Was dating a girl from Craigslist, she ends up being a psycho and wants me dead

[tedjrrko]

Ok, this may be long but it needs to be said. I have made the worse mistake in my life. I have always had bad luck with mean, gameplaying, cheating, psycho women and at the age of 25 I have been involved with the worst woman of them all, and she is someone I havent even met yet ( we met thru business ) and somehow we ended up talking and talking long story short fell in love over the phone ( as crazy as it sounds )

Now, we kept this on for 12 months I have been helping her with money, even sacrificing my own survival money to help her pay her bills and make sure she had food etc. Even went as far as selling my laptops and game systems. Im a good person and dont mind doing things like that, but of course there will be people to take advantage of that especially women. Well here is the bad thing.

She can be a nice person sometimes, but she has some very bad ways about her. She gets mad over the smallest things, plays little games, screams and snaps on the phone and cusses me out. She has hacked into my emails and read my business from previous relationships, found out about my foot fetish which I didnt want her knowing about and alot of other emails. She called me a freak and has used all of this info against me. She even went as far as posting up my info on CL and my pictures and said bad things about me when she was mad at me. She has also called me ugly, said I wasnt man enough to be with her, said she hopes I would die so that she can spit on my grave, and she also has said bad things about someone close to me which is my grandmother who passed away a few years ago, just to get under my skin. I tell her the way she treats me is abusive, and that I want her to stop and she ignores it and says if you dont like it you can leave. She has broken up with me at least 60 times over the phone, around 1-2 times a week. Everytime we fight its usually me going to her. She says she is used to dating men who have money ( which I really dont ) but she made an exception for me and claims to love me very much. Her ex boyfriends are always contacting her as well, but she says she doesnt give them any attention. Of course she is spoiled, very attractive and all the rest.

Now she is telling me she wants me to kill myself, and doesnt care what happens to me. I said you know what ***** I will, and hope you die too. Of course she responded saying she is going to post all of my info and pictures all over CL and backpage. I really made a mistake trusting this woman, she pretended to be different from all the others and she really picked me up when I was down in the beginning, all for this. 12 months of drama. I actually will go thru with this, as I know I will NEVER find a good woman here in america. All psychos and im tired of it. We were supposed to be together at the end of the year.

I was abused growing up by my parents. But have always been a good person and try to help others out that are in need. She said she is also going to make a website and put all of my pictures up, emails, texts and say bad things about me. She already has ads on CL with my pictures up right now.

[IvyW]

okay first of all not all of us are that crazy...

Change your number! block every communication you have with this ♥♥♥♥♥. She is abusive & its not right! if she posts all your ♥♥♥♥ up on cl then report her!

just stop talking to her! act as if she no longer exist and move on with your life.

[SireneB]

Report her posts and don't engage with her at all anymore. No interactions. Period.

Hopefully this has been a learning experience for you.

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by tedjrrko

if you dont like it you can leave.

This.

Leave. Leave now.

Then, work on yourself to have a higher self esteem so that you will in the future only fall for girls who are actually sane.

Only then, go and date again.

[rei]

Yes, leave and don't look back. Sandra's advice is spot on here.

[tatemae]

Report the impersonation to craigslist -- by posting to craigslist they agreed that:

Originally Posted by craigslist

1. if craigslist believes that you impersonated someone by posting an ad in their name, or with their contact information, without their explicit consent, you authorize craigslist to release any and all information about you to the victim, and
2. if craigslist's actual damages cannot be reasonably determined in a court of law, you agree that you will pay craigslist liquidated damages of $1,000 for each such violation of our Terms of Use

[Ceoarob]

never mind.

gl, hf.

[BillyTheAdult]

I would consider talking to a lawyer. I don't know what they will tell you, but I think there is probably more than just violation of Craigslist terms going on here. Just google free legal resources for your area and see what you come up with. Good luck.

[Partaker]

Originally Posted by tedjrrko

She has broken up with me at least 60 times over the phone, around 1-2 times a week. Everytime we fight its usually me going to her.

So you initiate contact after you two break up and stop talking?

If so, stop doing that and ignore any contact she makes with you. I would call my phone company and have her number blocked from calling or texting you.. they can do this for free.

You will have abusive and psycho relationships as long as you continue to put up with them. Demand a clear change from her or cut ties for good. (and i think in this case the relationship has passed the point of talking about change and its really not worth it)

be strong and good luck

[awdye]

Originally Posted by tedjrrko

I was abused growing up by my parents. But have always been a good person and try to help others out that are in need.

I read this as...

- I learned that abusive relationships are what love is about.
- The part that I'm most comfortable with is the "victim/rescuer" role.

Find a good counselor. You've got some DEEP wounds that need to be looked at. Otherwise, you'll most likely continue repeating this cycle in one form or another for the rest of your life.

[Andrew Gubb]

Have a good think about why you didn't just stop talking to this woman a long time ago.