Confused re: psyshic reading & relationship
 

Hello All,
I feel very fortunate to have found this site since I have been very emotionally and mentally unstable for the past 3 weeks.
I did not know who to turn to and now I am hoping someone can shed some light on my situation.
A couple weeks back I had a psychic reading over the phone. The man was a reputable and genuine medium who hit on many of my frustrations. The main reason I called was because i felt stuck/frustrated in my life (may be due to the saturn return cycle)---anyway, I was shocked to hear him say that he did not see my current relationship working out in the next four years and that I would actually meet my "soul-mate" in about 5years. I was stunned...I literally broke down on the phone. This is a possibility that I never even considered. My boyfriend and I have been making plans for the future, discussing marriage, etc--so this information was a huge blow. I have had such a sinking feeling in my stomach ever since. I cannot understand that this is even possible. Now when I spend time with my boyfriend I feel as though I am living a lie, since I feel like I know some dark secret about our relationship. But it seriously does not seem possible. I am so so so confused. I have never been in a more loving, nurturing and caring relationship. My boyfriend is my best friend. I am so confused about this whole situation. I feel saddened cause I believe in psychics but I don't want to believe that my boyfriend isn't my soulmate...I feel like the reading I had made me more confused. Should I consult another psychic? Or believe in free will and continue to live in the moment and enjoy spending time with my boyfriend? Or just let it go and let life take its course--which is VERY frightening to me. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What should I do to enjoy the time I spend with my boyfriend? I just cannot allow myself to believe what the psychic said to be true and it's been eating at me everyday? Should I tell my boyfriend what the psychic said and let him decide?

You're giving your power away to the psychic. You want to avoid doing that. First of all, the psychic may have misinterpreted what he saw. Secondly, the whole soul mate thing is a little misunderstood. It's possible you decided to meet up with someone specific during this life, but perhaps they won't be your husband, but simply a friend.

Before you went to the psychic how sure were you that your relationship with your boyfriend was strong and the right relationship for you? Were you already in doubt?

Forget about the psychic and what he told you. No person knows the future.

I would look to a happy future with your boyfriend. As Erin says the soulmate you are meeting may be a friend, family member.The psychic could have picked up on this and made the statement about your present relationship based on only this knowledge. If you and your boyfriend are happy in your relationship why would you want to through it away based on what mat be a misconception?

Thank you everyone for your thoughts. I really appreciate you trying to bring clarity re: my situation. I have really been agonizing over the information I was given and was beginning to lose my mind analyzing and re-analyzing everything. The bottom-line is that I am 28, have been with my boyfriend for 4years now and am just kinda trying to figure out what my next steps are. There has NEVER been a doubt in my mind about my love or intentions with my boyfriend and that is EXACTLY why I was shocked that he was even mentioned in the reading. The psychic put doubts in my head, which I never had, which is why this has been confusing.

Erin, I will keep in mind what you said about giving too much power to the psychic.

I think that as long as I stay true to myself and continue to love and foster a healthy relationship things will naturally fall into place. I will try not to doubt the power I have in my own life and in shaping the positive things in it.

Thanks again everyone!!

During readings with me people will sometimes say, "I went to a palm reader at a carnival a year ago and she said I would die when I'm 87. Do you see that too?" Invariably the answer is no. There are some scammy psychics out there who like to shock people and give predictions that sound really ominious and that you can't possibly verify until it's way too late to hunt them down and take them to task for giving you false information.

I've had people ask me when they will die during readings and the answer the guides usually give is, "When you're ready" or some variation on that.

Hi Erin,
What has been haunting me about this experience is that he is a reputable psychic--everything else he talked about was spot on re: work, emotions I have been feeling, etc...he even described me and my boyfriend to a T. He even made a comment saying, "come on, you didn't really think you and your boyfriend would last did you?" When you are in a relationship I think there are always some doubts, but there has never been any red flags or any thoughts that my boyfriend and I didn't have a future--until now. I am not kidding when I say that this experience has really devastated me. I feel like everything I thought my life would be is no longer happening and I'm literally in shock. I know there is no one out there who can say what is or isn't going to happen--i just wish i didn't believe in this reading so much. I think about it EVERYDAY, i can't get it out of my head. I guess i am wondering how to move on from this and keep positive without losing the rest of my mind from overthinking!!!

If a psychic is right about everything else, then I too would be inclined to think they were right about this. Is there any way you could have misinterpreted what he was saying? When he said soulmate did he say you would marry your soulmate or just find him? Did he specifically say you would marry and then divorce your current boyfriend?

he said we had very different vibrations. That my bf was very happy and content with his life (very true) but that mine was just beginning to blossom and that i shouldn't marry early. he said i would marry at 34 (to my "soulmate" NOT my BF) and that if i stayed with my boyfriend it would be like having an "albatross around my neck"....(yikes!!!)....
i think it is very hard to reconcile this information when i don't currently have those feelings toward my boyfriend. it is also very hard for me to continue in the relationship when 1)i love my boyfriend very much and don't want to be with anyone else 2)i believe what the psychic is saying and thus, feel like the time i spend with my boyfriend is a "lie" (since he thinks we are getting married).

The psychic said i do not have to break up with my bf right now, that i would come to understand in time....but it's hard for me to accept that....now i feel like i am in limbo trying to decide if i should just listen to my heart and marry my boyfriend or wait FIVE years to meet this soulmate that may or may not even be true!

what advice do you give to people who can not come to terms with what their reading has uncovered?

Okay, given this information here is what I think the psychic was trying to convey to you, and this is something that comes up in a lot of my readings.

Sometimes when I'm reading for someone I can see that they are currently a vibrational match for the person they are with, but when I look in their future I see that they will be growing and changing and that their current boyfriend will not, thus they will be thrown out of vibrational harmony.

In fact, sometimes when I'm reading for someone who is about to take a major leap in their own development and they ask me why they are not in a relationship I tell them to thank their lucky stars. You don't want to attract a mate when you're at a lower vibration. You want to attract your mate when you're at your highest vibration. If you attract a mate when you are at a lower vibration then you may stay there to keep yourself in vibrational harmony with him.

Obviously it's best if you and your bf can grow together, but sometimes that does not happen and one member of a couple grows past the other and they do become incompatible.

My guess is that the psychic was picking up on the fact that you are in a growth period and your bf is not and when you are 34ish you will understand and realize that you cannot wait for bf to catch up. You won't be in vibrational harmony any more. But you will be a vibrational match for the future bf who will resonate at your frequency.

And this is my PSA: Don't ask the question if you're not willing to hear the answer.

But you still have a choice. You always have a choice. You can marry your current boyfriend and then when you do you will have two paths: one, you grow and leave him behind vibrationally. Or two, you stunt your own growth to remain in vibrational harmony with him. The third option is not yours to control but it would be if your bf grew too. I think the psychic was telling you that he does not see that third option happening.

so take it as a warning. It's a tough prediction but it's probably true.

Again... don't ask the question if you are not ready to hear the truth. I don't know how many times I've had to tell people about an imminent divorce only to hear them protest and then email me 3 months later to tell me it went down exactly as I said it would.

As a psychic I feel an obligation to answer a person's question if their guide gives me an answer. Forewarned is forearmed though. You can see his prediction as a gift or curse. But ultimately you will have to decide what to do about it.

It's also possible that you need your current relationship with your bf to get you to the point where you need to be to attract this soul mate person. Hard to say.

I don't envy you your position. It sucks.

erin,
thank you--this was the clarity & bluntness i needed. for the record i did not ask about my boyfriend--he just threw the information out there and that's why i was so shocked. but i understand now what you mean about vibrations. it's hard to let go of something you cherish and love so much. but that's life, sometimes hurting is apart of the growing (which is what i am slowly learning). Thank you so much for your insight--this is what i was looking for (a deeper interpretation of the reading). I will end this here, thanks!