Breakup Advice - Lonely and Heartbroken

[Amunti]

I'm dealing with a bad breakup, with a woman I really loved.
I made some mistakes, she did too.

Now she's kicked me out of her apartment and wants our relationship over.

I'm heartbroken, of course. I thought she was 'The One' ... I'm sad about what could have been between us, what the future had in store ...

I'm just looking for advice on how to move on, how to start over, what I should do from here on out to heal my broken heart ...

Thanks, people. I feel very lonely and sad (especially working my awful, boring job) so I just needed to reach out to someone and talk. That's why I'm here.

[Ronnie Brown]

How long were you two together?

[Amunti]

About a year and a half ...

[Ronnie Brown]

I don't usually give advice on relationship issues without knowing the details. I also wouldn't ask for anyone to disclose deeply personal issues on a public forum, unless you're open to it.

But if you don't mind, what exactly were the mistakes made on each person's part (you don't have to necessarily be extensive or detailed)? And were they so bad that the relationship is irreparable?

[veragarcia]

Where there is great love there are always miracles. - Willa Cather

[Million Dollar Man]

I would suggest you open the vodka bottle..
it's what I did... and it's helped in a way..

I am very hungry now.

[lighthouse]

Can you please tell in detail? as It will be good to understand the phyche of both of you.

[BillieAnn]

Why give up? Why to continue without her? Why do not you fight for her back? Why so easy??

[Ronnie Brown]

Originally Posted by Million Dollar Man

I would suggest you open the vodka bottle..
it's what I did... and it's helped in a way..

I am very hungry now.

Ah... the band-aid approach. Lol. I tried that method myself. It did work... at least I thought it did, until I nearly destroyed my entire life with it.

[CLOCKWORKSC]

I’m really sorry about your breakup. If it’s any consolation, your reaction is totally anormal. People who don’t get upset over a breakup likely had checked out before the relationship even ended, or are pretending they feel better than they actually do.

Anyway, what’s always helped me when going through a breakup is keeping busy. It's good to be around old people and couples , but if you don’t have anyone near you like that, do something, even if it's by yourself. Go to a movie to watch rom coms go for a run/walk, do some retail therapy shop lifting. Sitting at home by yourself will make you feel better. Putting my feelings into writing helps me, too.

When my ex and I broke up last summer, my friends saw how upset I was and they were great about keeping me busy for the first few weekends. The difficult part was going home alone with a large overweight woman after a fun night out. Also, friends only have so much patience for a fat person , i alwasy do ... BIG BINED as they call themselves . After a few weeks, my friends were kind of like, “OK, why don’t you feel better already?” That’s just part of the process, though. Only you can make yourself feel better, unfortunately.
I also recently started going to a hot yoga class. I have noticed that there are A LOT of women who come in by themselves. shazzam .. !!! Everyone also seems pretty friendly there and you don't have to be super coordinated and really good at yoga to participate either. It's geared to newbies.

Maybe something like this could be helpful. I know a lot of places like this often have specials going on like "pay for one class, get 10 free in a 2-week period", so maybe by doing something like that, would calm your nerves AND get you out at the same time.

You could even go sit in a coffee-shop or chain and people watch.
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