His mom is driving me nuts!

[Epiphany]

Thanks for reading about my problem...
I edited the post cause I'm planning on getting RID of my troubles

[Erki]

No problem, just move away. If it was that easy, of course.

Personally, even if the parents of my girlfriend were the nicest people of them all on the earth, I wouldn't want to live under the same roof with them. It just seems...well I don't want to say wrong but it would be just a bit uncomfortable for me. Having parents and other relatives around makes things much more complicated IMO.

[belugagirl]

I agree with Erki, Epiphany. Move out.

If you can't afford an apartment yourself, and your bf refuses to share one with you, find a roommate or a few with whom to share a place and expenses. Keep your clothes, your perfume, your face cream, and your food at YOUR apartment.

If your bf lends his mother money and doesn't get repaid, that is his business and his problem. If you no longer get rent-free housing from this woman and she asks you for money, that would be beyond rude, but you could bow out by saying that you have learned from past experience that it's best not to borrow from, or lend to, friends.

If your bf cares more about saving money than about your sanity and the integrity of your relationship . . . that should tell you something.

You are completely capable of extracting yourself from this situation. Will it require sacrifice? Yes. But you are already sacrificing: your privacy, your belongings, and especially your peace of mind.

[escapee]

MOVE OUT ! The longer you stay , the higher the risk you would become insane like what had happened a few days ago on my neighbor where a woman shouting and cursing his husband with a defeaning 1x10 power of 100 decibels level about problem similar to yours. Also make sure you consume enough EFAs and nutritious food to increase your resistance against emotional provocation if moving out isnt a choice

GOOD LUCK

[Epiphany]

Thanks for the advice I just needed to complain about her!

I know I should move out SOON or I'm gonna go crazy!
I'm going to start looking for a new place! ALONE!

She keeps saying stuff like: It's so strange how you haven't gotten pregnant yet! Oh, when will I be a grandma!!

She's crazy! She is seriously crazy!

She also borrows money off me all the time and says: I'll give it to you when I get paid!

This is all my fault - I should of never moved in!

[Brutha]

She also borrows money off me all the time and says: I'll give it to you when I get paid!

That should say: "I borrow her money all the time when she says..."
What does she say when you ask her at the end of the month about the money?

At best you write down the amount you borrow her, and let her give you a date when she gives it back.
When that date comes you ask her for it.
Till she repays that amount you won't lend her any new money.

She never ever knocks our door. If the door is locked and she has to knock it and we don't answer she just doesn't ''GET IT''

Lock your door everytime you are in there, and don't respond when the door handle moves before she knocks.
It would also help when you lock your room when you aren't there, when people don't respect that things in your room like your clothes are private.

[VetTechJess]

Originally Posted by Brutha

That should say: "I borrow her money all the time when she says..."
What does she say when you ask her at the end of the month about the money?

At best you write down the amount you borrow her, and let her give you a date when she gives it back.
When that date comes you ask her for it.
Till she repays that amount you won't lend her any new money.

Lock your door everytime you are in there, and don't respond when the door handle moves before she knocks.
It would also help when you lock your room when you aren't there, when people don't respect that things in your room like your clothes are private.

when i lived with my bf and his mother THERE WERE NO LOCKS ON THE BEDROOM DOORS!!! there were doorknobs, but not door locks, as those were only on the bathroom....Dont even get me started as to what I had to go thru to survive.....

[Epiphany]

Ahh! It just sucks! I just use a good old chair on the door...