Confused re: psyshic reading & relationship

[meaniegreenie]

Hello All,
I feel very fortunate to have found this site since I have been very emotionally and mentally unstable for the past 3 weeks.
I did not know who to turn to and now I am hoping someone can shed some light on my situation.
A couple weeks back I had a psychic reading over the phone. The man was a reputable and genuine medium who hit on many of my frustrations. The main reason I called was because i felt stuck/frustrated in my life (may be due to the saturn return cycle)---anyway, I was shocked to hear him say that he did not see my current relationship working out in the next four years and that I would actually meet my "soul-mate" in about 5years. I was stunned...I literally broke down on the phone. This is a possibility that I never even considered. My boyfriend and I have been making plans for the future, discussing marriage, etc--so this information was a huge blow. I have had such a sinking feeling in my stomach ever since. I cannot understand that this is even possible. Now when I spend time with my boyfriend I feel as though I am living a lie, since I feel like I know some dark secret about our relationship. But it seriously does not seem possible. I am so so so confused. I have never been in a more loving, nurturing and caring relationship. My boyfriend is my best friend. I am so confused about this whole situation. I feel saddened cause I believe in psychics but I don't want to believe that my boyfriend isn't my soulmate...I feel like the reading I had made me more confused. Should I consult another psychic? Or believe in free will and continue to live in the moment and enjoy spending time with my boyfriend? Or just let it go and let life take its course--which is VERY frightening to me. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What should I do to enjoy the time I spend with my boyfriend? I just cannot allow myself to believe what the psychic said to be true and it's been eating at me everyday? Should I tell my boyfriend what the psychic said and let him decide?

[Erin Pavlina]

You're giving your power away to the psychic. You want to avoid doing that. First of all, the psychic may have misinterpreted what he saw. Secondly, the whole soul mate thing is a little misunderstood. It's possible you decided to meet up with someone specific during this life, but perhaps they won't be your husband, but simply a friend.

Before you went to the psychic how sure were you that your relationship with your boyfriend was strong and the right relationship for you? Were you already in doubt?

[Lychee]

Forget about the psychic and what he told you. No person knows the future.

[Kamma]

I would look to a happy future with your boyfriend. As Erin says the soulmate you are meeting may be a friend, family member.The psychic could have picked up on this and made the statement about your present relationship based on only this knowledge. If you and your boyfriend are happy in your relationship why would you want to through it away based on what mat be a misconception?

[meaniegreenie]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts. I really appreciate you trying to bring clarity re: my situation. I have really been agonizing over the information I was given and was beginning to lose my mind analyzing and re-analyzing everything. The bottom-line is that I am 28, have been with my boyfriend for 4years now and am just kinda trying to figure out what my next steps are. There has NEVER been a doubt in my mind about my love or intentions with my boyfriend and that is EXACTLY why I was shocked that he was even mentioned in the reading. The psychic put doubts in my head, which I never had, which is why this has been confusing.

Erin, I will keep in mind what you said about giving too much power to the psychic.

I think that as long as I stay true to myself and continue to love and foster a healthy relationship things will naturally fall into place. I will try not to doubt the power I have in my own life and in shaping the positive things in it.

Thanks again everyone!!

[Erin Pavlina]

During readings with me people will sometimes say, "I went to a palm reader at a carnival a year ago and she said I would die when I'm 87. Do you see that too?" Invariably the answer is no. There are some scammy psychics out there who like to shock people and give predictions that sound really ominious and that you can't possibly verify until it's way too late to hunt them down and take them to task for giving you false information.

I've had people ask me when they will die during readings and the answer the guides usually give is, "When you're ready" or some variation on that.

[meaniegreenie]

Hi Erin,
What has been haunting me about this experience is that he is a reputable psychic--everything else he talked about was spot on re: work, emotions I have been feeling, etc...he even described me and my boyfriend to a T. He even made a comment saying, "come on, you didn't really think you and your boyfriend would last did you?" When you are in a relationship I think there are always some doubts, but there has never been any red flags or any thoughts that my boyfriend and I didn't have a future--until now. I am not kidding when I say that this experience has really devastated me. I feel like everything I thought my life would be is no longer happening and I'm literally in shock. I know there is no one out there who can say what is or isn't going to happen--i just wish i didn't believe in this reading so much. I think about it EVERYDAY, i can't get it out of my head. I guess i am wondering how to move on from this and keep positive without losing the rest of my mind from overthinking!!!