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Old 12-20-2011, 05:24 PM   #31 (permalink)
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He came to the house the other night and beat me up

I don’t know what to do now

He said I deserve it for the way I have been treating him lately and he told me if I do not take him back he will keep doing it because he loves me and wants me back

I reported him to the police but since he has friends in high places, he was released even though he did not deny the charges.

He tells his friends that I am crazy

Now I realize that he never loved me from the beginning. He portrays himself as the perfect family man to the outside world and the hardworking man who does anything for his family, but it is not true.

I have no money, no job. I'm a stay at home mother, I don't have any resources or family in this country and I don’t know what I should do next

My friend Marcy is staying with us now but she can’t protect us from him
Sorry for my last reply.
I would suggest you is to leave him. Giving chance is another thing. If he is not caring enough about your 9 month old kid plus beating you then please make your own way. It will be hard in such condition as a kid is too small and as a lady you will have to bear a lot. But it is always better to be alone then to be trapped in a wrong relationship. I am again apologizing for my last reply. Leave him, start a new life. Now live for your kid. he/she is your life and nothing will remain for ever. not happy day neither sad days. Move on
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Old 12-22-2011, 03:17 AM   #32 (permalink)
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I'm sorry to hear about what your husband has been doing to you Jenny. He sounds like a prick that could use a few good punches in the head and I hope you contacted your local police and reported him. I think blokes that lay their hands on a woman are scumbags and my wife was physically abused and raped when she was younger. She did self defence classes though and wrestling training though so if another bloke tried she could defend herself. I think you should look into doing something like that if your husband keeps going because as you said, you can't rely on your friend forever.

We are currently living in a world full of very disturbed individuals and there are blokes that do what your husband did to you just for fun. I have come across a few of these cases and I still have a red mark underneath my left eye for standing up to a bloke that was getting drunk and abusing his wife after he punched me while I was wearing sunglasses. I worked with the woman for a few weeks and she would come in with red marks on her like you described and when I asked her where she was getting them from she said it was her husband and she wanted to get away from him so I helped her out.

It wasn't the first time I had done something like this and it definitely wasn't the last. It might sound stupid but when I was a kid I wanted to be a super hero so I could save people and when I got older I realised I couldn’t do that but what I could do was help people. I took on blokes twice my side that were picking on women and blokes and sometimes I got beat up badly for doing it but I didn’t care because I was doing the right thing and I made a lot of great friends doing it. I did the same thing to guys that were bullying kids when I was at school and my first girlfriend encouraged me to do it.

The problem is there are not a lot of people that have the courage to do this anymore and now more than ever is the time where women need to learn to protect themselves because there are hundreds of blokes that like to prey on the weak. My wife told me one time the worst thing a woman can do is become dependent on a male for protection because she needs to fight her own battles. Hailey has been training our daughter in self defence just in case something ever happens to her and we are not there to protect her she will be able to defend herself.
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Old 12-22-2011, 04:24 AM   #33 (permalink)
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I read this forum will be closing down this will be my last post

Thank you for all the help you have given me and I wish you all the best
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Old 12-22-2011, 06:36 AM   #34 (permalink)
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I read this forum will be closing down this will be my last post

Thank you for all the help you have given me and I wish you all the best
Good luck missjenny
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Old 12-24-2011, 09:39 AM   #35 (permalink)
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Good luck to you too curious cat on your journeys and God bless.

I thought this forum would be closed now but I just had a peak and it is still open. Has the owner of the forum changed his mind?
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No. The forums will be shut down wihin the day i think, going off his earlier posts today.
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Old 12-24-2011, 10:40 AM   #37 (permalink)
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I guess this is goodbye then
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I guess so. Happy new adventures jenny. I hope you and your baby have an awesome 2012 and with many more wonderful years to follow, i really do
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