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[MM19]

Sounds like you have a lot going on. Quick question, and just the first idea that popped into my mind: Any chance your feelings of wanting to detach from the man you like is about you needing to forgive your dad? I know that must be hard, but if you see him, not as your dad, but some aspect of yourself, you might be able to see that his inability to be the sort of man someone would want to call dad must be hard for him too. Perhaps if you forgive him - for yourself as much as for him - you can remove this block that keeps you from manifesting what you want in relationships. I find, often, that those people who have not been able to resolve issues with their parents often cannot maintain relationships. I think that it would be a great shame for you and your dad if you did not or could not say "I love you regardless" before he dies. It would give you both some peace and might allow the healing you need to make this new relationship work! I do think that these signs popping up (his name appearing everywhere, that you feel it is unfinished, etc.) are telling you that you should contact him eventually, but that you need to heal something with your dad first. Does that make sense? Oh, MmeIntention, my light is shining to you. May you heal, love, and be brave! It is in you! You CAN do this! Keep up the good fight!

[MmeIntentional]

Oh don't get me wrong I have forgiven my dad many years ago. I even told him that I forgave him and he was so happy that I told him so.
But as you said I done this many years ago for myself, not him. It's for sure finished with my dad as he finished it himself but I didn't think that was that mean. I did write to him to but closer and that's it. We've also said our good byes a few times before just incase. I hear what you say, this is why I made the contact in the first place.

Thanks for your kind words
Also after my post yesterday I feel much better about things about my dad but still feel like a loved up teenager dancing around the flat to Elivs (sorry) I'm 35 yrs old.........

With the guy I can't contact him anymore. It's not my pride, trust me as I was contacting him before ..taking lots of action. He knows that I like him alot but is a little arrogant about the fact I was chasing him at first and loves it's ..his ego is FAT. He did try to comprise but I told him that it's not 50/50. I was more hoping that we would start of getting to know eachother etc. but he finds it hard to get close or wanting to spend time me. Which is weird because I can see that he is dead keen and fancies me like hell and does like to please me It's like he has to stop himself from getting hurt.

At the same time I have to think about my needs as he may be happy living the single life dating etc. BUT on the other hand he says that he want's to settle down
I just want to have fun with him and enjoy without making any sorts of plans esp. when we don't know eachother much. I'm keeping it real

Yes it's weird his name keeps popping up but the contact his to come from him if any. He knows deep down that I would jump at the chance.

I can't think of anything apart from detaching, can you or anybody think of anything else ??? Do PM if you don't want to post here.

Also he has one or two problems that he may need help for, which makes me think that he doesn't want me to find out that he is weak or mad or whatever. If I do then he would be in too deep and I would dump him after knowing xyz (he thinks) We all have our little quirks and not looking for Mr. Right but will not I settle for less than 50/50.

Anyways if he is going to make contact he would just do it via email as he had major problems talking in general but spent ages on the phone with me on Saturday trying to work things out to his advantage Sinse we first met, it's been nothing but comprising all the way on both sides (relationships eh )


Sorry I've gone on a bit

[alexinspire]

I love the way Aspring to Clarity answer the question. (His or her first reply)

The more we think about the relationship, the more stuck we are. When we shift our attention to other things, I notice I no longer have bad images or thoughts in my head about the relationship.

There are also books which teach people how to get their ex back. There is a technique which is:

Shift your focus in something else. Do something you love and stop focusing on the relationship. When you focus on other areas, you will feel happier and more attractive to others. This have a higher chance to get back your ex.

[MmeIntentional]

Originally Posted by alexinspire

I love the way Aspring to Clarity answer the question. (His or her first reply)

The more we think about the relationship, the more stuck we are. When we shift our attention to other things, I notice I no longer have bad images or thoughts in my head about the relationship.

Shift your focus in something else. Do something you love and stop focusing on the relationship. When you focus on other areas, you will feel happier and more attractive to others. This have a higher chance to get back your ex.

I agree 100%, this is what I'm trying to do now, as it's always worked for me in the past.

Thanks

[MM19]

It sort of just "clicked" with me today and last night. Thank you all so much for coming back to this thread! It has been a real light for me. You are all a gift!

[MmeIntentional]

[QUOTE={aspiring_to_clarity}

The breakthrough for me came when I was intending good things for him EVEN IF THAT MEANT THEY CAME BY HIM BEING WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

Hmmm, well I hope that I was able to explain my view a little better. I would be happy to try and clear it up if needed. Ultimately you need to find what feels right to you, but this process is what has worked for me.[/QUOTE]


For some reason I missed this post Bu t I guess that was because I was so into me, myself and I

I don't know I mentioned this already but doing what aspiring_to_clarity really does work because the minute I get back into a dark way of thinking, things mess up. When I did detach before wishing all the best for that guy, even if it wasn't going to be me guess what I hear from him. I'm not saying by me doing will have the same results all the time but it's more healthly for my brain cells plus I can get on with my day as normal.

So I would recommend anyone going through the same situation with any relationship to try it asn see what happens.

Thanks
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