Moving on

[jtrikster]

It's such a hard thing to do and I'm definitely having some difficulty.

A little background info, I just lost a friend who I've known for about five years. She's a sister to me and then all of a sudden everything's changed. Lol, she hasn't died, we've stopped becoming friends.

It's been a pretty odd summer and we've tried talking and discussing everything. Discussion turned to argument and the exchange of some pretty nasty things.

In the last conversation I had with her she told me that "my summer hasn't been empty without you" (really odd way to put that but...) and that she says I won't let her go and that in fact I need her. She also added in that I creep her out. Now that one, I'm not sure about at all and threw me for a loop because I don't know how she thinks that.

Well getting past that we both said some pretty nasty and uncalled for things and funny thing is she's blaming all of it on me and whatnot.

I don't deny she was a big part of my life and this is why I'm having problems just moving on. I mean.. logically I have every reason to from what she says but it's still hard. I don't bring people into my life because I need them, I bring them into my life because I want them. Do you see what I mean?

Any suggestions?

[Matthew Shea]

I'd suggest you may want to first take a step back and let the pain and shock subside a bit. At that point, those emotions won't be overwhelming you anymore and you can better evaluate your situation. This kind of thing is always hard and it's natural to fight to maintain a relationship such as this, but at some point, and, by the tone of your message, it seems like you're there, you have to just step back and let it go.

I'm convinced that all things happen for a reason. You may or may not ever figure this out, but in the end, there is bound to be some good that will come of this.

Best of luck to you.

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Originally Posted by Matthew Shea

This kind of thing is always hard and it's natural to fight to maintain a relationship such as this, but at some point, and, by the tone of your message, it seems like you're there, you have to just step back and let it go.

Good advice as always, Matthew. Someone very wise (ok, it was Angela) once told me that maybe you will only see the reasons and the benefit of what has happened when you let go and stop trying so hard to reason through it. That's probably a bad paraphrase, but like Matthew said, sometimes you just have to step back and let it go. When you do, the answer will likely be made clear.

I truly hope you find what you are looking for. I am sorry that you are dealing with this now, but I trust that you will learn and grow through this experience.

[jtrikster]

Thanks for all of your advice!

You are completely right that this definitely happened for a reason. It must have, I mean I've been able to propel myself to different levels of consciousness that I've not felt before. I'm a different person. I'm more alligned to my goals and who I want to be.

I haven't completely let go but I am definitely getting there.

Thanks guys!!