The Woman I LOVE, and her FEAR

[Philemon]

I love this woman. I'm talking deep, romantic, all out, Shakespearean, love.

One big problem: FEAR

At least that's what I think the problem is.

For example:

All day yesterday we exchanged love and excitement about getting to be together that night. Lots of bliss. On my way there, almost arrived, I receive a text "I think I should be by myself tonight. I'm sorry."

So I call (This is a cycle by the way)

A conversation ensues where I just want her to communicate with me and she keeps telling me she's afraid. I'm confused how the drastic shift occurred -- all day love and excitement, now depression, sadness, fear.

I gently tug on the teeth of her sadness and depression and finally get her to tell me what's bothering her. Then I say, "OK, thanks for letting me know. Let me help with that."

But no, that's not it. I get off the phone. Negative texts start flying at me. I think her fear makes her delusional. I can't get her to see.

I teach this stuff to people, show them all the research and thoughtful writing on it, but I can't seem to help the woman I love, and in turn help our relationship. I think it's killing us.

What to do?