My wife is pregnant!

[GaryMichaels]

I was going to post this on my other thread but I noticed Butterfly Woman has locked the thread for me while I have been away.

My wife and I made love for the first time on the weekend and while I don’t feel comfortable sharing any sexually explicit details on a forum I will say it was amazing and worth the wait. I was very gentle with her and I probably asked her at least a dozen times if she was alright or if she wanted us to stop but she didn’t. Although I wanted us to make love on our honeymoon it wasn’t planned and I didn’t have any high expectations of it happening either. We have tried numerous times over the years to no avail but it was like everything fell into place when we were making out and it was the right time.

It was my first time so I was nervous too but I thought about how much I loved this woman and how nervous she must have been too and it calmed my nerves. I wanted it to be special for her too and after we had finished she told me it was and it was everything she had hoped it would be. We made love again on Tuesday and both times were late at night when our daughter was asleep and we fell asleep holding each other like we usually do but it felt different. Hailey and I decided a few weeks ago when we finally did it I wouldn’t use protection and she did a pregnancy test this week and she told me she was pregnant. I couldn’t be happier and this is the best news she has ever told me

I have wanted Hailey to have a baby for a few years now and while we have Courtney who I love as my own a part of me has always felt like it wasn’t the same as having a biological kid which Hailey is going to have now. My wife has been a wonderful mother to Courtney and she wants to have two more kids so unless she has twins we will be trying again for another baby in a few years time. My question is how do I help her prepare for this? I want to be as supportive as I can during pregnancy and be the perfect husband. We haven’t told anybody apart from our daughter that she is pregnant because Hailey wants it to be a big surprise for our family and friends on Christmas which I will admit is difficult because I want to tell everybody.

[Criseyde]

Congratulations, Gary.

I don't have any good advice for you, but I'm glad all this has come out so well.

I thought you might be interested to know that the forum will be closing down soon. The HUGE thread about it is here: Angela banned?

It'll probably still be here for a few more days, though, so hopefully people can still help you.

[GaryMichaels]

Okay. Thanks for lettig me know Chriseyde. I just recieved a pm from another member about it and it will be a shame to see it go as I have been enjoying posting on here and met some great people.

[Curious cat]

Oh wow that is awesome Gazza, congratulations to you both, such wonderful news.

I think most things you both will pick up and deal with along the way. The only thing that immediately springs to mind is to make sure you get a GP to refer you to an Obstetrician asap (if that's what you are going for ... or even a midwife) as the good ones can be fully booked for up to a year.

[GaryMichaels]

Originally Posted by Curious cat

Oh wow that is awesome Gazza, congratulations to you both, such wonderful news.

I think most things you both will pick up and deal with along the way. The only thing that immediately springs to mind is to make sure you get a GP to refer you to an Obstetrician asap (if that's what you are going for ... or even a midwife) as the good ones can be fully booked for up to a year.

Thanks. I will. I don't have any experience with pregnant women or pregnancy so I'm not sure what to expect and since I can't tell anybody we know until Christmas you guys are the first to know.

[cacheborn]

Hey congratulations! Glad it worked out well for you.

[Curious cat]

You will receive alot of useful information from medical professionals to guide you through pregnancy with your wife, but here are some suggestions for you if you'd like to err on the side of caution (though I'm sure Hailey would already be familiar with these):

* Avoid salad in restaurants as some don't wash their lettuce (for risk of listeria, a bacteria that can be harmful to the unborn baby)
* Some types of fish (mercury)
* Handling cat faeces
* Careful of deli meats (smoked ham, salami etc should be zapped in the microwave or cooked thoroughly to avoid listeria)
* If Hailey hasn't already, then prenatal vitamins would be very good

I'm sorry it's been over a year since I've had my child, so I've forgotten alot. I'd like to also suggest joining a pregnancy forum, as the members in those types of forums would be all over this stuff.

[MessyJenny]

Congratulations to you and your wife Gary

I'm so happy everything is working out for you

[The Cloud]

Congratulations on all you've overcome. A victory for love, patience, and compassion.