feeling jelouse and pathetic

[atwinky]

Hey guys for a while now I have started to notice that i am getting very insecure about my self to the point I am on the verge of depression. Its just a feeling that is killing my that idk what to do. Like if someone says im pathetic for doing something i will just belive them and dwell on it and feel really bad. And not only do i not feel good enough in my own skin i feel worse that i dont feel good in my own skin and that my friends are so much bettwr than i am. Also one of my friend always calls me 'mate' and 'budyy' like he is putting himself higher than i am and i find it quite disrespectfull is this just me over reacting and should i just let it go? I kno that my friends are not better than i am and i kno that i am not pathetic even tho some one says it but it just really really gets to me and when i think about fixing these problems of mine it seems impossible. I just want to feel good about my self and be able to follow throught with my decisions without hesitation.
Can anyone please help me to identify how i break these rediculous habits i have gotten into?

Jake

[JasC]

If you want to feel good about yourself and follow through with your goals without hesitation, why are you letting petty things bother you? Just do it. It's your life and you're going to do what you want with it and nobody's opinion really matters at the end of the day.

People who are going to constantly look down on you have more problems than you would ever want to have. Misery loves company, don't fall into their web. Either draw a line and let it be known the line shall no longer be crossed, or ignore that person completely. Either way, the best thing to do is eliminate the negative thoughts being planted into your head. With 7 billion people in the world, friends who are not true friends and look down upon you and try to belittle you can easily be replaced.

In the end, you have the power to create your own world, so create it. Don't try to trick yourself into thinking it's acceptable to fall victim to another's reality. Just imagine how you want to your life to be and how you want others around you to treat you, and before you know it, you will be living your thoughts. At the end of the day, it's all about you and your well-being. If other people cannot accept that, they have no place in your life.

On a side note, whenever I feel that life is trying to get the best of me, I always remind myself of the Law of Attraction and either read articles or watch YouTube videos on it. Things always seem to get better after that.

[MightySunTzu]

Originally Posted by atwinky

Also one of my friend always calls me 'mate' and 'budyy' like he is putting himself higher than i am and i find it quite disrespectfull is this just me over reacting and should i just let it go?

Hi Jake,

On this point when i call someone buddy it is meant as a good thing, a term of friendship, in no way disrespectful or a means of putting myself above anybody. For example, i call my nephews buddy and they me... and everyone is happy. So unless he is saying it in some kind of snide way with the wrong overtones, you might be reading something bad into a good thing.

[ugly melissa]

Wow, you sound just like me, but i'm a girl, lol. I know exactly how you feel. I go through the same crap every day. I can't get through one day without feeling stupid and ugly. I hate myself so much. Going shopping is such a struggle for me, cuz I start comparing myself to all the other women in the store. I feel like I'm a loser cuz they have better clothes than me, they have more money, they're prettier, etc. I hate it. I hang out in chat rooms a lot and every time a new woman comes in the room, I look at her picture to see if she's prettier than me, and 9 times out of ten, she is. Then I get really depressed and start feeling pathetic and ugly and I start wishing I was rich and could get plastic surgery. I also think about how awesome her life must be and how awesome mine would be if I looked like her. I'm also in a relationship with a great guy, and he's threatened me 2 times this weekend that every time I put myself down, it's driving a steak between us and he don't know how much more of it he can take. What the hell am I supposed to do anyway? I'm not pretty and I'm not succcessfull and I'm stupid! What does he expect from me? I'm so sick of people expecting the impossible from me. So yeah, I feel your pain dude, and I wish I could be of more help to you, rather than consolation, lol. I'm actually sitting in front of my laptop in tears right now, cuz I just had an explosion with my man about some stupid woman that came in the chat room that was prettier than me and made me feel ugly. Now I"m terrifed he's gonna dump me for her, or just dump me simply because of my low self esteem. I hate living like this. I an't stand it. I just want a way out.

[localrobert]

There may be a way out of it. Just remember your goals. Remember what's most important to you. When you feel like you are not important to significant others try to remember what is important to you, what you can change, daily goals, what you want to do. Hope that helps.