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| Over the past few days, I have been doing an experiment where I allow myself to fully experience any negative feeling that manifests. My method is not ground breaking and is based on be present. When I have felt negativity, I focused on it, didn't embellish or judge it or reject it, and poof the negativity was instantaneously gone. I have not searched or dug into my past for negativity, just applied focus as it surfaced. Admittedly, the negativity was minor, but even so it dissipated immediately and effortless. Where did it go, was it ever there, was it only an illusion or did my negativity go into hiding? I asked myself these questions and my answer was: negativity is an illusion. Hmmm. If I take that futher is emotional pain also an illusion? |
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I think it's better to acknowledge the reality of suffering and say that suffering is based on an illusion. If you let go of the illusion, the pain fades away, although representing as it does habitual mental structures, it seldom goes "poof" unless, as in your case, it's some very minor negativity. This is an important distinction because it gets at the core of the problem. The problem is not pain, but the source of pain: trying in one or more ways to make life or some aspect of life be something other than what it is. Resistance to what is brings pain. Acceptance of what is prevents pain. Learning to live well within what is, brings fulfillment. --Bob |
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| Emotional pain is real. Do you have to feel the suffering? No.
__________________ Self Development Blog: www.warriordevelopment.com |
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| This I could agree with. One can use mind tricks to make yourself feel any emotion you want at any time, even if they contradict the current situation's socially expected emotion. A very easy example of this is when you see a person you hate slip on ice and break their arm. Someone nearby might laugh over the slip but usually if one hears a crack then nearby people tend to rush up with concern. [Not always though, crowd mindset and all] If you hate the person then you may quietly be thrilled for their misfortune and might have to hide your smile. On a more positive note, you could have just lost your job, your pet gets hit by a car and as you sit there wallowing in misfortune you could see a butterfly land on your foot and feel very happy from it. Either the emotional trigger is strong from unconscious conditioning or you've trained yourself to respond to similar events in a desired way. |
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| I definitely think that emotional pain is as "real" as anything else we experience. The question is what do you with it? You can use it as an indicator in your emotional guidance system as advocated by Abraham. Or you could love the pain and yourself and use it to open more fully as advocated by Arnold Patent. I don't think the two methods are mutually exclusive. Emotion is often referred to as energy in motion. It's perfect experience it and keep moving. It's when we get stuck in it that we may experience stuckness in our lives. |
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We can debate whether things HAVE to hurt. We can debate whether our emotions are as compelling as we think they are, or whether they accurately reflect the true nature of our situation. We can debate whether some or all emotional pain is self-inflicted or not. We can debate whether emotional pain can be waved away with this or that technique or practice. But I don't think we can pretend that pain doesn't exist. Nor do I think that pain is even inherently a Bad Thing. It is what tells us when we are hurting ourselves or not taking care of ourselves. The only thing bad is loving pain / drama / suffering. The fact that the ego can manufacture and revel in pain and drama and suffering doesn't usually make pain, drama and suffering unreal or illusory. It just means that the pain is being suffered for illusory or sick reasons. I know it is more provocative to say that pain is an illusion, but it's not more accurate ;-) --Bob |
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If both are illusions, there wouldn't be much left for the human to experience. |
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| Being aware of ourselves, our surroundings and with the things we can learn leaves plenty to experience.
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| Yes, I got this recently. As I mentioned in my post to Bob, there is some suffering, which I question being manifested by the ego and wonder if consciousness also creates situations in life, which is part of our life lessons. No question, ego sabotages this learning by playing the victim, non-acceptance and every other trick in the book. How do you see this Torilink? |
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| Is it not our attachment to our emotional experience that also leads us to suffering? I can see this, but still my ego strives to make it happen in its own way, however, my short glimpses in an awakened state have shown me that ego's delivers excellence when it comes to negative experiences, but is second rate in creating joyful experiences. |
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Your ego is committed to your believing you are separate and alone. It is excellent at helping you feel bad because that keeps it alive and thriving. Things like jealousy, envy, frustration, money worries, shoulds .... they are all perfect for convincing you that you are on your own. So here you are having glimpses of the experience of being One with All - Real Joy. Absolute love, and limitless abundance. Your ego gets all panicky and tells you, "Nuh-uh! Ich don't theenk so!" -- your expanded self creates a nice scenario of emotional pain, and you plummet back into believing you are this limited being. Isn't that perfect? |
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| What is experience without positive or negative emotions? Thought is only part of an experience. |
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Personally I do not see my ego as separate. I see it as my subconscious causing all sorts of mischief until awareness steps in. Most certainly it has had me chasing my tail repeating old patterns of behaviour. However, as soon as I catch the little bugar, it quits. I'm not sure about my subconscious attaching to emotional experience that leads to suffering as all my memories are of emotional experiences, positive and negative. I remember very little of parrot learning, for want of a better term. I also would agree with Bob that suffering is not neccessarily a 'bad' thing. Yes, it hurts but, I see it in my life as a signal for change. Maybe we aren't looking after ourselves (as Bob suggests) and maybe we need to stop running, denying and avoiding our suffering to make room to grow. |
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| I was just going through my notes on I Can Do It, and Marianne Williamson said, "Just because something is not real doesn't mean you don't feel it." My experience is that there's a big difference between pain and suffering. Pain is a guidepost, a signal, a finger pointing at the moon. Pain is a wonderful boon to you in getting a clue about generating a life you love. Suffering, on the other hand, is the choice you make to dwell in the pain as way of avoiding actually getting the clue and generating a life you love. Suffering = fear. |
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| Dancer, it's like you've designed a video game for yourself -- that is, your Expanded Self, Oneness, is designing this game of being human, in which "Dancer" has the featured role, and "Angela" is another character, and "Maguru" and "Jarrod", too. Dancer and Angela and Maguru and Jarrod appear to be separate and unconnected, but when you pull back your perspective, you see that they are separate in the same way that the characters in your dreams are separate -- "we" are all aspects of You. We all exist within your consciousness. Your Expanded Self creates "us", but that doesn't mean we are figments of "Dancer's" imagination. We are all aspects of the world that lives in your consciousness -- we are all, in fact, You. So why would you design a video game with different avatars? The same reason you are creating a world with all of these different characters. For the fun of it. Part of the fun of playing a video game lies in following the rules, and believing in the parameters that the avatars must comply with. It's like playing beach volleyball. You don't have to believe that you "win" if you reach 21 points before the other team, but it makes the game more fun. Now, this game of being a human being.... You (your expanded self) has chosen, for the fun of it, to make these "human" rules, and to play within those rules. So you set it up to look like you are a limited being. And as you go along, you unconceal from yourself your power, beauty, abundance, and joy, in little steps -- like Pac Man eating those things he eats and becomes stronger for it. You become more and more powerful, more able to see the fabulousness infinite Joy that is your essential self, a little at a time, so that you can savor each step. As you get glimpses of your own infinite Joy, you begin to see how much fun is this process you've made of thinking your problems are really problems. I once used the analogy of a kid's art project, in which you scrape off the black paint to reveal a pattern of brightly crayoned brilliance shining underneath, in the shape of something you love. That's way more fun than just shaving all the black paint off all at once, isn't it? Some people do that, though; they have huge epiphanies in which the black paint is gone forever and there is nothing but bright color eternally. Some of these people live on mountain tops in Tibet. Eckhart Tolle might be one of those people, I don't know. So expanding is: scraping off the black paint so that you can reveal to yourself, and delight in, your incredible beauty and infinite Joy. The more you do that, the more malleable the rules become, in my experience -- the more synchronicity, magic, power, and fun becomes available at your fingertips. The more your avatar "Dancer" becomes able to now make her own rules, like a Sorceress. Does that sound like fun? p.s... this is not The Truth. Don't believe me, just try on the perspective, if you want to. For fun. |


