Why can't I feelt the magic in love anymore? Where is a soulmate??

[Million Dollar Man]

I don't know this is so strange. I once felt a deep love, once thought I had met the one I searched for my whole life.

But now again I am alone. But I am happy with my life, more self empowered and intelligent. I go after my goals and dreams and make them happen. I starting going out a lot with friends.... Feel the positive energy inside me.

But I don't know it;s like every woman I met, there is not magic between us. So either we stop talking... or i just lose interest very fast.

It might sounds strange But I can't go for a love unless it feels like a story book love.
And my last love was even more magical than a story book love...

I guess knowing I won't even find anything close to that again..
I get bored with who ever i am talking to so fast.. because there is no
deep love or romance there.

I can be magical and romantic on my own I guess... most women
these days don't like to appreciate poems.. songs.. of other magical surprises anymore it seems.. they only like looks and or money..
But it's hard to find any soul connection with anyone....

If there any magic and deep love left anymore?
Or is it all about money.. and looking good..
but yet being am empty shell???

What ever happened to romance and magic.... ?

I think I was born in the wrong age in time....
Let me know what you think...
and let us drink and rejoice!! LOL

[Mondrian]

Yes, well, I'm talking about something similar in my thread on real intimacy.

I can appreciate what you're saying to some extent. What happened to that deep love you had? Did it fade, change, turn out not to be so deep?

I empathise to some extent with your failing looking for that magical love. And I like that you are looking for that. Looking for something, someone that is more than superficial connection and self-interest.

Is this possible?

[Philemon]

I have one of those magical loves for now, but knowing the fluctuation of this universe, and knowing you're feeling, I tip my glass.

These words once helped me,

"Once I release the wish is when I receive"

Best Love and Wishes

[persephonevii]

I still think that's my 'problem' too. A fixation to re-create or find another One True Love. My first love was very much story book love. Although it wasn't love at first sight, there was an attraction right from the moment we met. It wasn't big or anything, but it was there and as him and me started to know each other more over a few weeks... then it turned into LUUURVVEEE baby!

There was no effort to make it work, we just fell in love so quickly and happily. We really adored each other and if we could of, spent all of our time together.

The relationship came to an end and life moved on.

Since that time (bar one random encounter) I've never felt that connection to another man. Aforementioned encounter actually was the straw that broke my most recent relationship's back. Nothing actually happened, I went to a corner shop to get some food for dinner and the boy over the counter was, well... it was mesmerizing. I hadn't felt like that since my first love and it made me question my current relationship at the time.

I had never felt like for my current bf. Although I had grown to deeply love and care for him, it bugged me I had never felt that same tingle I felt with my first love. I kept questioning our relationship and whether it was valid based on the fact I was supposed to feel a certain 'something'. I felt petty and guilty, but doubts kept eating away at me until that final encounter at the shop and quite soon after that we broke up.

So the point of my rather long drawn-out romantic story is yes, there are people out there like me who feel as you feel... but also wonder if such love actually exists or was it just some lucky fluke? Or that it's so rare anyway, it's better to settle down than risk becoming some old maid holding out that for one in a million chance of finding that sort of love again? But even though I know logically it might be worth more to settle down and be content, my heart would never be quite happy settling with a relationship that wasn't 'perfect' and it would always be looking outside for that 'perfect' anyway.

But does perfect actually exist?

[Million Dollar Man]

I understand what you mean. Perfect does not exist...
but deep love and passion and soul mate love.. probably exists...

I know I am not perfect.. But I know what it feels like when two souls
feel deep love for each other.
Just now I feel as if I won't find that..

I sometimes do dream of love.. I see someone in my dream..
we are together and happy..
but the feelings are not strong like the dream I had years ago..
before I met her...


I don't look so much into my dreams... but I am not sure.

[C33]

Hear, hear!

You cannot unfeel something. If you have experienced a true, magical, soul connection it's not possible to unfeel it and decide it was just a figment of your imagination, or you were just young and naive,though many people do convince themselves that magical love is naive and reserved for the young.

I am reading a wonderful book called the Psychology of Romantic Love by Nathaniel Branden. The premise is that true romantic love does exists and is not a delusion.

I see people all around in "relationships" or dating, and I don't see any magic in their couplings. I stay on the sidewalk and observe.

Whenever a guy comes up to me and whips out his social creds and flexes his muscles, I just laugh because I know that as soon as he knows how old I am, he's going to run away the opposite direction. He just wants to match demographics and lifestyles...so as not to be alone in front of the 8 o'clock news or hold hands checking our respective Iphones...Insert emoticon with eyes rolling as far back as possible.

[Million Dollar Man]

I know what you mean... Or people show off money or try to brag about things. Yet have no deep feelings or substance sometimes!

LOL that's funny about the flexing of muscles. I think looking deeply in each others eyes.. then feeling their soul... that's when you know it's love.. or the start of love.

I once felt it.. had it.. but for reason had to leave. It made me sad.. but I felt so alive back then.

Now I am feeling happy and free in my soul... my mind is a lot more clear. Even though I am sad me and her were not together forever. I now know the love I felt was always inside me.. it was a reflection of me...

Yes you are right I have seen many couples who have no connection or magic... they are just there like you said for money or looks.. or make their families happy.
But yes... love is deep within all of us I believe...

Yes I think it's true. LOL Funny how you talked about age..
I am not so old. but yet not super young...
but people think I am very young...
Why do they run away because of age?
I think age difference is OK.
My last love.. the one I thought was my soul mate..
she was much older..
but we connected like I had with no one ever before....
She didn't care about money... or fame...etc...
Neither did I.. she was very beautiful..
but she has a magical heart and soul also...

I wonder how easy it is to fall in love these days..
maybe it's like it is in Las Vegas all by chance...

[srikant]

whatever happened to chivalry, whatever happened to treating girls like princesses. Ah but it does exist, i have seen that in some of my friends, couples totaly into each other without time for anything else. Maybe i am just like Ted appreciating Marshall and Lily and waiting for the one so that i can tell my kids story of how i met their mother :P