Anyone ever felt this way? How to deal with it?

[sexibabidoll]

you are so in love or still attached to an ex partner to a point that you have no desire to be with somebody else at all. for instance, it's not like you made that decision just cause you've been hurt or cause of the fact that you're still in love. i'm saying I accept the fact I need to move on and let go but the thing is how come i'm so numb inside when it comes to pursuing anything with a new guy even though I sometimes find the person very attractive? what does it really mean and how can one overcome it? am I over analyzing things??? Thanks an advance

[AllTogetherNow]

of course! it's perfectly normal...it means you're not yet healed, and you need some time to yourself, to complete your processing of whatever went on in the last relationship, resolve any sadness, hurt feelings, or whatever you have going on inside. i would venture a guess that the "numbness" is on the surface, and it means there are deeper emotions and feelings that you've not permitted to come out yet.

there's nothing wrong with you .... it's not healthy to rush into a new relationship right on the heels of an old one with unresolved 'stuff' hanging around. All you need to do is take some time to be 'with yourself', to relax & give your heart, mind, and emotions a 'break'; let your deeper feelings come out.... face them, then put them to rest..

just be easy on yourself. Roll with it, don't rush it. Let yourself be, enjoy your own company, hang out with friends, do things you love to do that give you good feelings, in support of regaining your own peace, balance and strength. the time will come when you will feel whole again and free inside, and you'll be ready to go into something with a new man.

[sexibabidoll]

The big issue is that it's been almost 2 years now and i still at times finding myself crying over him. i accept the fact that he's gone and i'm ready to move on but my heart won't let me do it. for instance, i can go 3 months without thinking and missing about him and out of nowhere, i find myself crying and losing lots of sleep.

[Million Dollar Man]

This is a very interesting point. I was so numb and cold before I met my love. For years I was in dark seclusion. Then I met her. For a couple years I was happy and flying in clouds. Then she left.. now I am back to being alone and numb inside.

It was just the way things were before I met her. I remember I used to tell her I was so cold inside... somehow she made me feel again.
But I doubt I could ever find that again. As I was always alone and very cold for years even before meeting her... but she showed me love is not real in the end.

Now I don't believe in love at all. I think it's just a nice lie they made up to sell
Valentines day candy.

[sexibabidoll]

I still do believe in love but my thing is I never felt this way before and that's why bothering me the most. I feel scarred and a bit bitter most of the times and I dont like the person i'm becoming. I want my old self back even though I used to always feel alone minus the hurt.

[Ceoarob]

took me 30 seconds to understand your screen name.

sex-is-bad-idall
sexihbab-idoll
sexy-babihdoll

then it finally clicked.

sexybabydoll. gotchu.

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"In every heart, there is a room. A sanctuary safe and strong. To heal the wounds of lovers past, until a new one comes along."

-AR