I want to take full responsibility for my life

[quiethumir]

Ok I'm a young adult, still living in my parent's house. Now I want to do what I want and take full responsibility for my life.

I told my mom me and my friend are going to an orientation on marketing, then she started stating reasons why I shouldn't go. Then I let her know that it's my life and she's not responsible for me. Then she just got more pissed.

I want to be independent and move out of the house, not because I don't love my family, I do. I just know this will be the best thing for me.

Do you guys have any suggestions or advice? What do you think?

[Bradshaw]

Sounds familiar. Note that I've already moved out, and I can recognize your family's resistance to it, as my family was a lot like that as well. They got over it once they saw I was much happier and better off.

All I can say is this, from one young adult who has been where you are to another:

Do everything you can do move out. Go forth with all your might and strength. Let nothing, and I mean nothing stop you. Use all your internal power, all your inner resources, and make it happen using every inch of your soul. This is now your #1 priority, and must absolutely make sure that you make this happen. Even if your entire family turns against you, you know that this is the right thing to do and so you will empower yourself every single day in order to make this happen.

You know that this is what is best for you. Let nothing stop you. Go forth!

[Asten]

Always, always, always do it anyway.

I'm also a young adult still living with my parents, because up until recently I had specific things to deal with that made living here highly advantageous.

But, I resisted. Constantly. I pushed what I was "allowed" to do and asserted my independence. It took time, but now I can do what I want, when I want (it helps that those things never involve me coming home drunk or stoned ).

If you want it, do it. People will always give you a hundred reasons why you shouldn't do something that's good for you. Let them, but don't let it stop you.

Now, as Bradshaw said, if you want freedom and responsibility above all else, by all means, move out! It's absolutely worth it. If that had been what I valued during this period of my life, I would've been out of here and found anything I could to do it.

And yes, your parents will hate you for it for a while. Tough cookies. They have to deal with it eventually.

[quiethumir]

Thanks guys for your input. Means a lot. You guys confirmed what my heart was telling me.

I appreciate it.