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Old 06-17-2007, 07:39 PM
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Default How to build social pressure tolerance

Social pressure makes people do a lot of dumb crap, from teens conforming to a dress fashion to adults who feel the need to do financially well with their peers. Learning how to build your social pressure tolerance helps you become an individual with a clear direction in life, instead of following society's default path, which I call the social script. I go out and do social experiments, just to build up my social pressure tolerance more and more. For example, the story of the Fat Girl and I at the bus stop in which I got on the bus in front of 200 people by cutting in the front, despite the constant complaint and bickering of a fat chick.

Building social tolerance helps you explore different possibilities in life, instead of just doing the norm. Like high school kids who go to college or university straight after high school – hey, that's what every one is doing! The list goes on.

To build social tolerance, you need to gradually build it up. Learn how to say no.

One of my favorite thing to do is learn the art of selling and the underlying psychology of it.

What I do sometimes is go into a car dealership and have the car sale man approach me and start doing his high pressure sales tactic.

I would make him invest his time in me and make it seem that I'm going to buy the car, but hesitate. Then the last minute I would say no to the sale, and walk away as if I'm offended.

Another thing is picking up women at the mall. I got my inspiration from the Japanese, who made it into a sport called “Nanpa” (roughly translate as street pickup). Don't be afraid to approach a group of girls, single shoppers, or if you're crazy like me, a girl with her boyfriend.

Don't be afraid to make have a casual chat with the girl, and watch her boyfriend get territorial by hugging her and kissing her. I see this all the time. And if he says “go away”, don't be afraid to say “He's cute” and belittle him in front of his girlfriend. She'll laugh and he can't do anything about it.

Of course, I don't have pleasure belittle the guy, I just do it for social pressure tolerance

So go out there and build your social pressure tolerance, the more you do the more internal oriented you become once you let the outside social pressures dwindle.

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...She'll laugh and he can't do anything about it.
I see an painful lesson in your future.
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I am suprised he hasn't already HAD a painful lesson
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I am suprised he hasn't already HAD a painful lesson
Look at his 30 days experiment in this forum... he practices running every day... that's why...

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Who is this dude? I agree with some of the stuff you're saying about social pressure, but your post seemed very rambling and incoherent.
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Who is this dude? I agree with some of the stuff you're saying about social pressure, but your post seemed very rambling and incoherent.
You can visit him right here...

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... and then you will dream of having it again from time to time.
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... and then you will dream of having it again from time to time.
Why do you think I hang here...??? I'm trying to get infected with it...

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You guys are incorrigible.
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