Break-ups : How do YOU deal?

[Cochonette]

How do you deal with a break-up, particularly when you didn't want to - the other person did?

Do you shut the person totally out of your life to get over them? Do you try to remain friends, but see each other a lot less frequently? Do you try to still see them as just friends? Does it make it easier if you still spent a frequent (thought not as frequent) amount of time with them as friends?

I am trying to figure out how to make this easier. I really hate the idea of not having her in my life. I feel like it would make it easier to spend time with her and get used to having her just as a friend. But I never hear this given as advice... I only hear "do whatever you need to do to forget about her." Part of the problem is that she obviously isn't TRYING to hang out with me anymore, even as a friend, although she told me that she's there any time I need to talk. So I'm not sure how comfortable she is with me trying to spend time with her. Or how frequently I would try.