|12-21-2011, 02:51 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Upstate New York
3rd on The List
Is it my imagination or am I noticing that when dating a divorcee with kids, the guy is lucky if he ends-up 3rd in the extended family's pecking order, behind the step-kids and the step-pets.
Shouldn't that be a huge disincentive to enter into a contract when that's the reality, assuming you can pick-up on it beforehand?
I've heard some guys say that they wouldn't want a lady who doesn't put her kids first in a re-marriage. For them it's a sign that she's a good woman. And, that's OK. But to enter into a contract under those terms? I don't know about that.
What do you think?
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|12-21-2011, 11:39 AM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Down the infinite rabbit hole
I'm not dating, nor am I divorced (well, I have been divorced, but I'm happily married now). I can say that any man who would expect me to put my children second in order to be with him is not a man I would want to be with.
|12-21-2011, 01:41 PM||#6 (permalink)|
Join Date: Apr 2008
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|12-21-2011, 02:27 PM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Jacksonville, FL
Yup. I think that's how it works most of the time.
Of course, part of the plan of taking care of the kids could be roping in additional income through marriage. I guess it would be a balancing act to determine what's needed to keep the income flowing.
It would be a good idea to know yourself well enough to determine if you can live with being 3rd on the list and what specifically that looks like. Some things I could live with, some not.
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