if we're not in control of our dreams than what is?

[queryfairy7]

i just woke up from a very uncool dream! maybe i'm watching too many heroes

it was a blind date that my friends had set up with a guy i had a crush on, and later on, when the dream starts getting intimate, no. that wasn't the guy i had a crush on. it was the guy that sexually assaulted me. fmd.

Its the whose in charge of my dream question that I want to know!

[Mynder]

You are. And all this serves a kind of purpose. I would suggest that there is something about that other guy that you still haven't fully processed to a point that you can "live with it", so it gets thrown back up piecemeal in order to allow you to digest it at your own pace.

Or, it serves to hint at a fear you're having, and allowing you to find ways to cope with it. This is usually the case with recurring dreams that pester and plague us until something in us changes, and we manage to deal with it or at least don't see it as threatening anymore (expanded understanding).

I hope this makes sense to you.

Short version: something is plaguing your subconscious, and it uses your dreams to tell you and give you an opportunity to deal with it within a controlled environment (the dream) where you can't really be harmed.

[Alan1986]

Yes, you are in charge.

In addition, you are also the guy who gets intimate with you.

Your consciousness is telling you something.

[MiBeloved]

Control?

Whose is in control?

We are on a tiny planet in a dark corner of the Milky Way and we might live for 100 years out of billions.
In a way it is ludicrous that we even mention the word control.

[freelife]

Originally Posted by MiBeloved

Control?

Whose is in control?

We are on a tiny planet in a dark corner of the Milky Way and we might live for 100 years out of billions.
In a way it is ludicrous that we even mention the word control.

As far as individual concerned, we are controlling our way of life. Isn't it?

[AndrewJen]

• You describe him as a crush which is somewhat juvenile.
• You're friend chose him for you.
• You're seemingly rushed into a sexual situation.
• He turns out to be someone who hurts you.

Maybe its just the part of yourself that is sick of getting hurt, warning you to not be naive, etc.

For the most part it seems more like it's a dream calling you to be more aware of who you let into your life. But what do I know? Think about it and decide for yourself.