we become friends

[seed]

hi , i have had a traditional relationship with alady before 2 years , and we was talking to each other by telephone very nice we have planned to get married , for a one ahalf year i saw here (may be for 10 times) , and no sex nothing have been happened , after she saw me alive she told me that she feels me very far , so she decied to be afriend of me , but i feel she love me and i feel that if she know more she will love me ,but i cant because i am in other country , and after all these problems i ask her to see me agian after we decied that we are away and she accept , what shall i do ?? once i meet here ?? ....

[Akashic_Librarian]

Just be yourself Seed, she can't ask any more and you can't give any more

[Radio]

Ask her to be completely honest with you, and be ready for the answer, whether it's good or bad.

If she told you she just wants to be friends, the fact that you think she still loves you doesn't mean much. It's her decision that counts.

If you both feel you are ready for the next step, maybe it's time one of you makes a move so you can be together. Relationships are difficult enough even without an ocean separating the two people.

[Sam988]

I dont think i quite understood it..

- You two have talked for 2 years
- You two had planned to get married
- You two live in separate countries
- You saw her for approximately 10 times
- No sex happened
- She came with the "just friends" thing

Im sorry, bur if you didnt get anything but the "just friends" so far, i dont think anything else will happen. But of course i cant judge the situation based in so little information so my answer is obviously not definite.

Now, for the past 2 years you have been hitting on this one girl only? A girl that lives in another country which you've met only for approximately 10 times and with which you had no intimacy with? Not even a kiss? How is there going to be a relationship between you two if there's no sexual interest of her part?

Sorry man but i think you should go out and start dating other girls. Dont tell me youre in love with this one only. This girl doesnt seem interested in you sexually. Get over it, just say "next" and keep the line going .



By the way, look out the net for some pickup artists' advices. I like Mystery Method and Real Social Dynamics. (Even though those 2 have great ideas and concepts that can be used, i dont like some of them, but thats personal, choose those you like and as for those that dont "match" you, ignore it.)

I suggest you read the ebook called "How to Become an Alpha Male" by John Alexander. Its a great one and explains the dynamics of attraction and dating very well.

[Elenny]

Originally Posted by Sam988

I dont think i quite understood it..

Now, for the past 2 years you have been hitting on this one girl only? A girl that lives in another country which you've met only for approximately 10 times and with which you had no intimacy with? Not even a kiss? How is there going to be a relationship between you two if there's no sexual interest of her part?

We don't know his culture. This could be a cultural thing, and perhaps very normal in his country, so he shouldn't be judged for that.

As far as that pick-up artist stuff on the web....very shallow. It seems like a waste of time and money (if you're paying for it).

I prefer the long-distance-no-sex-getting-to know-each-other man any day of the week before hooking up with someone who has to go online to figure out how to impress me.

What will happen if I ask you a question during our first date? Will you have to excuse yourself to go find a computer with an internet connection?