Social phobia causing me to hate everyone?

[SuperDuperDude]

I've had social phobia for a very long time. I don't have it THAT bad, but nonetheless I never really socialize. Especially with people my own age.

What I have just realized is that it is very easy to insult me. When it comes to people other than family that is. I get revenge on my mind very easily. I also kind of feel sometimes like I just want to "get even" with society.

I know that no one has done anything wrong, they've been real nice, I guess.

Could it simply be anger at myself? Or maybe related to the social phobia?

[Shamou]

You might want to read this blog by Steve... it could give you some insight on your problem...

The very best of luck to you...
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[Amandaaa]

I also kind of feel sometimes like I just want to "get even" with society.

i felt like that for a couple years too.

but i had a specific reason. (...which i'm sure is very different from yours).
...i was angry at the way that "society" created this standard of beauty that girls were expected to live up to. i felt like no one was ever pleased. i was constantly getting ridiculed for being "too skinny" and looking "sickly," yet at the same time, i was also getting praised. it was ridiculous...and it made me resent people in general. i pretty much hated everyone. i felt like a normal, happy person who was being driven insane by a crazy society.

but ANYWAY- back to the topic.

i was able to overcome all of that by realizing that i had complete control over my sanity and my happiness...

if you start getting paranoid about what other people think, you lose yourself in the process.

sooooo you kind of have to change the way that you see yourself and the world.
you have to stop thinking of yourself as an outcast...and realize that people are a lot more accepting than you think.

don't sweat the small stuff, and try to use your youth as a chance to gain new insight by meeting & connecting with new people.
you learn something from everyone you meet.

Could it simply be anger at myself? Or maybe related to the social phobia?

i think it could be related to the social phobia...

i went through a stage where i was completely antisocial, and it took a while for me to get back into a "social circle" again, too.
i had to start by hanging out with one of my old best friends, and get comfortable with her again...and then we started hanging out with other girls, and going out together, and then hanging out with some guys, and then my social life was back to normal again.

you just have to start small and work your way up.
...especially if you're used to being alone all the time.



good luck.

[Christian223]

Well, its hard to see your problem because you dont give many details, so im going to give you my experience, maybe it will help you.

I was antisocial for a long time too, i hated people, i thought they where stupid, and that i was very special, very smart, and i hated their questions, their customs, what they did, etc.

The real issue was me of course, more precisely that i couldnt accept that i was shy, and that i wasnt so smart socially speaking, i was very insecure in fact, so making up this illusion of myself beign superior was a way of not facing my real inferiority complex problem.

Maybe you have another kind of problem that you dont want to face, be brave, accept the truth, and when you accept it youll be able to do something to change it.

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