it get to my heart. If I didn't get a parking spot I knew with a deep knowing, that I would find one and everything would be as it was supposed to be. I was concerned with outcomes, but not to the extent where I was attached to it to the point where if it didn't happen I would be hurt by it. I trusted that with the power God has given me along with God's will, things would happen.

A series of coincidences (or should I say, LOA at work)? I sincerely believe these were not coincidences.

1- On the road this one car ahead of me was going so slow and I wanted the car to go faster. In my mind I saw the car ahead of me speed up and a few seconds later, it did.

2- I was at a store and this woman was standing in my way of the merchandise so I could not properly see what was available. I wanted her to move, so I envisioned her moving to the side (even though at this time she was with her daughter having a conversation). A few seconds later, she moved.

3- I had to get change from a store but the cashier couldn't help me unless I bought something first or if the drawer was open. I didn't feel like paying for something to get change. Right then a customer behind me came up, paid, and I got my change without buying anything.

4- On my MP3 player I wanted to listen to a particular song. But I randomized the list so I had no idea when that song was going to come up. I decided I wanted to hear it, and after a few songs later I did get it. I calculated the odds of that happening and concluded the odds were very low.

I can't emphasize enough the connectedness and assurity I felt. But here's where I started to falter: I was going to meet up with a friend today but I hadn't heard from them. I care deeply about our friendship, but even though we made the decision to meet up I didn't know if he was going to remember it. While I was waiting, I kept thinking that he probably forgot, and then I got sad and upset. This is where my confidence began to unravel. I was hurt by the absence of his call and I felt myself lose the higher, "carefree" state I was in before. I haven't been able to regain it since. I am disappointed for not maintaining that previous state because of this. I'm surprised that this affected me so much...I was concerned with the outcome, too attached I would say. Attached to the point where if we didn't meet it would affect my day and my mood and thoughts.

The question is: how can I overcome this? How can I maintain detachment and a "carefree" yet trusting attitude over something I am attached to in any and all cases? What can I do to initiate and maintain this state?

[Angela]

When you're attached, all you gotta do is acknowledge what you're holding onto and then let it go.

So many methods for doing that have been discussed on these boards: Byron Katie's "The Work", Sedona Method, Landmark, etc... they all have different ways of getting there, but it all boils down to:

Look at it, and let it go

[callmecrazy]

Coincidence no, Very close. What you experienced was a synchronicity......
'A wink from the universe', a sign your on the right track. You consciously asked for things to happen, for signs that there was in-fact someone or something watching over you at this time, and they answered, you got what you wanted.
Perhaps the universe wanted to make sure you knew that it would answer you immediately, but now having proved itself it doesn't necessarily need to continue.
Remember that everything happens in divine timing, when it is meant to, for whatever reason your friend didn't show up, I’m sure there was a reason, perhaps it was testing you, and now you seemed to have pulled yourself (consciously or unconsciously) out of the flow. Once you step back in, You will once again begin to experience synchronicities, and overwhelming joy!. Just trust!

[Lychee]

Thanks for your replies

[DoAnyOfYouExist]

Sounds like something I may have started a thread on, you may be thinking of me thanks for that. I have been having a great past few days, I am bubbling with energy and confidence and everyone around me seems to be all the more friendly, energetic, and happy as well...

Ok so holding onto the state you speak of. You need to let go of your desire for certain outcomes. Also try not to think of the possible negative outcomes. This goes against everything I have been taught in my life and how I have always operated. "Think of everything that can happen before you do that" etc etc. I have always thought of the worst case scenarios my whole life and I have found If you think about the negative outcomes they usually come. I have been trying to only have possitive thoughts and it has made the last few days great. Another thing I have been working on is forgiveness and deleting my limiting beliefs, and thoughts of people. I normally have this pressure in my chest but I have almost none left as I have been letting my opinions die and my judgements fall away. I realized the judging is where the tension comes from for me.

I have been rambling so I don't know if any of that was any help. Just remember you are infinite and though it is nice to have people around to share in the experience of life, you do not NEED them to be happy and you can do well to unattach yourself from them...the love WILL still remain, they just don't need to be your world.

[Lola]

Originally Posted by Lychee

The question is: how can I overcome this? How can I maintain detachment and a "carefree" yet trusting attitude over something I am attached to in any and all cases? What can I do to initiate and maintain this state?

Lychee - I ask the same questions. I find I'm having successes, like yours, when it's things I'm not super attached to. And I will say, the more practice I get at maintaining detachment, the easier it gets. But the BIG issues - the ones I REALLY care about - are hard to let go.

Originally Posted by DoAnyOfYouExist

I have always thought of the worst case scenarios my whole life and I have found If you think about the negative outcomes they usually come.

The superhero known as "Worst Case Scenario Girl"...that's me - oops - wait - let me re-frame. That WAS me - I'm currently morphing into Best Case Scenario Girl! It's been a real awakening for me the past few months to realize just how often my knee-jerk thoughts and reactions tend to be negative. Being the semi-professional control freak I've always been, I always thought it was just so I could be prepared to deal with any possible outcome. Of course I'm learning now that I programmed the outcome by anticipating the worst case.

I'm finding it takes a great deal of faith to trust that the universe will deliver the best possible outcome.

My tips (for what they're worth from a struggler!) are meditating and using positive affirmations every morning, with frequent reinforcements throughout the day, and visualization - my favorite and so far most effective being I'm floating effortlessly down the river to all the good things in my life - just letting the current take me where I need to be rather than mapping a course, whipping out all the navigational tools, and wearing myself out with the oars...

[Lychee]

I have to definitely learn how to detach myself to certain desires. It's hard because there are things that are so important to me that the idea of just having a "whatever" attitude towards my desires hurts. I guess not caring to some extent helps, but that hasn't landed me in the best position sometimes. It's going to take time for me to really get the hang of this.

[DoAnyOfYouExist]

It isn't about not "caring" Caring with your spirit and caring with your ego will result in different things.

Don't cry over spilt milk.

Care for the man with no legs and no home on the corner.

[Lychee]

Yes, I agree.