Making space

[ericwordelman]

I don't know if anyone else is going through this but in Eckart Tolle's audio awakening to your true purpose he describes this as making space in your life. After you find your purpose and commit some relationships will disolve and others will deepen, you may quit your job or open a business, etc etc. Well I've lost all of my friends. I have none of them. I barely leave the house because their is nowhere of interest for me to go. I barely have human interaction except with my mother because I still live with her but we're on totally different planes. She smokes and drinks and I cannot wait to move out. But the point is I have nothing going for me in my life except I know my purpose and I know my passion and I'm sort of worried that nothing is going to come of this. I know Tolle just says it's making space for the new and improved, but how do I really know? I feel as if I'm deluding myself. I wouldn't want my old frirends back anyways since they are drug addicts, but I have not had any friends for a couple years, and for the past 7 months I've immersed myself intensely into personal development with hopes and dreams to become a writer/blogger/speaker/entrepreneur in the field of personal development, but as of the present moment I have little to show for that except around 150 books. I know of the law of attraction and have been applying it religiously since I saw the movie "The Secret" which was around 5 months ago and the only manifestations that I've had were my personal development books and I still need 200 of those to gain a competency in this field! Basically I'm sick and tired of my life it's been at a stand still it feels like for the past 2 years and I'm ready for it to pick up and am a little impatient and am just wondering if what Tolle says is really true that this is all just making space in my life for the new and improved.

[Life Warrior]

Hey ericwordelman,

Great job at realizing that your life is not where you want it to be, but your journey is just begining. Maybe I'm not understanding your situation, but it seems like you are only studying personal development instead of applying it. Remember what Bruce Lee said, "Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do." The end of man is action, not thought!

Get out there in the world and take some chances! Before trying to be a personal development guru and giving people advice, you must be able to follow every single advice! I view the knowing of the need for change as a gateway to a higher level of conciousness. But in order get to that level, you must take action and take chances and engage the situation. I usually don't throw that many quotes around, but here is one last food for thought from Enstein: "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it."

Good luck!

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Hey, Eric. You have a friend on this forum first off. Probably many in fact. I know this is not what you meant, but it's a start!

I would suggest looking to your interest and finding a club or group in your area that shares them. I believe that you are fairly young...do you go to school? If so, maybe you could start a Personal Development club of some sort. Or, look to start a Raw Food club. You can also look for existing groups like these in your area. It's likely you could meet some people there who would be more in line with your new self and who might actually help you on your path.

I think you've got the first step taken care of in that you recognize what's going on and you've got a plan in place for what you want. Now, just start taking steps to put into practice some of what you've learned and the things you want to do. And get out of the house.

Good luck. I think you will do great!

[bluskygirl]

I agree with others on this! Your journey has just begun, so don't give up. When I was 18, I decided to go to college. My group of friends were unsupportive and offended that I was "leaving them" (i.e. their way of life) to go to school. Consequently, none of them ever talked to me again. At first it was very hard. I had this tiny one bedroom apartment and aside from going to work and to the gym everyday I didn't do anything except write in my journal and spend time alone. I worried that I might be alone forever, and probably felt a lot like you feel now. The moral of this story is that the changes I made were the right ones, and your personal development stuff is correct- you're opening up space in your life to bring better things to you (not drug-addicted friends). Be patient and have faith that you're on the right path.

I think balance is important as far as keeping you motivated, and if feeling isolated makes it hard for you to press on, then I would also recommend that you get yourself out there. My vegan friend joined several vegan pot luck groups, and also a running group to meet people. Even going to a gym everyday can help you to feel less isolated. Action is key, so start working on attracting new people to your life; the kind you want; the kind that inspire you!