Huge Pain Bodies

[coLLege kid07]

Today after doing some websurfing for a little while, I noticed that my roommate had started to play Guitar Hero. I recognized that from the other day that he was going to try and play the song he kept failing at a hundred times. It was from there I noticed it. He kept failing and failing and failing, and for a second I wasn't even sure if he was just going to destroy the t.v. Now all during this time I sat quietly at my desk trying to be as present (/ignore) as best I could to what was going on. I must say at the time I felt really helpless...like there wasn't much of anything I could've done. I could've just watched him dig a tomb for himself. Now as for right now I'm not really sure what to do. I'm not sure if I should comfront him about it...? Not sure if thats the best idea....also considering that his pain body is ready to explode...and also is there anything I can do?? I know of course be present but I don't feel I'll be able to muster up enough energy for something like that...any suggestions?

Now that I think about it...is it just my pain body thats acting this way (scared, helpless?)

[Matthew Shea]

It sounds like your roommate is obsessed and mastering this song has become a point of pride for him. When he's got his emotions back in check, you might quietly suggest that working up to such a difficult song more slowly might be a more productive way of mastering this nemesis of his than beating his head against a wall (not to mention that he's driving you crazy as it is).

[DayInTheLife]

Sounds like your problem, not his.

He's just playing a video game, no need to save him from anything. If his frustration is bothering you, you need to change your mental reaction, not him.

[The Cloud]

Misery loves company. As long as you are recognizing his pain body as something to be dealt with, it will react to the dealing. The same with your own.

[fwellers]

Originally Posted by coLLege kid07

So to realise everything as perfect is the key to full acceptance?

Interesting. I think maybe not though.
If everything was perfect, then what reason would there be to act or do anything ?
I think we know that as long as there is unconcsiousness in the world, then there is going to be imperfection.

But you can fully accept what IS, in this moment. If you think that action is required ( due to something not being perfect ), then act. As long as your action is based on being fully aware of why you are acting.

If your reason for acting is because it's getting on your nerves, then maybe life would be better served by you not doing anything outwardly, and instead just accept the moment, and bring all of your awareness to it. Feel the feelings it brings up in you, and be aware of them too. Just focus on the whole situation as fully as you can.
Then I think you would be bringing your intense presence into the moment, and the whole universe will work with you in that moment.

I had a small aha moment the other day. I had pain in my neck that was really irritating me. I decided to practice the power of awareness and use the situation as a tool. I focused as much of my full awareness on the pain. And guess what happened. The pain disappeared like magic.
Then my concentration broke, and the pain came back. Then I focused again, and the pain went away.
Just like Eckart Tolle says in his books, is how it worked for me. Now the thing I would like to do is continue to exercise my awareness so that I can do that more effectively and in more situations.

Thanks for listening.

[coLLege kid07]

hmm makes sence...thank you

I'll keep that in mind next time a situation comes along....maybe the reason it got so out of hand is because I didn't fully accept it in the first place. Thanks.

[fwellers]

You're very welcome. :-)

[coLLege kid07]

I'm come to an understanding that now since I've had the "transformation"... all thats left to do is live life (contradictory I know lol). Everything that is left behind or remains is just one's uncovered fears / conditioned patterns that you've gained throughout your life. All you/I or whoever has to do is just go against those patterns and thus uncover them with the rising awareness of one's presence.

I'm sure this was probably rather obvious for most people...but being known as the shy/introverted person of the past it was a little hard for me to get a handle on. If that helps anyone...I'm pretty glad, and if not..... least I learned something =).