Where do You Find Couples to Hang Out With?

[yacapo]

I'm doing some research here. If you are a couple, married or not, could you tell me how and where you are able to meet other couples you can hang out with?

My wife and I barely know any young couples, let alone married couples. I have my friends and she has hers but we barely hang out with them since they are single and we are not.

[Mark Lapierre]

Gawd, I have the opposite problem. Nearly all of my friends are in couples. Wanna swap?

Unfortunately I can't actually help you, I met all my friends at places you'd generally meet single people. They were just either in couples at the time, hanging out as a group, or they became couples later.

[Dating Specialist]

Hey yacapo

Why not ask yourself where would you like to hang around as a couple to start with?

Also how about considering to join some interest groups where it generally involves couples, say dancing (that is if you're into it)? Or some form of community service for example. Just some ideas. You probably can check out what's happening around your neighbourhood.

If all else fails, why not be proactive and organise a couples party? Then advertise and lo and behold! You're on your way to making friends!

Cool?

[Holistic Star]

Why not invite her friends and your friends to a party at your house?

You never know what couples might result!





ps (If they are like my friends - I'd lock your bedroom door!)

[DmitryDavydov]

Originally Posted by yacapo

I'm doing some research here. If you are a couple, married or not, could you tell me how and where you are able to meet other couples you can hang out with?

My wife and I barely know any young couples, let alone married couples. I have my friends and she has hers but we barely hang out with them since they are single and we are not.

Are you talking swing sex here or just buddies? Because adults don't generally freak out "oh my god, we don't have any couple to hang out with". You can hang out with your neighbours, co-workers, etc.

[elainevdw]

Originally Posted by DmitryDavydov

Are you talking swing sex here or just buddies? Because adults don't generally freak out "oh my god, we don't have any couple to hang out with". You can hang out with your neighbours, co-workers, etc.

I humbly disagree! If you're one of the only couples you know, you have the problem of not being able to have one friend over without possibly creating a third wheel situation. You don't have other people to laugh/♥♥♥♥♥ about the funny parts of being in a relationship with. And if your single friends also happen to be lonely, it can be really annoying to them to hang out with you as a couple all the time. And while you do need one-on-one time with friends, part of the fun of being in a relationship is to hang out with your significant other in a group, showing them off and watching them interact with people.

[Dating Specialist]

Originally Posted by elainevdw

I humbly disagree! If you're one of the only couples you know, you have the problem of not being able to have one friend over without possibly creating a third wheel situation. You don't have other people to laugh/♥♥♥♥♥ about the funny parts of being in a relationship with. And if your single friends also happen to be lonely, it can be really annoying to them to hang out with you as a couple all the time. And while you do need one-on-one time with friends, part of the fun of being in a relationship is to hang out with your significant other in a group, showing them off and watching them interact with people.

Exactly! Because while you can soak yourself dry with all the information on love and relationships from books, what could be the next best way, if not the best way to learn then from real-life couples!

Everyone has a story or two to share. The interactions will surely be fun. More so if the couples decide to bring some singles friends and have some Cupids get-together! Wonderful!

[yacapo]

Thanks for you responses. The reason I asked is because my wife and I just founded a website to help couples find couple-friends in their area. I was curious about how people were meeting their friends.

I found a lot of people online that said they were tired of not having many couple-friends, so we decided to start the website. If you are interested, you can click on the link in my signature.

NOTE: It's not a swingers site. It's just for couples looking for other couples to hang out with, and maybe become good friends.

[jneddin]

Originally Posted by DmitryDavydov

Are you talking swing sex here or just buddies? Because adults don't generally freak out "oh my god, we don't have any couple to hang out with". You can hang out with your neighbours, co-workers, etc.

Actually they do. Singles don't have the same interests or objective as couples do. Me and my hubby would love to find some compatable couples to hang out with but have a hard time sorting through the swinging crap!

[Angela]

Hi, jneddin, and welcome! Did you realize you responded to a thread that has been dormant for almost four years? Most of these people haven't been around for a loooong time.

I'll bet if you're interested in this topic, though, other people probably are out there, too -- maybe you'd find it interesting to start a new thread?

Anyway, I hope you have a wonderful time here.

[Weena]

Originally Posted by jneddin

Actually they do. Singles don't have the same interests or objective as couples do. Me and my hubby would love to find some compatable couples to hang out with but have a hard time sorting through the swinging crap!

It's possible to meet compatible couples, but I'd say you have more chance to find them "in real life" rather than online.

[Kishka]

[QUOTE=jneddin;624363 Singles don't have the same interests or objective as couples do.[/QUOTE]

Jneddin, or anyone else, what are 'couples' interests and objectives? Making babies and buying houses?

[Weena]

Originally Posted by Kishka

Jneddin, or anyone else, what are 'couples' interests and objectives? Making babies and buying houses?

I don't need people to be coupled up to hang out with them. I'm not couple-ist . I do stuff with couple we hang with that are same as what you would do with single people. We have a couple of close friends who, like us, have a couple of kids. We've been doing pretty cool stuff together...camping, kayaking, hiking, outdoors climbing... and of course talking about babies and the houses we bought .

[pyrogen]

Ah what the heck, I'll jump on the bandwagon since someone decided to necro this old thread anyway.

It is just demographics. No more, no less.

When I was in my early 20s and single, there was maybe one engaged couple in the group, and the female member of the couple had two more fiancees before finally marrying the third. About half of the relationships were couples at any one time but they were boyfriend/girlfriend, maybe a few were starting to experiment with living together, and a majority would not still be together within about a year. I'm pretty sure that any "young couple" who decided to get married, would probably be the only married couple in any of these groups. I didn't hang out in the more conservative social groups where people tended to marry young.

By the time that I got married at ~30, my social group was about 40% married, 25% in serious relationships and the rest were at some stage of either looking or in relationship formation. I didn't feel particularly pressured to be married by my social group because plenty were still *not* married.

Now, at 36, my social group is about 1% unmarried. People started marrying *quickly* in the mid thirties if they weren't already married, I've noticed... the whole relationship trajectory changed. It used to be... date someone for a few years, live together, get married. Now I notice that people are starting to hook up very quickly... date someone for a year then get married. Every time I look up, someone is now married who I knew to be single last year.

When I am partnered up again, I am reasonably certain that we'll mostly have married friends, simply because at *present* I mostly have married friends.

It's depressing, it means that I don't go to parties or impromptu dinners or such anymore (which I miss doing) unless it's some kind of pre-planned "singles" activity. I am not clicking with the married people; everyone has to check with their spouse, and once they have kids, you pretty much never see them again (unless you too have kids).

I spend a lot more time alone than I'd like, but it's just how the demographics work. I'm sure again that we'll have no problem having other couples as friends once it's my turn on the merry go round again.

[metamorph]

Originally Posted by pyrogen

Ah what the heck, I'll jump on the bandwagon since someone decided to necro this old thread anyway.

Originally Posted by pyrogen

People started marrying *quickly* in the mid thirties if they weren't already married, I've noticed... the whole relationship trajectory changed. It used to be... date someone for a few years, live together, get married. Now I notice that people are starting to hook up very quickly... date someone for a year then get married.

Well, if you are in your mid-thirthies you do not want to be holding hands for 3 years before you make a commitment. Especially as a woman. And often you don't have to, because you are much more mature and more aware of yourself as a person. This makes it a lot easier to judge if it may "work".


I cannot agree more with your last paragraphs. I feel the same!