how do you deal if one of you works days and the other works graveyard shifts???

[VetTechJess]

I know theres some couples out there that have this so I am wondering how you make time for each other. My security job came thru and I work tonight from midnight to 0800. My boyfriend works usually from either 9a-5p or ..........9a-7p with the occasional 9a-9p.

I will be working from 12m-0800. How do other couples make time for each other when you work different schedules?? My bf and I currently live together in a house that we pay a mortgage on.

any advice and tips???

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

It can be especially hard on days when your schedule overlaps, but living in the same house will make it a little easier. The part I missed the most was sleeping together (less cuddle time). Other than that, we did pretty well.

When we had opposite schedules, I was working from ~9am to 5pm and my boyfriend was working from 7pm to 3am or from 10pm to 6am (various schedules, he worked a couple of different jobs where he was on graveyard). We only had one car, so he would take it or I would drop him off and pick him up. We would spend the time in the car talking. I would make breakfast for him when he got home in the morning before I went to work and he would make dinner for me when I got home before he went to work. Mine was a Monday to Friday job while he worked various days. On days when we were both off we'd make the most of it. Sometimes we were really tired, but I think it was worth it. Ironically, I think we actually spent less time together when he got a 9-5 Monday to Friday job because I was home alone awake when he was working loads of overtime.

All of that to say it can be done. I think actually your time together gets better because it's less available - quality because you don't have the quantity. Come up with some plans together. Make sure you schedule some things to do together when you're both off at the same time. Also make sure you each get some time with your friends (could be accomplished while the other is at work I guess).

Also, if this makes the financial situation in the house better, it tends to make everything better because it eases a lot of tension.

Best wishes.

[ZHereford]

Originally Posted by VetTechJess

My security job came thru and I work tonight from midnight to 0800:

Hey VetTech,
Congratulations!

Now the hard part. I agree with Aspiring. Now you're going to have to plan time together and appreciate it more when you have it. This can be a good thing if you manage it well.

[VetTechJess]

Originally Posted by ZHereford

Hey VetTech,
Congratulations!

Now the hard part. I agree with Aspiring. Now you're going to have to plan time together and appreciate it more when you have it. This can be a good thing if you manage it well.

thanks Im excited!