Everything I wanted to say to you

[Criseyde]

Dear lovely people of S&R, as one of the former mods of this forum, I read many of your threads, and even when I was quiet, I thought about how I could help you with your struggles. This is basically what I came up with. I never really found a good time to post this, so here it is now.

Love, acceptance, and understanding are the keys to great relationships. When one of these things is missing, the relationship deteriorates. In my life, whenever I've felt stressed about any kind of relationship or social situation, it's because one of these wasn't working well -- understanding has been my biggest hurdle, but acceptance has been there for me as well. For you, it may be different.

If you don't feel likeable, check to see whether you're approaching people with positive regard and compassion. When I regard people positively, even if I don't say anything or actively compliment them, the relationship tends to flourish. And everyone has their struggles. Try to empathize with those, even if they initially seem absurd to you -- everyone is different, and from that person's perspective, I promise, it's not small or silly.

Be forgiving. People change.

I can't think of anything else right now, but I'll surely update this thread if I do. Thank you all for sharing so much here. I've made so many wonderful friends, and I'm very grateful. And if you have anything to add, please feel free to do so.

Lots of love!

[Beingist]

Starting to feel like we're all gonna be writing in each others' yearbooks for the next couple of days

Anyway, Cris, I'll most definitely miss your incredibly sober judgment on all matters, regardless of how controversial. It's been a great pleasure to read your posts, however infrequent they've been--it shows a great deal of character to remain quiet and speak your peace concisely and sagaciously. I'll miss that, indeed.

Otherwise, I can't help but ask you about your current avatar. I've also secretly wondered what it is, and why it so fascinates me (because I really don't know ).

[Criseyde]

Thank you!

My avatar is Radha and Krishna... Radha Krishna : A Divine Love

[Beingist]

Originally Posted by Criseyde

Thank you!

My avatar is Radha and Krishna... Radha Krishna : A Divine Love

Now, see, I would have known that, if one of them were blue.

[Criseyde]

Originally Posted by Beingist

Now, see, I would have known that, if one of them were blue.

Both of them are blue on my screen.

[Beingist]

Originally Posted by Criseyde

Both of them are blue on my screen.

Funny. Pretty much everything on my screen (here) is blue, except those two images.

Oh, and why are images of Krshna blue, anyway? What does that represent?

[Criseyde]

Originally Posted by Beingist

Funny. Pretty much everything on my screen (here) is blue, except those two images.

Oh, and why are images of Krshna blue, anyway? What does that represent?

Many Hindu gods are blue. It's traditional to depict them that way, so you know they're gods and not humans. I think it's because blue is the color of the sky, which shows their transcendental nature.

[FelineNostalgia]

Aw lovely post <3

[Beingist]

Originally Posted by Criseyde

Many Hindu gods are blue. It's traditional to depict them that way, so you know they're gods and not humans. I think it's because blue is the color of the sky, which shows their transcendental nature.

Ah, so.

Now, see, you've just answered a question I've had for probably a dozen years. Thank you.

And I still think your av is way cool, even though they're not blue on my screen. I'm almost embarassed to say that such is something I'd like to hang on my wall, despite not being into Krshna.

[Cochonette]

I dig it. But I would add "connection." Or "intimacy." This is a problem for me. I have a hard time feeling connected to people. I have found this problem in my dating experiences so far. Sometimes I'll feel very connected, but other times frustratingly disconnected. It's been my tendency thus far to see the other person or the relationship itself as the source of the problem... that I found them boring sometimes or something. But I think it's more my own need to learn to enjoy EVERY moment and not just when they're giving me a lot of input. It's about bringing your own joy to the relationship in order to stay feeling connected to the person instead of losing your sense of intimacy due to frustration. Then again, I don't hear anyone else complain of this issue... is it because the women I've been dating are just ones I've been less compatible with, or am I just exceptionally neurotic and disconnected?

It also seems like love, acceptance, understanding, and connection all reinforce one another because they're all really one and the same. To love and accept, you must understand. To accept and connect, you must love. And so on...

[Million Dollar Man]

Goodbye everyone! I will try to join some sites where you all post at!

Well farewell my friends!! but if you gotta go, go with a smile!!
Goobye to you all! Wish you all the best! Maybe I will join some of your sites!
I just watched one movie that changed my whole out look on life!! it was amazing!!

But if you gotta go go with a smile! This is s pretty funny video!! Farewell my friends!
Pepe The Box Clown Episode 2 - YouTube


See you at the Cross Roads! I love you all even though I never met you!!!

Let us drink fine wine and rejoice!!!

Those are some wonderful words of Wisdom!!! keep up the wonderful work my friend!!