Making new friends at (almost) 30

[JeanKitten]

So I have another problem I am dealing with at the same time as my breakup.

Part of the reason I am having such a hard time dealing with it is that I never have anything to distract me from it.

My ex has a large group of friends which is always expanding. They share his interests (music/live shows) and go out all the time.

My friends, on the other hand, I have had since high school. They all have kids and/or are in serious relationships. They don't go out. They will invite me over for dinner or drinks, but I have no single girlfriends to go to bars with or go to shows with. I'm really big into live music and none of them are.

How the hell do you make new friends at this age? I work at a very small company of 5 employees total. The next closest person to me in age is 55 and the oldest is 82. There are no work friend connections. And since I don't go out I don't meet people there either.

I feel like I sit at home and drink wine by myself 90% of the time. And when I do go to shows, its often alone.

Any tips on friend making at this stage of life?

[Danisoov]

Here are a few ideas:

• Join a gym
• Take a gym class yoga, spinning
• Volunteer work (hospital even)
• Dog walking job (make friends at dog park)
• Take group tennis lessons
• Go to wine tasting events
• Take art class, ie pottery or mosiac

I used to invite work friends to my boxing class. Also walked my friends dogs and there were tons of nice, friendly ppl at the dog park. I even went on craigslist looking for friends and met a really cool girl who invited me to house parties, clubs in south beach! Also my mom used to sign me up for volunteer work and I started running into the same faces volunteering. Avg age 30 for that! I met ppl online who needed a tour around my city and invited the person w my friends to karaoke. Make friends at a Spa...... Try try try and SMILE

[Angelique]

Originally Posted by JeanKitten

My friends, on the other hand, I have had since high school. They all have kids and/or are in serious relationships. They don't go out. They will invite me over for dinner or drinks, but I have no single girlfriends to go to bars with or go to shows with. I'm really big into live music and none of them are.

What's stopping you from going out alone?

Your future friends are already at the live music venues. All you have to do is show up.

[wanzulfikri]

Well to start with, make friends with the people in this forum.

Who knows that we'll meet someday.

[James81]

Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup

The nice thing about that site is that it's also tailor-suited to your interests and what you like to do.

And if there is no group in your area, then start one!

[JeanKitten]

Thanks James! That's an awesome resource.

[billionairekid]

Originally Posted by JeanKitten

Thanks James! That's an awesome resource.

yeah, that's a cool website. I've been looking to meet some new people too. I outgrew my friends and actually find myself to be a little more mature than my age group. I'm in my mid 20's and I'd like to be meeting people a little older.

[TonyToneTone]

You're almost 30!?!?! It's too late then

Seriously though, go on Meetup.com and find some interests you like. If you're into the Law of Attraction, write up a list of "My Ideal Friends" and list their qualities and visualize and see yourself with them 1-2 minutes a day. You'll put out a vibe and attract those people to you. It's what I've done in the past.

You could also; go to a spiritual center you like, workout classes, and make a list of activities you like and try them out.

[Kahuna]

I started to build a circle of friends at march (with age 29). And i meet a few dependable people, who aren`t perfect, but some of them were already there, when i needed them. I hope that motivates you a little, though it will take some time, 3 month of active spending with sympathic people.